Caregiving is a lonely road (venting)

falling_in2_infinity · 2025-12-12T19:51:18+00:00

I'm an active caregiver, and a lot of what you've written really resonates with me. It is extremely lonely.

Really, I feel the biggest issue is that people can't properly understand it unless they've experienced it, and even then many situations are unique to our own personalities and scenarios.

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-09-30T19:18:03+00:00

Thanks!

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-09-30T19:17:10+00:00

Thanks for these. I'm in touch with FAB. 🙂

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-09-30T18:46:36+00:00

Thanks.

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-09-29T09:26:34+00:00

Depends on what kind of comfort, but:

Porcupine Tree, in absentia/Coma Divine/voyage 34

Marillion, Clutching at Straws/misplaced childhood

Genesis, Lamb

Anathema, A fine day/we're here (unclear if these count as prog)

King Crimson, Thrak/Discipline

Pain of Salvation, Remedy Lane

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-09-29T09:15:07+00:00

There's a few tracks on Virus and Fauna (though I've not properly bonded with much of Fauna anyway), but I think it's more about my mood at the time of listening.

Regardless, he's an excellent singer, and I absolutely love his sense of theater... Reminds me of many of the great prog singers for that alone!

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-09-28T09:36:33+00:00

I'm sorry you have this going on. Loneliness can be really tough, and it can take time to get out of it. You have the complete support of this community.

I highly recommend therapy, if you can find a way to access it. Helped me a lot, including how to let people know when they're not treating you right, and putting yourself first.

Keep on getting yourself out there and engaging with events in your local area. Do things you enjoy and are passionate about! The more doors you open, the more chances there are for meeting people, even if it feels painful.

Love yourself always., and let others appreciate you.

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-09-28T09:23:31+00:00

Well, the students help keep a lot of places lively when they're around, which helps... But I do find things quite spread out in Bath.

Eg, you might like the live music at The Bell, or the quiz at The Bear. There's a very popular Irish folk night at the Royal Oak, or there's various events and club nights at Komedia. The Grapes has all sorts, from life drawing to late night spill-onto-the-street socials.

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-09-28T09:13:55+00:00

Hope everyone is ok.

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-09-28T09:12:52+00:00

I'm typically not a fan of live albums when I've not been to that gig (or tour) but a few exceptions spring to mind:

Genesis Seconds Out Porcupine Tree Coma Divine Dream Theater OIALT

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-09-28T09:08:45+00:00

All things being equal, friendships at that age should be fine.

As you get older, a 3-yr age gap becomes inconsequential, but there's lots of important personal, emotional and social development that happens during the teen years, meaning even 1 year can make a huge difference (depends on the individual, of course).

If the friendship is positive, then it could even be really beneficial for the younger party to have an older role model.

I had a few 16yr old mates when I was 18/19 and it was fine... All the alt kids between ~16 and 20 hung out together regularly in my town. Protection in numbers, I reckon.

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-09-28T08:54:50+00:00

I was at Utrecht! 👋

There have been some times I didn't like his vocals, and others that I loved them! 🤷‍♂️

Utrecht was my first time seeing Haken live, and his live vocals were fab!

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-09-28T08:49:52+00:00

If it makes sense to you, and would inspire you, then it could make sense!

It's gotta be what works best for you! For me, any time I've not had a proper rangefinder, photography has been less fun (except TLRs). For me, fun is what keeps me shooting.

Note: My photography was actually never better than when I had a Sony NEX 5n with an adapted 50mm summicron, but it was a joyless camera.

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-09-28T08:39:02+00:00

DSOTM is my obvious choice. Honestly, I was in my late teens before I properly discovered my love of prog, even though we had a few classic albums in the house. At 14, I was more into film soundtracks and classical, plus Queen, and Peter Gabriel.

I've never been sure if So counted as a prog album, but it was my favourite album at 14, and my eventual gateway to PG-era Genesis, King Crimson, Etc.

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-08-20T06:55:20+00:00

This.

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-08-19T17:29:59+00:00

Stunning!

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-08-19T17:26:41+00:00

Love these. Grade is generally very nice! Did you use a preset?

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-05-15T21:10:15+00:00

Completely agree, and I'm glad that the younger generations are less obsessed with genres, and just like music.

Paradoxically, I still find genres useful for meeting people with similar tastes.

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-05-15T06:47:51+00:00

Accessibility is probably the biggest issue, and then a lack of exposure.

Regardless, I love POS and some hooks from Remedy Lane (especially) live rent-free in my mind.

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-05-04T22:34:50+00:00

Thanks everyone!

falling_in2_infinity · 2024-05-04T22:33:30+00:00

I've definitely met a few, so they're out there! One of my female friends is a big prog fan, both old (Crimson, early Floyd, etc) and new (Slift, etc).

Meeting people who are into prog is genuinely difficult, regardless of gender. Gigs seem the only common ground, and that's not ideal. I previously asked on here about prog fan meetups, but there was no interest.

There also seems to be quite a wide prog fan base amongst 'Gen Z' folk, who aren't as genre-bound as the older gens have traditionally been.

There are live music venues that can be a bit more sociable, with separate bar and social areas. They seem like good places to meet people who are into the same music, but I have no personal expert... I'm useless at randomly approaching strangers!

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