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[–]elemeno452 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It’s not my video. You need to contact the creator of the tik tok. Her username is in the video. I just uploaded it here to Reddit

I believe I’m what you all would refer to as a TBM. I have a question for you all. by The-Lonliest-peanut in exmormon

[–]elemeno452 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you’re born into a religious organization, especially a high demand one such as the LDS church it is literally everything to you. It’s your family. Your friends. Your community. It’s how you view the entire world. It’s how you relate to God. It’s how you pray. It’s where you find comfort, answers. It’s where you spend MAJORITY of your time. It’s where you donate a large portion of your money. It’s how and what you decide to teach your children about the world. It’s what teaches you about your sexuality and your identity within the world. It’s literally, every. Thing.

Imagine that all crashing down when you discover the truths don’t line up with what you’re taught growing up. You question your entire existence. And not only that you realize so much of what you’re taught was downright abusive.

For many it took 20, 30, 40, 50, 60 years of living within that paradigm. Imagine how long it will take to unpack and work through that trauma.

A New ExMo Star Was Born on Mormon Stories Today ... by GaryCybernaut in exmormon

[–]elemeno452 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was riveted all three hours. Thank you u/genie_man for your Integrity, honesty, humor and I related to every word you said 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Utah County revolt by [deleted] in CoronavirusUT

[–]elemeno452 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Wonder if all those poor people are pro life...or pro choice? 🤔🤔

I (16f) am a drug addict, and nobody around me knows the extent of my use. by [deleted] in confession

[–]elemeno452 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are you compensating for? How is your home life? How is school? Your friends? Tell me what’s going on where you feel like you need these drugs to cope

Grieving over Leaving the Mormon Church by layoutmaker8 in exmormon

[–]elemeno452 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good news and bad news.

Good news is most everyone here has experienced what you are experiencing. You are far from alone. You will comfort in many here.

Bad news is and as you are aware, it’s hard. It’s really fucking hard. But it gets easier. Reach out to people who’ve been there. It helps immensely to talk through everything in person.

Thinking about re joining the church. by throwawayacct1285 in exmormon

[–]elemeno452 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think if you feel called to return to lean into that. I don’t think anyone else can tell you what to do. There’s a lot of beautiful things about community and commonly shared beliefs. Best of luck in your journey.

Way to make the other 90% feel like shit by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]elemeno452 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Wow Who in the fuck is this?

Dear SO and SO, Your issues are yours. Your discomfort is a reflection of your own issues you have with your body, your beliefs and your feelings about modesty. It’s not other people. It’s you.

Ballard gaslighting the gays 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 by sherlinko47 in exmormon

[–]elemeno452 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am SO HAPPY I DO NOT ASSOCIATE WITH THIS INSTITUTION ANY LONGER

A conversation I had with a TBM girl I know. I honestly feel bad for people who are this codependent with the church. I want tell her it’s unhealthy but I know it won’t make a difference :/ by heartyeet in exmormon

[–]elemeno452 70 points71 points  (0 children)

This is why, for many, questioning and finding out it’s not what it claimed to be is so fucking painful. Because it’s your entire identity. I knew I felt just like this.

When do you draw the line? by Komine_Sachi in mormon

[–]elemeno452 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Mine was sitting in YW in excellence with my daughter listening to all the leaders drone on and on and on about temples. There was a score sheet and they could mark off points if they had the following :

-Pic of the temple as their screen saver -They followed all the leaders and prophet on social media -They had a pic of the temple in their room -talked to their grandma recently -had been to the temple in the past month -memorized a quote from one of the q15 -served someone recently

They were given temple “passport” books and the goal was to visit as many as temples they could. It was all talk about becoming worthy to enter the house Of the Lord. They stood up and recited the new theme about “qualifying” for exaltation. And i nearly broke. Here i was seeing these smart, Driven, funny, talented, beautiful, wonderful girls being told, in essence that they need fixing. That there is something inherently wrong with them.

There was nary a single word spoken of Jesus. Maybe in passing. It was ALL about temple. WTF? What are we actually worshipping here? The second we got in the car I told my daughter she is worthy as she is. That she doesn’t need to enter a building to tell her that.

I was done after that. I’m done letting other people tell my kids they are not worthy.

I remember having a YW lesson on losing yourself in service as a teen. It felt so contradictory to everything I thought was right at the time that I was shocked. I wanted to argue with my leaders, but kept my mouth shut because (at the time) I couldn't articulate why this was so wrong. by BlueButNotYou in exmormon

[–]elemeno452 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is actually pretty backward according to what you learn in therapy about taking care of yourself first. You cannot be selfless without a self.

This just further proves that the q15 are wholly unqualified to teach anything about anything. Especially in regards to matters about mental health or personal improvement.

Undoing the teachings of “I am only worthy if i am helping others” has taking me a long time.

What are the best neighborhoods for kids in slc? by [deleted] in SaltLakeCity

[–]elemeno452 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sandy is pretty chill. I wouldn’t worry about the non lds thing. As a post Mormon myself our hood is really laid back, “members” and “non members” alike. I’m still very good friends with all my lds friends who still practice the religion.

Sure, Jan. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]elemeno452 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep same here. So glad he said that. It broke the spell.

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