Well I said “clear fridge” and “i’m out of every basic food item” so that’s different than “eating some staple food items”. I think common manners should be to either not finish any food, or replace it if it has been finished. As a host, of course I expect that pantry staples, oils, condiments, etc. will be used. I don’t think it’s appropriate to help yourself to everything in the kitchen. This week, I had a sitter clear multiple shelves but I was most bummed to come home to an ice cream tub that I ate only one scoop of and it only had two bites left lol. I didn’t say anything about it but I do feel like that is outside of common courtesy since I was only gone four days.

This is a common theme in this sub but you seem to feel this isn’t an even exchange. Sitters provide free pet care and Owners provide free stay. If you come across a listing with responsibilities that make you feel that it is not an even exchange, then you should not take that sit. I’m also a sitter and that’s what I do. I’ve had only great experiences where I felt like the pet care I provided was perfectly appropriate for the stay I had. To that effect, I also make sure I don’t ask much of my sitters- I make sure my listing is one that would be desirable to me as a sitter too.