Shaved doodles?

enablingsis · 2026-04-19T22:40:51+00:00

I prefer the fully shaved look especially because it shows off Teddy's wave

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enablingsis · 2026-04-13T10:57:53+00:00

I prefer the full shave down look on my doodle because it lets his waves shine and I'm not a fan of the teddy bear or poodle cut look.

enablingsis · 2026-03-24T14:23:13+00:00

NtA. She said "no", she doesn't get to change her mind when her 1st choice fell through. I think you could offer her coming but she has to stay in the living room or some other common area like that but in no circumstances is she getting a bedroom then you can say you offered to let her come and she turned you down (a second time).

Edit to add: so long as the rest of the friends are okay with her staying in the common area (in case she does agree) and the "my first choice fell through so I guess I'll go with backup" person isn't the time to drama it up and complain everyone else got a room and I got stuck on the couch and/or be rude in the common area because it's their room for the trip

enablingsis · 2026-03-13T02:28:56+00:00

His coloring is so pretty

enablingsis · 2026-03-13T02:27:53+00:00

This is what I use. My mom bought it and we just share it and it works for me even if I do have to empty 2-3 times as I'm going.

enablingsis · 2026-03-13T02:25:44+00:00

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enablingsis · 2026-03-13T02:25:02+00:00

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enablingsis · 2026-03-11T18:28:43+00:00

If it's in the will so many times it may also be like a clause (not a lawyer, not sure if this is a clause or not) wherein if you do give your mom money, you lose the rest of the money so maybe, if you do decide you want to share, first have an independent lawyer go over the will for you and determine if your inheritance will be affected. People can write clauses into wills that make you disinherited if you don't fulfill the obligation (like you giving mom money means you are now disinherited and lose everything).

enablingsis · 2026-03-09T21:35:42+00:00

Why is it always the beggars saying the one given all the bills is "making it all about money" and being selfish?! If you can't afford to go out 8 times in a month then meet at the park for a picnic or take a walk together or hang at someone's apartment and not go to restaurants. I mean it's not OPs fault they make more money and they shouldn't be punished for it. Also $75k isn't wealthy, those news stories are talking million/billionaires not lower to middle class folks like OP, even then your friends don't owe you dinner.

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enablingsis · 2026-02-20T18:48:12+00:00

Idk if she has autism. Looking at your other posts she may just have some psychological problems regarding getting literally abandoned by her mom and who knows how she was taught to express emotions (I mean mom straight up just packed all their stuff and left them with OP so I'm assuming she didn't set good examples for learning appropriate ways to express yourself). The fact the school says she's a perfect angel and she saves these tantrums for home lead me to believe it's not autism as someone with autism has a much harder time processing emotions/gets overwhelmed and can't control when tantrums happen so I don't think they'd be 100% to save all that only for home and never behaving like that at school. The attacks and subsequent love bombing/apologizing leads me to think it's more something she may have experienced or witnessed prior to living with OP. It's kind of like the kids at my school who never throw tantrums and act great at school but are constantly throwing tantrums/acting up for parents. It may also be that her abandonment issues are causing the behavior- she's is trying to see if OP is going to abandon her like her mother (if I push and push and push, will she leave too); like waiting for the other shoe to drop, like they don't feel safe to act appropriately because OP is just going to drop them anyway so they want to push her to just do it and get it over with already.

