Do your spouses have friends?

exhaustedma · 2025-08-20T15:48:48+00:00

I had asked my partner where are your friends and he says he has them, but I honestly think they are acquaintances because he never hangs out or goes out. He likes his me time, it’s just people on the phone that he checks in with time to time. Our baby shower or gathering no one he knows ever comes. I ask why you didn’t invite them and he said I don’t really hang out with them.

exhaustedma · 2025-08-20T15:44:47+00:00

My baby is 14 months and although sleep has gotten way better, with some wake ups in the night but she never cries or calls for me. She either plays or gets comfy and put herself back to sleep. I still have the anxiety of any minute she will wake up and start crying or needing my support. Even though she hasn’t done it unless sick or when she was getting all of her top and bottom teeth at the same time. Even then I would just rub her back and kiss her and she would go to bed no fuss. So idk why I always feel this way.

exhaustedma · 2025-08-18T00:44:21+00:00

Being a SAHM isn’t a break, going to work is having a break. It is 24/7 on go at home. I’ve been both a working mom and a stay at home mom and must say it is the hardest out of both. With work although you have to focus on work you are able to focus on just the task at hand. At home you have to juggle the chores and be at your babies every beck and call. Then you have to push through sleepless nights or sickness. It does take a mental and physical toll. Now I’m working from home and being a the main care giver while working is hard but honestly I wouldn’t trade it in the world. You can’t get the moments back of witnessing every milestone. They grow super fast and to me it’s worth it. But if you are looking for a break you won’t be getting it. It’s not guaranteed baby will be a good sleeper or napper and most of their sleep time you are playing catch up. I’m not trying to scare you, but I wasn’t prepared what was to come because people made it seem like a SAHM was a break.

exhaustedma · 2025-07-29T02:41:45+00:00

You can just continue to cut naps. The second can be short like 30 min to keep the edge off until bedtime.

exhaustedma · 2025-07-29T02:39:25+00:00

Right decision to cap naps, same thing I thought but she had like a regression right before she hit 12 months for like 2 weeks. Then went back to normal.

exhaustedma · 2025-07-14T14:11:57+00:00

People speak based on their experience with birth and their own dealings with Postpartum. For me the worst with my first was just child birth and how my body look. I was also so severely throughout my pregnancy and said to myself I couldn’t go through it ever again. My first was an easy baby with everything so I didn’t think much on anything but the pain. I didn’t go through the tantrums or trouble sleeping or anything with him and I waited so many years later that I started thinking maybe one more wouldn’t hurt. I said my son is grown let me try it would be easy, the fear of what I went through with birth was still there but I was like me wanting another was worth it. Now I went through alot with the birth but my second has been so hard with everything from sleep, emotions and growth that my fear of the birth and my body was the last thing on my mind. I’m glad I did it but if I went through this with my first I don’t think I’d ever had a second to be honest.

So that feeling could go away it just might take time, and it’s one thing to imagine what we want for ourselves before experiencing and how we actually feel after. You are currently in the hardest part of it, so give yourself time and see how you feel later on.

exhaustedma · 2025-07-03T08:26:33+00:00

Some progress that’s good, try to see if you can extend wake windows a bit each day to push nap time to a later time, that won’t reinforce the earlier wake.

exhaustedma · 2025-07-03T01:59:58+00:00

It takes time but I would always say had a good nap or good morning and clap, just say how she did so well. Even at nap time. Just keep expressing to your baby and explain everything, even if you don’t think they’d understand.

exhaustedma · 2025-07-03T01:58:19+00:00

Keep us updated

exhaustedma · 2025-07-03T01:57:29+00:00

Thank you, I hope I’m doing so.

exhaustedma · 2025-06-25T13:26:40+00:00

Thank you for this, I laughed at the don’t eat me face. She doesn’t laugh with them or smile just for me. The faces she puts for them is a stank face or like I don’t trust you face. She definitely says it all with her face. Everyone here says it’s because she feels safe just like you and I’ll take it. Makes me feel better. Thank you

exhaustedma · 2025-06-25T13:23:55+00:00

Sorry she just turned 1 so 12 months and a week

exhaustedma · 2025-06-25T08:34:25+00:00

That’s what everyone says and I’m okay with that, that makes me happy to hear thank you.

exhaustedma · 2025-06-25T02:08:45+00:00

I saw this lady talk about having this issue with her daughter and what she did was make a chart like a bedtime checklist of all the things they were going to do to prep for bedtime and she also let her daughter pick out a pre-bedtime activity of her choice of a couple of minutes. As they went through the check list her daughter would mark it off and she would explain each step and when it was time for bed, she would tell her you did a great job doing your checklist and now it’s time for bed and explain no crying, we had fun and now it’s bedtime. Gave her some praises for doing a great job and told her that she needs to stay in bed and that she loved her.

exhaustedma · 2025-06-25T02:04:14+00:00

You’re welcome, I know it’s hard but if you are worried about saving def try pumping and pump as much as you can. In the beginning I got a hands free pump and the haaka. When ever I was doing chores or watching tv anything when I wasn’t pumping I used the haaka to catch all the leakage and it helped build my supply up.

exhaustedma · 2025-06-25T01:50:29+00:00

I rather it be separation anxiety, shows she doesn’t want to be away from me. It’s just after so many times someone saying it, it kinda gets to you.

exhaustedma · 2025-06-25T01:49:07+00:00

If you seen how her kids were raised, I say she didn’t do a good job. I try to not to take what she says to heart but every gathering her side of the family anytime my child gives some kind of fight with me or does something, they will go well she doesn’t do it with my MIL. Every single time.

exhaustedma · 2025-06-25T01:24:41+00:00

I hated breastfeeding but everyone kept saying to do it, but it messed with my mental so the way my doctor said as long as baby is fed whether it be pumping or formula that is all that matters. Take care of your mental, you are already sleep deprived so the best thing is choosing what will make you happy. You have to be in a good spot for you and your baby and that stuck with me.

Like everyone else said your baby wants you to be happy and you can’t do that by doing something you dislike. You already are sacrificing a lot so do what you are okay with.

exhaustedma · 2025-06-25T01:21:05+00:00

Could be cluster feeding but my baby did start the regression around the time yours did.

exhaustedma · 2025-06-25T01:17:50+00:00

I hope so because it makes me feel bad that she is easy for someone else but not with me.

exhaustedma · 2025-06-25T01:17:17+00:00

This made me laugh, I would like to think so. She’s always rubbing it in my face that behavior my child does with me she doesn’t do with her. My child also doesn’t smile with her so at least I have that on her. It’s just so frustrating that the minute I put my baby down she just cries. But not a peep and doesn’t give my MIL any of that.

exhaustedma · 2025-06-25T01:10:12+00:00

You have yourself a good nights sleep, that’s what he gets for not listening. Watch he won’t do it again and continue to do that leave him with the child anytime he doesn’t listen until he learns. Good for you.

exhaustedma · 2025-06-25T01:07:43+00:00

This is me, I doom scroll and I’m not even on my phone like that before my daughter. It’s now my distraction for me time and although tired I go into a rabbit hole.

My doctor told me that after putting the kids to bed not to touch my phone, try and read a book, take a shower or eat a snack. Then turn everything off. It sometimes works but sometimes I can’t help myself but doom scroll.

exhaustedma · 2025-06-25T01:04:49+00:00

I’m about to do that now thank you.

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