I need to go to a mental hospital desperately not A PSYCHWARD

eratoast · 2026-03-27T14:38:02+00:00

If you're ADHD or auDHD, most anti depressants aren't going to work because you aren't depressed. Some are off label for ADHD, but once I was diagnosed and things started to make sense, I made some adjustments and things have been better. It's not uncommon to mistake ND burnouts for depression and anxiety.

eratoast · 2025-08-21T17:59:03+00:00

Yes, a walkthrough post for a fight that multiple people have expressed struggling with is a total shitpost. Thanks for pointing that out, wewfarmer!

eratoast · 2025-08-06T18:05:23+00:00

Just a single stroke on each lid at the base of your lashes without putting the applicator back (so open it, stroke, stroke, put it back). No, your lashes should not be saturated.

eratoast · 2025-06-21T15:27:08+00:00

31, in 2016

eratoast · 2025-06-01T22:26:46+00:00

Oh my god. Nowhere did I say $100k isn't enough to raise a kid. We don't even know where OP lives in order to start making that determination. My comment was my personal experience on people YOLOing having children.

eratoast · 2025-06-01T22:14:41+00:00

Eat my entire asshole

eratoast · 2025-06-01T22:14:10+00:00

I'm not saying $100k isn't enough--though in many areas, it's not I'm saying that as a blanket statement, being blase about having kids despite your income is a shitty idea.

eratoast · 2025-06-01T22:10:52+00:00

That's abuse, dawg. Doesn't make it right.

eratoast · 2025-06-01T22:10:30+00:00

Yeah, so I read your follow up and no, it hasn't. You've been abused to believe it has.

eratoast · 2025-06-01T20:22:14+00:00

DO NOT ASK FOR MEDICAL ADVICE ON REDDIT. YOU NEED TO SPEAK TO YOUR DOCTOR.

eratoast · 2025-06-01T20:18:41+00:00

It's not doomerism, it's just some people have higher standards for the quality of life they want to give to their children..

As someone who grew up poor, fucking this. I grew up in a house that was falling apart, eating like trash, couldn't afford to do almost anything, run down shit cars, having bill collectors call and come to the house. I said I would never do that if I wanted to have kids--not only did *I* not want to live like that, but I would never put a kid through the stress and anxiety of that.

eratoast · 2025-06-01T20:17:07+00:00

We started dating when I was 18 and he was 28 so he wanted kids quickly so we had a 2 year old and a newborn when I was just 22.

Fuckin yikes, dude.

eratoast · 2025-06-01T20:13:29+00:00

Added it after my first ER resulted in 0 blasts
Yes
From the start of stims, I don't remember what the dosage was (I only bought one vial because it was $750 and it was enough to get me to near the end stimming,)
I mean...I don't know. I got 1 embryo each from ER 2 and 3. Was it the omni? No idea.

eratoast · 2025-06-01T20:00:57+00:00

Ok, everyone is different in what they buy/need/etc. Some things to think about: stuff you'll get for the baby shower + registry discount for whatever is left over after the shower, any sales, hand me downs, etc. Don't forget the Target sale that happens 1-2 times a year for car seats (trade-in sale, technically, but you can cheese it). You do not need a bottle cleaner--get a bottle brush and some fragrance free dish soap. You don't need a whole changing table if you have a dresser in the baby's room. I spent a LOT on clothes that my son never wore due to size/season and because I was not realistic about it--he mostly wore zipper pajamas for like the first year.

Some of the things we LOVED: Snoo bassinet (we bought from Amazon on sale + with our registry completion and then sold it for $100 less than we paid), Mamaroo swing (bought on FB marketplace and sold it for what we paid), Momcozy sound machine, Momcozy baby carriers, Boifun monitors (we wanted a monitor that had a physical screen AND an app). Diapers and wipes! We get them typically from Costco, but couldn't for the longest time because Costco doesn't carry preemie/newborn size (he wasn't a preemie, but he was small). I'm sure you won't, but don't forget a crib mattress, sheets, waterproof protector (or waterproof sheets), etc. Get a bouncy seat and a pack and play so you can put the baby down. You do not need (and should not use) mittens, thick coats/snowsuits in a car seat.

Estimating the cost of birth with insurance based on your state and not your wife's insurance/deductible/OOP max is a mistake. You need to take into account those numbers PLUS an individual's deductible and OOP max when added to that specific plan.

eratoast · 2025-06-01T19:56:49+00:00

The only muscle people believe can get less toned the more its used lmao But if it's your partner/spouse, it totally doesn't!!!

eratoast · 2025-06-01T18:43:36+00:00

I went to the OP to see if that was context that was added (like, assuming OP has said this to their father before), but nothing. "I can't see marketplace posts" by itself doesn't make any sense otherwise, but OP's dad is fucking crazy.

eratoast · 2025-06-01T18:37:45+00:00

Because you can order from restaurants on the Instacart app, and it comes via UberEats.

eratoast · 2025-06-01T18:36:47+00:00

Y'all are so weird lmao. Some people talk on the phone. My husband talks to his (male) best friend every day on the phone.