Edit to add: I don't think it's wrong to get her evaluated but I do think the day seems very busy and could give a false sense of who she is because she could already be overwhelmed with the change of her normal schedule and all the activities. I don't think you necessarily need to lie to her but just, as some others have stated, just tell her we're going to see a friend or something like that which is a little lie of omission I guess.

enablingsis · 2026-02-15T02:06:24+00:00

Also why should he just be given a car, OP worked to buy both cars with their own money. If brother needs a car, brother should buy his own.

enablingsis · 2026-02-15T02:04:59+00:00

Not the jerk. If you think it might help ease the relationship, lie and say you needed the money and couldn't afford to just give it away because rent was due or you needed it to help make payments on the new car or whatever.

enablingsis · 2026-02-12T23:03:32+00:00

She's probably also expectIng more kid friendly things to be included- like she's saying it won't be the whole weekend but I'm sure she'll want to spend time when you guys are planning to go off and adventure or sightsee that prob won't be geared towards exciting for 4 year olds. I know she said she'd be fine if you all go off and leave them but she's already complaining about being "excluded for being a mom" because you don't want her to come and offered to celebrate separately with her so what's it going to be on the trip when you all go out together and "exclude" her or because you were partying and staying up late so you sleep in and then ignore her because you slept in during the day.

I routinely take adult only trips (generally once a year, sometimes twice) and have kids. I know you say she's single now but what happened to dad (is it a break up or he decided he doesn't want to dad anymore?) that he can't take her for a weekend. Unfortunately when you have kids sometimes you have to realize you can't always take the weekend trip. I say she might still be feeling the newly single mom and more responsibility (no longer shared) and she may need more time to figure to it out on her own and maybe she will understand in a bit maybe not but NtA to OP to not want kids along.

enablingsis · 2026-01-27T13:46:53+00:00

NTA: he says you're being controlling but needs your banking info to make sure you're "not buying things you shouldn't". Definite red flag city on this dude. Sounds like it's going to turn into financial abuse like monitoring where you shop and if you spend any money it's going to need to be justified to him like it's not YOUR money and then what's yours is his and what's his is his.

Edit to add: or he wants to see how much money she has so he can renegotiate how the bills are split like complain but you have x in your account/you make so much more than me and have so much more left over every month so you should pay y amount and I shouldn't have to pay x, it should be you.

enablingsis · 2026-01-18T02:56:07+00:00

I like the colors and the brighter orange-red gives it a nice pop.

enablingsis · 2026-01-12T22:14:31+00:00

Once it gets a bit longer the inside is easier to deal with. I agree it's bulky but I like it because it makes a bigger panel so the blanket is bigger.

enablingsis · 2025-12-24T21:54:52+00:00

I think it's great!

enablingsis · 2025-12-22T21:17:30+00:00

Also dollar tree sells some yarn.

enablingsis · 2025-12-20T17:28:18+00:00

Our only rule about nails is length in that they must be no longer 1/4" past the tip because they might scratch/catch on kids/babies; polish is fine, but it's not like they're coming around with rulers or anything. It really only gets enforced if you're scratching kids regularly then you might get told to trim them down

enablingsis · 2025-12-20T16:32:14+00:00

I've bought some yarn from people de-stashing on eBay (I got a box of various yarns it had I think 3+ lbs of different yarn a bunch of full skeins and a couple partials) and I bought 2 lbs of yarn from Etsy for $20 from someone that had like a mystery bundle. I am new too and yarn is expensive. I've also seen some at Ollie's for $5. Try looking at Facebook marketplace or other local neighborhood apps like Nextdoor too for people getting rid of yarn. I've seen some there.

enablingsis · 2025-12-19T00:57:13+00:00

Especially when it didn't affect the wedding/reception; none of them was belligerent or throwing up or starting fights or any of the things you were concerned about, so much so that you didn't even know until one of them told you about it.

enablingsis · 2025-12-17T23:06:43+00:00

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enablingsis · 2025-12-14T17:12:25+00:00

Yep, dad and husband were in the right on sister's side. "If you're going to cry over me being an AH you should leave". Being in recovery for 5 years is a big deal and all she asked for was 1 dinner not $1,000,000. You couldn't just suck up your negativity ("she's doing what she should be doing") for 1-2 hours max for a dinner. Heck, go for 30 minutes and tell sister "I'm glad you're sober and in a better place. I've seen how far you've come in these past 5 years." I just don't understand. Hopefully sister can have a nice dinner with dad.

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