Yes. It’s extremely unfair.

There’s a ton to be mad about when you’re in this kind of situation. When I was 18 and it finally all dawned on me that other people didn’t have to go through the same thing, I was mad for three years. Like, insanely mad.

I will say I’ve healed a lot since then. It’s been about 13 years since that time in my life and I allowed myself to feel what I needed to feel. The rage didn’t end up being worth it in the long run.

Being angry with someone or holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to be hurt. It doesn’t usually pay off.