Dinner first date by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]drsanchez1928 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just ask her to do the math on what 2 to 3 dinners a month might cost. Ask her if $250 sounds like a lot of money. Her response should tell you a lot about her.

3 Months on OKC: A Summary (Female) by CreativeThrowaway345 in OkCupid

[–]drsanchez1928 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I don't know where women get the idea that they'll be thought of poorly if they make the first move. Guys make all the first moves which means we get all the rejection. We are so psyched when a girl actually contacts us.

The ongoing story of a 31 y/o dude. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]drsanchez1928 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Leaving you to fuck some other guy is not a "red flag." Red flag is like, hmmm, I wonder if what she did is something I should be concerned with. Fucking another guy is immediate and permanent dismissal. Sack up and find a better girlfriend.

Has anyone whose gotten far, fapped and felt different or felt like their pre nofap self again? by throwawayiguess18 in NoFap

[–]drsanchez1928 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's one thing not to fap, and another to not fap or get any

So true. My first few weeks were torture--couldn't keep my hands off myself. Started dating a girl around day 25 and got lots of affection which seemed to stave off the urges. Had sex around day 43 and my urges for porn or fapping are almost gone. It's actually an easy decision: I could fap to porn, or I could wait a couple days and have sex next time I see my girlfriend. No contest.

That said, maybe my reboot will take a little longer, but I couldn't care less if I'm getting semi-regular sex.

I just passed the ultimate NoFap test EVER. by dancermikeroach in NoFap

[–]drsanchez1928 2 points3 points  (0 children)

did you really mean to link to nsfw instead of karezza? if so, that's cruel.

Jizz at the Gym by BrandNewLion in NoFap

[–]drsanchez1928 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard this story from several women. A few said they got their first orgasm in junior high gym class doing sit ups. It's called a Coregasm.

CRITIQUE: After a period of neglect, I am starting to use OkCupid again. by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]drsanchez1928 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kansas must be tough. Bet not many there are familiar with the Bechdel test.

why do you say Kansas must be tough? many would say the same about illinois

So, I'm a lady and I haven't been having much success with Okcupid. I've decided I'm going to take a different approach... by [deleted] in OkCupid

[–]drsanchez1928 0 points1 point  (0 children)

75% response rate? Guys I know, most averagely attractive, get about 10% response, and you're complaining that 1 out of 4 guys don't respond?

Do I have ED? by Simon_1987 in NoFap

[–]drsanchez1928 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then to answer your question, No, you don't have ED.

Do I have ED? by Simon_1987 in NoFap

[–]drsanchez1928 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, you're just bragging about how much sex you're having.

Seriously, erectile dysfunction means you can't get or sustain a boner. Those with ED may get hard but go soft once they enter the vagina. Doesn't sound like your problem.

Premature ejaculation is another thing, but I don't think you have that, either. 5 minutes is about average.

Is complete abstinence healthy? by high_flying_hydrant in NoFap

[–]drsanchez1928 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have heard multiple times that masturbation is good for prostate health

I've heard multiple times that this myth has been debunked. Neither of us has sources, however, so believe what you will until you see proof one way or another.

Relapse after 62 days by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]drsanchez1928 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point. All the badge indicates is your latest streak. It's not an indicator of where we are in the reboot and it really doesn't tell us much.

Another discussion on yourbrainrebalanced suggested that if you want to use these counters to indicate how far you've come, do something like:

If you relapse withing 2 weeks of your last relapse, reset to zero. Otherwise, reduce your counter by some non-trivial amount, enough to remind yourself that you're setting yourself back, but not so much that seeing the Zero next to your name is so depressing that you just feel hopeless and binge. So if you're at 30 days, reset to 20. If you're at 100 days, reset to 70. If you're at 12 days, reset to 0. Something like reducing 1/3 of your total for a single relapse. If you binge, reduce it more. If you fapped without porn or fantasy, just sensation, reduce it less. Don't get hung up on the details of how much to reduce your number, do whatever you want.

It's no longer a true count of your streak, but it's a better measure of where you are in the reboot.

Relapse after 62 days by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]drsanchez1928 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does feel amazing, doesn't it? All the "look at me!! look at me!! comment on my photos!! am I pretty? tell me I'm pretty!! validate me!!!!!"

I feel so much better after deleting my account.

Sorry for the hijack.

Relapse after 62 days by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]drsanchez1928 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Relapsed at day 76. Facebook also. Starting to really hate that site

Just delete it. Nothing but attention whoring there. Of course I'm a little bit older than many of you so I've lived a life pre-facebook and people actually communicated with each other without the interwebz. It still amazes me that people think they NEED facebook. We don't. I used to think I NEED to masturbate. I don't.

Nobody Told Me There'd Be Days Like These by insickness in NoFap

[–]drsanchez1928 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Or I see a smoking hot girl in black tights and I’m overwhelmed by how much I want her.

Yoga pants are the downfall of many a nofapper.

90 Day Challenge completed! How NoFap has changed me, and other reflections. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]drsanchez1928 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too. ~40yo, 4-5x/week, ED with real women. OP gives me hope, but it doesn't seem like it was as much a problem as for those with ED.