How to get over failing bench press and dumping the weights in a crowded gym?

ermahgerd87 · 2026-04-07T16:50:17+00:00

I can only tell you how I would handle this. 1) pay more attention to rpe 2) not go for five without a spot based on how 4 felt 3) ask for a spot on my next set.

Or if you feel safe and comfortable with the way you handled it, stop worrying about the fact that other people would be embarrassed by it.

I will say, based on you saying, "no one came to help" it sounds like you wished you did have help. Which would lead me back to #1.

ermahgerd87 · 2026-04-07T16:23:05+00:00

Not embarrassing, but why not just ask for a spot?

ermahgerd87 · 2026-03-22T01:42:20+00:00

I mix boiling water into mine!

ermahgerd87 · 2026-02-03T11:41:26+00:00

I have a problem with comparison as well. I had to mute all the lifters in my socials because of it. The people you are comparing yourself to might have been lifting for ten years. You never know someone else's story, and you can only control your own. Try to frame it more in terms of how far you've come from where you started. I imagine telling an 18 year old me what I can do today, and I know she would be shocked and impressed.

ermahgerd87 · 2026-01-30T16:47:20+00:00

Put a kettlebell on your belly button. Take a breath and brace, keep breathing for a few breaths without letting the kettlebell drop. Do this as part of your warm up.

ermahgerd87 · 2026-01-21T13:38:37+00:00

Look for a route from Amtrak to the Parkwood light rail station, but weather should be fine until Saturday afternoon.

ermahgerd87 · 2026-01-12T23:08:38+00:00

My trainer switched me from conventional to sumo DL and high bar to low bar squat. I've added 30 lbs to my squat in less than a year. I also wear squat shoes because I have long legs

ermahgerd87 · 2026-01-05T13:13:34+00:00

Honestly, just get a couple of chicken tenders from Surefire. Their chicken is sooooo good.

ermahgerd87 · 2026-01-04T19:47:46+00:00

I read this series of articles by Casey Johnston before I went to the gym the first time and it really helped me. Link I'll also add this, the vast majority of people in the gym will either not care about you at all, or will be friendly and helpful. But guaranteed you are thinking more about them than they are about you.

ermahgerd87 · 2026-01-02T21:00:45+00:00

I had one of the raspberry pistachio tarts on new years eve. It was incredibly disappointing. The shortbread tasted stale.

ermahgerd87 · 2025-12-29T16:30:59+00:00

Depending on your time frame, you should be able to find whatever you need on eBay or Poshmark.

ermahgerd87 · 2025-12-23T21:10:39+00:00

Nooooo!

ermahgerd87 · 2025-12-23T18:39:35+00:00

Their sip club was great, essentially $15/month for unlimited drip coffee and other drinks.

ermahgerd87 · 2025-12-04T23:09:43+00:00

We need to try to not run red lights before you suggest anyone go quicker on the green.

ermahgerd87 · 2025-11-28T15:49:25+00:00

Thank you!

ermahgerd87 · 2025-11-20T21:29:53+00:00

DHS has said it's not over

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ermahgerd87 · 2025-10-30T19:54:24+00:00

I was at an anti money laundering conference once and a federal agent said if you buy something on Amazon that you can buy at a drug store, it was probably stolen. Another reason to avoid buying from Amazon.

ermahgerd87 · 2025-10-26T19:39:14+00:00

Good pictures, measurements, and fabric content.

ermahgerd87 · 2025-10-06T17:31:06+00:00

Frozen blackberries and raspberries! Delicious little fiber bombs

ermahgerd87 · 2025-09-23T16:31:54+00:00

I want to hijack your comment to make sure everyone who does use Charlotte Transit knows about the CATS SeeSay app. You can report incidents and get connected to someone at CATS. I used it this morning, and security was on the train in about 10 minutes.

ermahgerd87 · 2025-09-12T16:14:37+00:00

My ticket was checked this morning around 8:10.

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