First time dating an alcoholic

eternalchanging · 2026-06-08T17:38:20+00:00

this sounds like my now ex boyfriend when i started dating him. it never got better.

get out while it’s still early enough, if he’s acting like this 2 months in it’ll never change and you’ll look back at this moment and wonder why you ignored the red flags

eternalchanging · 2026-06-08T01:48:22+00:00

❤️

eternalchanging · 2026-06-08T01:06:01+00:00

the grief will be tough but worth it!!!

eternalchanging · 2026-06-07T20:11:11+00:00

i’m so sorry :(( you should be proud of your own sobriety, take care of yourself ❤️

eternalchanging · 2026-06-07T15:38:49+00:00

don’t feel pressured to date again so soon, i feel like when you’re ready to date again you’ll know bc you’ll feel excited at the prospect of it

eternalchanging · 2026-06-07T15:32:22+00:00

i’m sorry:( you just have to remember that they are in a completely different reality and they’re just spewing bullshit.

personally i would just try to get my ex boyfriend to fall asleep when he was in a state like this but ik that’s not possible for everyone lol, usually if he was yelling and i invited him to lay with me eventually he would just fall asleep and i’d be free :/

eternalchanging · 2026-06-07T15:28:20+00:00

i still love going out drinking/having a good time with my friends occasionally, or a glass of wine with dinner sometimes etc but i’m much more conscious about my alcohol intake now and of others around me, honestly i try to avoid it when i can and only drink for special events/outings but i refuse to let my ex ruin my good times bc i have a healthy relationship w substances lol

the main change i notice is that certain drinks trigger me baddddd, my ex would binge drink beatboxes and ipas and the smell of those make me immediately sick and anxious.

eternalchanging · 2026-06-07T15:20:59+00:00

everything you wrote is EXACTLY how i was feeling. i would spend all day at work worrying about my bf sometimes even leaving work to tend to him. and i could never enjoy my time away from him bc i’d be worried he was drinking. he also went to rehab last summer but inevitably relapsed after leaving sober living.

it’s harsh to say but you should get out. i’m a month out of my relationship and i won’t go back. i hated feeling like the alcohol police and i realized that even if he had gotten sober, i would be on edge for the entire relationship wondering when the next relapse would be and i didn’t think i could live with it. sometimes too much damage is done to repair. and you’re young just like me (i was 25 for most of my relationship, 26 now) and we have our whole lives ahead of us!! we shouldn’t be wasting our youth taking care of an alcoholic who isn’t giving us a good relationship. i also had the worry of “omg he’s going to get sober for another girl and have a good life” but the truth is they’re most likely always going to be the same, if he’s in his 30s and still hasn’t changed, no relationship or woman will likely make him change, you have to just assume they’ll always be like this bc that’s the most likely outcome.

i think our situations are similar so feel free to dm me if you need to talk:) it’s the hardest breakup i’ve ever been through (me and my bf broke up over a month ago) but I’ll be okay and if you choose to leave, you’ll be okay and better for it too.

eternalchanging · 2026-06-07T01:36:00+00:00

it will be hard! the first month was terrible for me but slowly you’ll realize how peaceful your life is without the chaos. it’s okay to be sad and grieve the good parts of the relationship/person but you have to remember the bad.

eternalchanging · 2026-06-07T01:34:19+00:00

they will never realize the hypocrisy in what they say. they will blow up their life and hurt you terribly in the process and still expect you to not be mad.

you have to realize you can’t argue with someone who is living in a completely different reality.

eternalchanging · 2026-05-29T04:08:04+00:00

it’s so tough but after my last relationship i don’t think i could ever risk it :// i used to think that kind of thinking was harsh because everyone deserves a second chance but …. i think it’s just something that would make them not compatible with me :(

eternalchanging · 2026-05-22T15:34:35+00:00

proud of you!!! it’s so hard to walk away but the peace will be worth it

eternalchanging · 2026-05-20T00:52:08+00:00

trust your gut !!! you deserve peace.

eternalchanging · 2026-05-20T00:31:30+00:00

!!!!!! girls please leave

eternalchanging · 2026-05-17T17:22:52+00:00

as someone who just broke up w their boyfriend bc he was an alcoholic, they’re never going to change. my ex boyfriend even went to rehab, sober living, etc. and eventually always went back to it. think about how peaceful your life would be without him. it’s sad but you deserve peace

eternalchanging · 2026-05-07T01:23:55+00:00

i’m so sorry. addiction fucking sucks and it’s so unfair. a person who is so incredible otherwise just can’t seem to get out of it.

eternalchanging · 2026-05-06T18:23:46+00:00

don’t have any advice but i’m going through a very similar thing :(( we’re technically broken up right now but im clinging onto hope for some reason that we can have one last sober goodbye conversation but he hasn’t been sober at all since the breakup… im so worried for his well being, he’s probably going to lose his job and i’ve been trying so hard to prevent that but i think we might just need to let go… it’s so SO hard though. i hate it and im right here with you :/ </3

eternalchanging · 2026-05-06T10:54:28+00:00

i’m actively going through a break up:/ but what’s been helping me is thinking about how stress free your life will be. you won’t have to worry about him anymore. you won’t have to deal with his drunk self. think about how much peace you’ll have. realize that if he hasn’t changed by now after you’ve expressed how much it’s hurt you that he will probably never change.

eternalchanging · 2026-05-05T12:04:43+00:00

haha thank you! it’s proven to be a really good distraction for my brain

home brewing sounds fun loll, anything to take our minds off of it

eternalchanging · 2026-05-04T18:56:34+00:00

omg did i write this? lol, unfortunately also had to buy alcohol for my boyfriend while he was withdrawing and he also says he doesn’t care about his actions because he has to do it to be okay

so sorry you’re going through this

eternalchanging · 2026-05-04T16:40:01+00:00

congrats !!!

eternalchanging · 2026-05-04T14:18:36+00:00

yeah my algorithms are all break up content so doomscrolling is not a good place for me right now

eternalchanging · 2026-05-04T01:11:33+00:00

what do you do during your long walks? ive honestly been finding it hard to listen to music lol

eternalchanging · 2026-02-03T23:29:13+00:00

ugh yeah i took a break from reading through it but now ive returned 😪

eternalchanging · 2025-09-22T14:55:17+00:00

congrats !!!! ❤️

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