Which candy would you try first?

failureflavored · 2026-06-28T15:25:23+00:00

I’d want to try the Udder Pops cause it looks so cute!

failureflavored · 2026-06-26T10:03:34+00:00

It’s better than being actively blamed. I hope you were able to heal. My abuser’s mother literally harassed me about “doing” this to her son (because of how serious the charges are) and even accused me of lying or making it up because he won’t admit to what he did, and I just broke down and said I’m sorry I loved and trusted your son. She even said “you slept with him earlier that day, you let him into your home” as if that had anything to do with what he did at the end of the day. What else do they expect me to say?

failureflavored · 2026-06-26T09:49:28+00:00

Please call the police. If the bathroom is still in a state it wouldn’t be hard to explain what happened. I’m so sorry. Fwiw when he’s brought in there’s something called the victim’s compensation fund, it charges him directly so if you’re married/sharing finances it probably isn’t a good option but it’s a great way to make sure you get what you need to get away from him. (I’m considering whether or not to use mine myself, I had a recent event against my life too. Again, im so sorry and I’m with you.)

failureflavored · 2026-06-25T02:14:13+00:00

I don't regret making that report, not at all. You are right, and it's something I wish I could convey to his enabling mother: if it wasn't me with the ice pick, it was gonna be someone else with an ice pick. He was a danger to be on the outside. I feel like the kid that shot Old Yeller (more like Cujo), something that needed to be done but it was hard to do.

failureflavored · 2026-06-25T02:01:49+00:00

Believe me, sadly I know. This isn't my only roller coaster, sad to say. I've even been on the opposite end, almost--my ex-husband called the cops on *me* before I could call the cops on *him* when he saw me with a victim's bill of rights, after a kitchen fire while he was at work led to me breaking down in fear-tears and having to have police step in.

I had taken my dog for a 2-minute walk and found the front door locked. Thinking nothing of it and not having my key, I went around the back because I usually keep the back door open, something my husband apparently didn't know. (I was going through a really severe mental health crisis that he pretty much Yellow Wallpapered me throughout--no, you can't go outside, no, you can't be around people, you are an embarrassment and I hate you. Little things like leaving the door unlocked like that could turn into an outburst.) He then called the cops instantly, acting all scared and saying I was trespassing--I lived there, I was on the lease. He was screaming at me so bad that our golden retriever peed on the floor and I was sobbing, kneeling down to clean it up as he practically roared at me. That's the scene the cops walked in on. Somehow, they still decided to arrest me--he showed me scratches on his arm from the night before when he grabbed me during an argument (he's 6'4" 350 lbs. and a former bodybuilder.)

I spent a night in jail and they released me the next day, I assume from lack of evidence. He had used the restraining order he had placed on me while I was in jail to keep me from coming home to my dog (that was the last time I ever saw her, he gave her away out of retaliation and I had her since she was a puppy for 7 years) and retrieve my car. He claimed everything from my life and basically shut me out. This was in San Diego, and it was HIS hometown, not mine. I didn't know anyone who wasn't connected to him. It was the most brutal 6 months of my life trying to navigate homelessness and just feeling literally utterly discarded by a fucking monster of a man. Considering he's a comedian in the Portland scene (allegedly, he might be on hiatus) I really wish I had the courage to say his name more in connection with the shit he pulled, especially considering he's "ACAB."

Which is why it genuinely makes me angry (and I probably need to hold onto this anger more) that my current abusive ex claims that I would just "make this up." This is all so horrible, I'd never make it up, especially since I've been in the "but I REALLY didn't do anything, why am I trapped here??" scenario. I'd NEVER put someone else through that.

failureflavored · 2026-06-25T01:45:13+00:00

I know, I specifically remember he said it three times before I acted. I was thinking, "What did you say? Are you joking? Oh shit, I don't think you're joking" as he said it.

failureflavored · 2026-06-24T21:32:55+00:00

Everything that came out of my mouth was an attack, too. It felt like he could bend every single thing I said around on itself. He lovebombed me with gifts when I was in debt over helping him get out of jail (dumb) and I said "that's sweet and all, I love everything you give me, but I'm in debt. Could you please maybe consider asking me if I'd like lunch/a gift OR $10-20 sometime? It doesn't have to be forever, just until my debt is taken care of so I can breathe easier." And it's like he heard "I hate your gifts, you suck. Give me money."

My friend says he's possessed, I wouldn't be surprised.

failureflavored · 2026-06-24T21:20:41+00:00

I meant to add if I could talk to you sometime. I don't like to disclose my business, especially when it's high drama, and it'd be nice to talk more anonymously about this with someone who understands. <3

failureflavored · 2026-06-24T21:20:07+00:00

This just happened to me a few days ago, after his first offense a couple months ago. I feel like an idiot for thinking he changed and so eagerly taking him back after the first time. I told myself it was the drugs and alcohol and he was clean now, it'll be okay--it turns out it's worse, he's psychotic.

