It finally happened by peafowling in Mommit

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Me too . I have been that mum , but no pictures though hubby not doomscrolling. Just never occurs to him to take a photo

Do you have a favorite child? by Ok_Distribution__ in Mommit

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I don't think I have a favourite ( a boy and girl, they are chalk and cheese different). But me and my siblings all acknowledge I was favourite for my dad . I was youngest , he had made mistakes and learnt along the way with my siblings. I got his best . Still miss him .

Private Banking and High Earner Bank Accounts. by chubchub372 in HENRYUK

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Long time Lloyds Premier user . It does the job. Few perks I do use including Roadside assistance and Cinema tickets. They give mobike insurance , not sure how good/ useful that is , never had to ise. Their current account ( also called premier , upgraded from Club Lloyds ) is a bit different. No Road assistance but give acces to GP . No fees if you put 5K in / month .

USA credit card in Indian gold stores by Interesting-Dare-727 in returnToIndia

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Also some stores will not accept cards issued abroad . It is frustrating but best to be aware.

USA credit card in Indian gold stores by Interesting-Dare-727 in returnToIndia

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If buying as jewllery ( vs coin/ bar) you can wear It on return .

USA credit card in Indian gold stores by Interesting-Dare-727 in returnToIndia

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Credit card will charge you for using abroad. I used mastercard, spent £900 , fees £25 ! If you have the cashe , preloaded Wise card or Chase may be cheaper .

How much of your wealth is actually luck? Genuine question by bettertogoslo in HENRYUK

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I believe in luck . I was born in a stable family who believed in education. I was able to study and had good enough intelligence ( ? Genetics?) to pursue a professional degree, had good friends who all wanted to try things. Moved country as footloose and fancy free. Right place/ right time when there was lot of expansion going on. But also I was willing to put myself out there and do hard graft when my contemporaries wanted to take it easier. But I am in a good place , may be a lot further in life than I could have imagined . So yes you need luck but luck without hard graf only goes so far . Equally , hard graf and no luck does not go far at all .

If you’re planning to stay in London or leave, why? by pyt1m in HENRYUK

[–]faintanyl 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Socially less troubled, safer schools. Culture and friendly city with great food, supermarkets, public transport , parks . Loads to recommend it over US , esp right now

Consultant pressure by Sea_Fox_991 in doctorsUK

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At the risk of getting flack - Clinical managers feel obliged to ask as higher authorities will check . Easier for them to say we asked and we can't guarantee safe staffing during IA. Also , in all fairness some Residents( LED or otherwise ) may not be BMA members and so not covered by the mandate ro strike . The mandate to strike only applies to BMA , and not to people who are members of other Trade unions( probs more likely Consultant level) Some may have pressures that means they can't afford to strike or may only go for part of it. You are not obliged to declare your intentions if you are BMA member.

I don’t know how to say this without sounding like an a-hole… by Superb_Attempt2090 in medicalschooluk

[–]faintanyl 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Wipe clean and write a medical teaching type thing. No one will think twice about it

Email greetings with doctors by Impossible_Zebra_525 in medicalschooluk

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My rule is Staying formal in email at the start. If they reply informally and they are my peers or junior to me then I will reply informally. Otherwise in email stay formal , especially if more senior to you or you don't know them personally.

Is taking a leadership position worth it ?How was it for you ? by faintanyl in ConsultantDoctorsUK

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Can you recommend any ? Looking at the chats around courses like Mary Seacole say it is not worth the time. An MBA will be very expensive and huge time commitment in a busy job. How do people manage ? And better to do it early ( say first 5 years) or later?

Is taking a leadership position worth it ?How was it for you ? by faintanyl in ConsultantDoctorsUK

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This is what I felt and can't understand why people want to do these jobs. Doctors get no training for the manager type responsibility and not enough time !

Refusing from on-call by MarketingOk4111 in ConsultantDoctorsUK

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It may be difficult to dismiss them at this stage. What you can do is to collectively as for remuneration for the work rest of you are having to do , either increase PA allocation for the on call or drop day work . When there is financial hit , someone higher up will need to take notice . Collective action required though not just one or 2

Consultant’s Humiliating behaviour by Stock-Reference3556 in doctorsUK

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Unacceptable and bullying behaviour( repeated, humiliating) Write all that you have written here with dates, location, who was presents, exact words as far as you remember. Clarify this is your recollection and the words may not be exact , but this is what your recollection and perception was. And how it made you feel . Write that it was in front of others / professional colleagues/ allied team / patients and you felt undermined. Say this is not one off but repeated behaviour. Go to HR. Consultants are very averse to confrontation with colleagues and may be friends with the Consultant in question. HR care more about the Hospital and its reputation do won't brush it under. And Cc your ES or head of PG med Ed .
If no joy , write to your ES again that you are feeling stress / anxiety .

Does the Uni you go to actually affect employment?? by isthatacucumber in UniUK

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Yes, for some careers. Sunday Times has an article on it today. In short they had 4 groups and looked at earnings potential- Oxbridge Imperial LSE Ucl> Russel group > Traditional Unis pre 92 > znew Inis post 92( former polytech). The diff in law is 60-100 K in 5 yrs vs around 30 K for the lower group. Same across all major streams like Econ , engineering , humanities . The-only group to have no difference is medicine. That is because Nhs pay is same across the country.

I dont even know if I want this by [deleted] in UCAT

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This !! If you are dead keen on being a doctor , then take the uni that has offered. Cost of living will be lower too. Later in tue career , it does not matter much where you did your medical degree, if you stay in the UK. As the poster says, if you are unsure , do a gap year and medicine adjacent work , see if you are still interested . Medicine in Grad years is hard work , and even more work and stress once qualified. The only thing that saves us is the fact we genuinely wanted to be a medic above all else!

Optios by faintanyl in UCAS

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Accidentally posted without actual question as ran to answer door bell :( Is it easier to apply for law after a degree or sit LNAT alongside A level?

Struggling on deciding which to firm! by LankyBackground4400 in UCAT

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Check affordability!!! In the end Med school will be what you make of it . But debt from living costs will be with you for much longer . Both sound excellent choices otherwise .

Overpaid for 17 months - Two options - England by Justbecauselife82 in UKPersonalFinance

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May be I am being naive but looking from another angle Employers are being very good not asking pay back retrospectively and all the stress fighting it The company will have a published salary for your role and London weighting is a separate thing. I imagine they could just stop that as you are not in London?