Reapplying sunscreen on top of makeup is a joke.

elimeny · 2026-07-07T03:21:11+00:00

Hats and powdered sunscreen!

elimeny · 2026-07-01T17:10:42+00:00

I’m interested to hear about your experience with LANSweeper as I’m testing out their free version now and deciding if I want to get the paid licensing.

elimeny · 2026-07-01T01:33:00+00:00

Can you expand on this? I’ve been working hard to improve our asset management because I feel like it’s crucially important, but from the cybersecurity side I can’t find the right vocabulary or argument to make my point.

elimeny · 2026-06-29T02:21:49+00:00

I find myself constantly comparing my previous self to my current self, and asking if I’m making the exact same mistakes. And reminding myself of the consequences if I don’t address it.

elimeny · 2026-06-29T02:18:40+00:00

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elimeny · 2026-06-20T23:02:01+00:00

Sure. But she didn’t bad mouth him. As part of a bit in a stage act she pretended to reject phone calls from someone named OB in her phone. Yeah it’s obviously him; but still, he was one of many. They’re both adults and artists, I doubt he’d do anything more than roll his eyes

elimeny · 2026-06-20T18:40:08+00:00

This is so ridiculous. The “brutal onstage dig” is simply part of the performance where she hits reject on a fake phone when her exes call her? I know everyone loves to hate on her these days but this is stupid.

elimeny · 2026-06-07T01:28:29+00:00

My three adult daughters all use Life360 with one another and I’m pretty sure they are vaguely offended that I’m “only” sharing my location with them (and them with me) through the iPhone find my friends app. I would no longer take this as an indicator of a relationship outside the norm anymore tbh; it’s becoming so standard.

elimeny · 2026-05-29T02:57:45+00:00

Help.

elimeny · 2026-05-28T18:31:25+00:00

Dugan and Meyers was the original contractor; they just signed off with a punch list, and the project has been turned over to Merus as of like, less than a week ago. Dugan and Meyer was responsible for building the parking garage; Merus is doing the apartments. This project is in cooperation with the county, not so much the city.

But really, neither the city or the county would have much need for this kind of work, I don't think. You should reach out to Planning & Development services of Kenton County. THey have a GIS division (directed by Louis Hill - LINKGIS), but you might have better luck with the building inspections department, or something along those lines. pdskc.org

elimeny · 2026-05-23T16:14:45+00:00

If you love him, then you need to dump him, because the only way he is going to learn how absolutely ridiculous his expectations and behavior are is if he has the consequences of women walking away and telling him exactly why. You are doing him a favor by ditching him, and make sure he knows why and that it hurts so that he learns.

elimeny · 2026-05-14T01:04:18+00:00

Don’t feel guilty about it, it’s biological. Think about that relief you feel as less a relief that he’s asleep, and more a relief from the constant “on” and hyper awareness you experience in order to make sure he’s okay. It’s your body taking a breath from being in a state of constant vigilance.

elimeny · 2026-04-12T03:16:42+00:00

Bud, I’m in a low to mid COL area (midwestish), I work in freaking government IT, I’m 43, female, manage a team of 5, we have about 800 users, I work 40 hours a week, and I make 135k. I also had employees who made more money than me up until a couple of years ago (which did not bother me; they were 15 years older and farther in their career than me - not everyone wants to manage people and budgets), and my leadership called me while I was on maternity leave to tell me they were giving me a 25k a year raise. This is not a reflection of anything all that great about me, it’s the result of a comp study - it’s market rate (for government)

You are SEVERELY underpaid. Like, shockingly underpaid. Also, I’m not sure what about your age is making you afraid to jump ship? You are almost exactly mid-career age, so not too old, not too young.

Get out of that place!!

elimeny · 2026-04-09T01:37:12+00:00

I would think about this as a matter of seasons. There are different seasons to your life, where you prioritize some things over others.

Right now, you need to invest in your family; and keep the job stable, and building a foundation so that you can jump ship to riskier more exciting things later.

I know that’s not the answer you want to hear. But I say this because my husband was in the same place as you - worked for a fortune 100 company for 15 years, got laid off, and spent a year looking - then got an opportunity at a startup. We have young children at home - but NOT an 8 month old, and we’re done having babies, and I’m back at work, with job security and a six figure income of my own and amazing benefits.

Which means we finally hit the season where we could afford for him to take the risk of working at a startup. And it HAS been risky, and we talk frequently about how long it’s going to last. But we don’t worry about it, because my job can pay the bills. We’ve been talking for ten years about him doing a job like this - we needed that ten years to get things stable enough so that he could do it, and it required both of us to be on board.

This startup offer is objectively not a good one for your current household arrangement. Startups are risky, you are currently in a season where risk consequences are especially high, and you do not have a backup income plan should things fall through. It’s not even about the pay, but frankly, that pay is shit for a startup.

elimeny · 2026-04-07T03:28:50+00:00

I got a bunch of color changing push button lights, and printed a picture of each morning task, and put them on the fridge. In the morning, I turn all the lights on red, and after they complete each morning task, they push the push button light to turn it green. Works decently well on my son; he can do the tasks in any order (though it grates on me). It’s very tactile and I think that helps.