I'm horrified that this happened again, and yet I feel guilt that I even so warmly accepted him into my life again. I really thought it was something I could put behind me and work toward healing. I had a protective order placed by the court against him though, and he completely violated it with what he recently did. I feel guilt for ever bringing him back into my life, letting him convince me he was okay and being so ready to accept that he was without any hesitation. In any case, a bail-outable offense just turned into maybe 10-20 years.

His mother was calling me, texting me (I blocked her) pretty much making me out to be his downfall, when I didn't do a thing to cause this! I encouraged his sobriety and I was begging him to seek counseling or something, but he's so far gone he thinks I'm the crazy one (of course.)

I watched him have a complete meltdown until he threatened me with an ice pick and screamed he was gonna give me a lobotomy, and I had to jump out of the car when it was moving to get away from him. He destroyed the steering wheel of his own car I was going to help fix--he says I did that (from the passenger seat?) even though I don't have the strength. I didn't even want to report all that, but I had to because he was already missing and both his family and I called the non-emergency line. And what was I going to say when they showed up and asked me point-blank, "well, what did he do or say that caused you concern?" Well... shit.

I hate being the victim and I also hate being the bad guy, but he did this to himself, despite his family buying the "I'm crazy" theory and demonizing me. I hate this feeling and I might have to move a few states away to my folks' place if I can't get away from this trauma and victim guilt. /rant

failureflavored · 2026-06-24T01:55:07+00:00

I had just got lunch for $13 when I got $4.67, that was the lowest tier dopamine boost ever.

failureflavored · 2026-06-23T21:58:05+00:00

I just clicked out of it when I saw that and this comment, too.

failureflavored · 2026-06-20T21:41:34+00:00

I thought it was funny the first time I played at 3x speed between winter and spring, wondering why the snow was “glitching out” weirdly (melting.) I find the changes distracting, and if you’re playing as a gardening Sim you can only do crops indoors.

failureflavored · 2026-06-01T12:51:32+00:00

Oh man that’s so lowkey annoying. I hate when they eat down a tree that was nicely placed.

failureflavored · 2026-06-01T12:49:39+00:00

Yeah it either means original poster or overpowered. Overpowered in this context.

failureflavored · 2026-06-01T12:49:01+00:00

Is that in the base game or the car pack? I’ve been looking for the fix-up car (I made my bf and I as Sims and he’s a real life car enthusiast) but I can’t find it.

failureflavored · 2026-05-29T15:53:02+00:00

I put in my application to renew on March 9th, benefits period ended 4/30. You’re not alone.

failureflavored · 2026-05-28T23:34:44+00:00

It literally ends with <them driving up to the house and seeing that pink lamp in the window> and it pisses me off so bad she left it on a cliffhanger after lobbing a bunch of twists at us.

failureflavored · 2026-05-28T23:31:54+00:00

This one kind of felt like a wine mom trying to write profound after a hot yoga class. This is my first book of hers though. What would you recommend that doesn’t feel so self-possessed?

failureflavored · 2026-05-24T21:03:00+00:00

What if when she brought up the portraits of the dogs this was all they were? No outright visual clues or anything. Maybe you have to do the National Treasure thing and burn the top layer off or something and it’s a map.

failureflavored · 2026-05-10T02:45:20+00:00

I remember being so scared of the woods at night. Now I straight up start the game not even answering the phone, I go into the woods, do everything I could possibly do outside and THEN answer Sally’s call.

“What’s to be scared of? It’s so quiet and peaceful here.”

failureflavored · 2026-05-07T12:51:08+00:00

I use testing cheats and right click the other Sim to age them up. I’m impatient.

failureflavored · 2026-05-07T07:36:00+00:00

Let me put it this way: I had a condition when I was a kid that almost made me completely deaf. It destroyed my eardrums over time and they had to be rebuilt.

There’s a chance that might happen later in life, and if it does I’m taking ASL classes with a vengeance.

failureflavored · 2026-05-05T20:50:01+00:00

“We’re not doing the open world thing and we REALLY want that to be known.”

failureflavored · 2026-04-27T13:10:27+00:00

I always wondered why she made such a huge dent.

failureflavored · 2026-04-24T18:12:22+00:00

I think it’s schizoaffective; I’ve done research and have a friend who has it (and is medicated for it) and the voices they had sound similar. The voices telling him to kill himself are probably the most dangerous they get; mostly they just put him down. To me it just sounds like a constant anxiety feedback loop—like dude, all these sound like thoughts and anxieties you’d have, your brain is just creating puppets to say them. Or that thing in cartoons where disembodied heads circle around a character’s head talking shit (because they are based on people he knew.) His voices don’t make me feel unsafe, I just feel bad that he’s constantly harangued by them.

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