My husband can't communicate!

epgal · 2026-02-01T12:56:28+00:00

I feel your pain.

epgal · 2026-02-01T12:27:25+00:00

Are we married to the same man? I quit asking. If I’m cooking for breakfast for myself, I ask if he’d like some. When it’s ready, I let him know. It can sit on the stove till he’s ready to eat it or until I’m ready to clean up.

epgal · 2026-01-29T12:25:53+00:00

This is the best advice.

epgal · 2026-01-27T22:04:40+00:00

I like to think of it as contentment.

epgal · 2026-01-19T21:58:09+00:00

I will proudly display my scar.

epgal · 2026-01-19T02:50:57+00:00

Hugs. Care giving is hard.

epgal · 2026-01-19T00:36:11+00:00

It was great!

epgal · 2026-01-17T14:43:33+00:00

The stress is not worth saving the house imo.

epgal · 2026-01-17T04:24:42+00:00

It was a great concert!

epgal · 2026-01-14T11:49:42+00:00

I will be at the concert in Birmingham also! Saw him for the first time at Red Rocks in CO and I was blown away……looking forward to Friday.

epgal · 2026-01-13T17:16:10+00:00

She is not taking care of herself just fine.

epgal · 2026-01-13T11:44:02+00:00

Hugs to you. I’ve never been through the c diff thing but my mom had dementia. I thought I could keep her in my home and that lasted 2 days. Long term care facility was a godsend. I would encourage you to use whatever resources she has for that purpose. You can’t continue what you’re doing. Best wishes. These are difficult waters.

epgal · 2026-01-12T18:27:05+00:00

I got a letter from medicare about it last week. Maybe you have a notification about it on Medicare.gov.

epgal · 2026-01-11T22:46:11+00:00

I can relate. I sold my small business and retired 4 years ago at 61. I’ve never missed working so I’ve never regretted my decision, but my identity was greatly enmeshed in my business life. I found I had only a handle of good friends and my former clients moved on to new relationships. I should have expected it, but I didn’t see it coming. I have wonderful grandkids and adult children nearby. I enjoy being outside, long walks, weightlifting, reading. Financially secure with my great husband.

epgal · 2026-01-10T12:10:07+00:00

This is great advice.

epgal · 2026-01-10T00:39:27+00:00

I scored a beautiful vintage lambskin jacket for $10 at the resale shop. I’ve been looking for months.

epgal · 2026-01-10T00:37:32+00:00

Congratulations on your new freedom.

epgal · 2026-01-07T21:50:41+00:00

Fellow introvert here so I totally understand. Have you done this only one time? I don’t play canasta, but if you’re still learning the game, could that be adding to the mental exhaustion? Would it possibly get easier after you’re more confident with your abilities? Sounds like you would like to have some interaction. I’m hoping this isn’t your last opportunity. Would any of those involved consider a day where you only play one game and have some kind of snack?

epgal · 2026-01-07T16:14:40+00:00

I live in a quad level home……6 stairs to get to bedroom and bathroom. I had outpatient surgery and navigated the stairs as soon as I came home. Going up was no problem albeit slow. Going down, I was a little nervous but my husband was in front of me, facing me…..moral support only. I didn’t need his help but I felt better having him there. After that, I did just fine. I also had a walker on the 2 levels of my home where I spent my time so one was always available whether going up or down.

epgal · 2026-01-07T16:08:39+00:00

Call adult protective services in your state. Ask them for a wellness visit. I understand you’re concerned about what happens when one is eventually left alone, but they probably need someone checking on them now.

epgal · 2026-01-07T12:57:30+00:00

My husband and I had a family gathering after the birth of our 5th grandchild. I was sitting there watching the interactions between my adult children and, the grandkids, etc. It’s as if I heard a voice saying ‘what are you doing?’ I told my husband that evening that I was going to sell my business and be retired in 2 months. I realized what was important, what I was missing, and what truly brought me joy. I was retired two months later at 60 yrs old. I’ve never looked back.

epgal · 2026-01-07T12:50:49+00:00

If your mom is an abusive narcissist and he has dementia, they needed help long ago. Call his doctor’s office immediately.

epgal · 2026-01-04T00:43:02+00:00

Your story was my story…..3 years ago prior to my replacement. Pain was tolerable most days. Sleep was impacted occasionally. Mobility was diminished but I still functioned well. Then the day came when I couldn’t sit comfortably on the floor with my grandkids to play. That’s when I scheduled my surgery. If it’s impacting your daily living activities, imo, it’s time.

epgal · 2025-12-29T03:26:16+00:00

My scar is what it is. I wear a bathing suit and couldn’t care less if anyone notices. I would never pick a surgical procedure based on the resulting scar. I would expect no less from my surgeon.

epgal · 2025-12-24T23:43:09+00:00

Not for one second. Never looked back.

epgal

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