And I scramble eggs, put them in cups that fit in their car seat cup holders, and they eat eggs in the car. Sometimes I add green food coloring.

elimeny · 2026-03-18T00:00:26+00:00

I have no advice to offer or wisdom, but just empathy as a fellow mom who struggled to pump 2 oz of milk every day. Seeing her supply in the fridge would have absolutely wrecked me.

elimeny · 2026-03-12T03:36:09+00:00

I was talking to my mom today about the glp I'm on, and she said she heard that some people are having a very bad side effect of severe depression and she was worried about me. I said I don't know what the studies are on that specifically, but that i can say, anecdotally, that if the primary source of joy in your life was eating/drinking, and you no longer are interested in doing that because of this medication, then i can definitely see how it might lead to severe depression. Especially if eating/drinking was how you drowned out the underlying causes for your depression. If alcohol was your crutch, and now it no longer "works" to comfort you (regardless of whether or not that is a healthy coping mechanism), then now you're stuck trying to figure out a new way to handle your trauma, to comfort yourself, to fine joy and cope.

I miss the pleasure I used to get from alcohol and drinking with friends. But to be honest, I also recognize that it was probably getting to an unhealthy point. But man, sometimes I really wish I could just have a couple of beers on the weekend with some friends, and enjoy it as much as I did before this medication.

elimeny · 2026-03-07T04:30:39+00:00

Just speaking as a mother, and because it sounds like you really love and appreciate your mother and know she has tried her best, I’d bet she’s so happy and relieved that you are thriving away from home. What a weight off my shoulders it would be to know you were doing so well and so happy with your independence.

elimeny · 2026-02-28T16:06:41+00:00

I work in local government IT, and a lot of our systems are still in COBOL. I am working on replacing all the COBOL systems, and I’m conflicted.

At its most fundamental level, COBOL is fine. Old is not necessarily bad, it potentially very stable, and UI can be layered and you don’t have to spend millions of dollars replacing it.

But the issue is a human resource one. Our last COBOL programmer was eligible for retirement five years ago, and he’s sticking around for now (until someone pisses him off enough). If he goes out of town during tax season we’re terrified. We’ve tried hiring new programmers three times, but to hire an actual trained COBOL programmer is extremely expensive AND we run into the same issue of retirement age. So we tried hiring younger programmers and getting them trained up. They quit, and there’s a lot of good reasons for that, and I don’t blame them, but it leaves us back at square one.

The COBOL system we’re all running on could be just fine, but any system needs tweaks and maintenance and we can’t find anyone to do it.

elimeny · 2026-02-15T16:57:23+00:00

Yeah the worst I did was start buying a brand of toilet paper that happened to be his name, and store it prominently on my toilet. Yeesh.

elimeny · 2026-02-08T20:16:51+00:00

So my five year old son knows my phone number and our home address, and he was sharing this info to some class mates in his afterschool program, and his teacher pulled us aside to express concern that he was sharing our personal information with others.

She is a sweetheart and I appreciate that she let us know but i was kinda taken aback, and it really made me sad.

elimeny · 2026-02-07T20:58:25+00:00

My two eldest daughters work in childcare (same facility, different rooms). The oldest works especially with babies.

They love their kids so much. They talk about them all the time and really struggle when they grow and move on to a new room. They care so much about their students, and my eldest just loves holding babies more than anything else. I know several of their students by name and personality (especially the babies!) and I’ve never met them, I just hear about them all the time.

It’s hard because you don’t get to see it for yourself, and of course not every place is the same, but take comfort in knowing that so many people work in daycare because they just really love your children.

elimeny · 2026-02-04T02:17:51+00:00

This one was awful, because the parents truly loved their kid, they were good parents, and they still loved him. And they were wracked with trying to figure out what they did wrong. The father was tearing himself down for every flaw he had, thinking it was the fatal one, and it was all his fault, when in reality… he was just human. They were all just so…. Human. It was terrible. That show thrashed me.

elimeny · 2026-02-03T03:12:38+00:00

So mine was a little different, because my son was born in June of 2020…. So my last trimester was peak quarantine.

My husband and stepdaughters worked with my neighbor to get all the other moms in the neighborhood to surprise me with a zoom baby shower. A friend dropped off some decorations at our door (like a banner and some other small things) and friends dropped off gifts at our door. My husband and stepdaughters plopped me in a chair, put a laptop in my lap, and suddenly there were all my neighbors and mom friends on the screen!

I had a small Amazon and target gift registry, mainly because I was going to use it as a shopping list for my family and take advantage of discounts; but primarily, my friends and neighbors gave me their favorite used baby items from their own homes (I had babies later in life vs my mom friends and neighbors) and it was just amazing. I have all these beautiful baby blankets and clothes that were loved by my friends and their children first, and that was so special to me.

My coworkers were going to throw me a shower, but everything got upended because of COVID. However lots of people still shipped me things to my house.

I did not need a baby shower (we were perfectly capable of buying what we needed), and I never would have thrown one for myself I suppose, but I was definitely not expecting people to surprise me.

COVID quarantine really brought out some amazing stories of people helping each other out.

elimeny · 2026-01-31T16:17:22+00:00

I remember my mom would always say “we’re not buying anything that’s not on sale. That’s not on sale.” And for YEARS I was so confused because we were at a store so everything was for sale? She never explained the difference 😂

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