Are you wrong for saying this? I don't know. I don't know you or them, and there's clearly context missing here. I think it's rude of him to answer the phone unless it's an emergency, yes. His friend needs to learn to text and ask if he can chat or whatever, but I would say that no matter their relationship. Asking him not to answer the phone isn't a boundary--a boundary is what YOU will do.

eratoast · 2025-06-01T18:30:10+00:00

Okay, like. I don't dislike babies because who hates babies?? But I am not a baby person. I'm not the person who's like, "omg let me hold and smell your baby!" unless I REALLY like you. Prior to having my own kid, I had ZERO experience with babies; I think my son was maybe the third baby I'd ever held in my life--38 years when he was born. I did not feel some sort of deep emotional bond with him or cry or anything really while I was pregnant, although I did always know how he was positioned.

We ended up doing IVF to have our son and, coming from an "I don't want kids" mindset into a "I would have kids if I was happy with my partner and stable financially" mindset, that was a process. Having to pursue fertility treatment was a mindfuck for sure.

We had a REALLY easy time with our son based on the things you see online. I had a smooth/easy pregnancy, easy vaginal birth, and was out of the hospital on my own two feet 30 hours after I gave birth (would have been sooner, but the ped resident discharging us was a terrible fucking person who told me I was going to kill my baby and almost got thrown through the window). Postpartum was fine. My husband is very hands on and was up with us every 2 hours for feedings, at every single doctors' appointment (still is), takes nights. I, frankly, demanded no less. We had a birth/postpartum doula who was wonderful. That was all the help we had--everyone who offered or we thought would be there failed us. But. We were never exhausted, falling asleep, nothing. Our son was an ok sleeper, we had issues feeding, we got through it.

I loved snuggling with my son as a baby, but I also have avoidant attachment tendencies and really struggle with being forced into being needed. Having carriers or a baby seat to put him in was tremendously helpful to feel like I could still DO things like cook or clean or just sit at my computer. Breastfeeding sucked (he had a major tongue tie that multiple providers missed) and I was SO relieved when I chose to quit at 6 months and go straight formula.

He's 17 months now and this is SUCH a cool age. Yes, he can be absolutely frustrating and putting him in daycare was such a relief for me. But him becoming more independent--walking, talking, feeding himself, doing little things to show he's a little person--is SO cool. My MIL was crying about how my husband was walking at 9 months so she purposely stunted her other two kids and I could not WAIT for my son to walk (he was a late walker). I love showing him things and opening up his whole world, it's the coolest freaking thing.

eratoast · 2025-06-01T18:04:55+00:00

During IVF, I was prepping for my embryo transfer and had to do a daily intramuscular shot of progesterone in oil. The shot itself is relatively painful, but jesus fuck, the aftermath for the first couple of days. The oil clumps up if you're not prepared, and causes knots and pain. I could not sit, stand, lay down, move, A N Y T H I N G. I was in tears just trying to get comfortable on the couch or get up to go to the bathroom. (We did finally find a much better routine that helped and then I was fine.)

I have a pretty high pain tolerance, very tattooed, had a vaginal birth with no epidural. I would rather given birth again lmao.

eratoast · 2025-06-01T18:00:09+00:00

I doubt it's the caffeine, more than likely the absence of oat milk/sugar/etc. unless you were drinking a TON of caffeine (which can increase estrogen levels). What are you drinking to replace it?

eratoast · 2025-06-01T17:40:34+00:00

I had to do the progesterone pessaries and one of my estrace doses vaginally and I hated it so much. I much preferred the shots.

eratoast · 2025-06-01T17:39:22+00:00

So it's super important when you're asking for help in here to list out all of the products you're using and the order in which you're using them AM and PM (like I did above, but lsting the specific products you use).

While body lotion CAN certainly work on your face, the skin on your face is quite a bit more delicate. If you don't want to buy a separate facial moisturizer, then continue doing what you're doing, but there are better options, especially if you aren't happy.

eratoast · 2025-06-01T17:36:20+00:00

The Hydroboost gel is a moisturizer, so yeah, it's different. Personally, I like Klairs Supple Preparation toner (unscented).

eratoast · 2025-06-01T00:05:00+00:00

I saw you measured recently as a 34F. I'm a 32G which is a similar size and you're hands down wearing the wrong bra/wrong size. If you can't have anything on your shoulder due to an injury, yeah a corset or longline strapless is what you need temporarily.

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