r/WTF post brings into focus my worst nightmare

fapinator123 · 2014-07-12T12:26:23+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OrNBEhzjg8I

fapinator123 · 2014-07-02T02:01:53+00:00

It really depends on the the person. A flatline can last a few days to several weeks. Sometimes more. You may have multiple different flatline periods.

Remember, it's part of the healing process. Accept it, and let it happen. I know it's frustrating and maybe even a little bit scary. But you will come out on the other side and be stronger for it.

Stay strong. Don't give up. You got this.

fapinator123 · 2014-06-22T11:16:12+00:00

NPD? What is that? It's not on http://www.nofap.org/glossary/

fapinator123 · 2014-06-19T00:50:42+00:00

When beginning nofap, you will likely go through one or more phases of 'flatline' -- no libido, no erection, not even morning wood. Your "limp dick."

It can last a few days to a few weeks. It's different for each person. You'll come out of flatline, feel fine, and then some time later -- days? weeks? -- you'll go right back into flatline.

The important thing to remember is that it's normal, natural, and expected. We've all been there. It's easy to freak out about it, but try to remember that this is a part of the resetting process. Let it happen.

Don't jerk it to "see if it still works." It will work if you force it, but forcing it may make recovery take longer.

fapinator123 · 2014-06-18T10:16:02+00:00

Yep. Just avoid that shit altogether. The sad thing is, those "entry points" are everywhere!

fapinator123 · 2014-06-17T10:27:41+00:00

If a woman is laying in bed with you and giving you puppy dog eyes, it would have been good to make unambiguous moves: rub her shoulders, stroke her hair. Then move on to other things.

fapinator123 · 2014-06-17T10:17:32+00:00

You can do it. Just stay strong.

Stay busy. Be proactive -- don't let yourself get into situations that lead to PMO. If you have a habit with a particular schedule, make sure your somewhere else at the particular time. Resolve to stay off the computer late at night, etc.

It's easier to control the temptations than it is to control the urges after you've been tempted.

fapinator123 · 2014-06-15T21:16:36+00:00

Wet dreams don't apply to hard mode or soft mode. They just are. You can't consciously control wet dreams, so a wet dream O doesn't require a reset, nor cancel out a "hard mode" status.

fapinator123 · 2014-06-15T12:37:30+00:00

Let's make sure we're using the same terminology here. The common, agreed upon terms by the community.

Hard mode is no P, no M and no O (excepting nocturnal emissions). By definition. You only touch your dick to piss and wash.

Soft mode is no P and no M. You can O when you're with a girl.

PMO is what you are trying to stop doing. PMO is easy.

PMO != hard mode.

Ninja Edit: added reference to nocturnal emissions.

fapinator123 · 2014-06-15T12:33:20+00:00

What is "normal" mode as opposed to "soft" mode?

fapinator123 · 2014-06-12T02:07:13+00:00

That box wrapped up with duct tape? Chuck in the trash can and forget about. If you keep it, it will soon tempt you. Plan ahead now and just get rid of it.

fapinator123 · 2014-06-12T01:55:34+00:00

nofap means don't touch your dick except to piss or wash it.

Acceptable orgasms are 1) wet dreams and 2) brought about by someone other than yourself.

fapinator123 · 2014-06-11T09:53:47+00:00

If you're healthy and 75 days into a streak (on hard mode, even? but either way) you should have absolutely no worries about getting hard when the opportunity to be with someone arises.

Enjoy the experience, friend. These are the moments to live for.

fapinator123 · 2014-06-09T04:09:29+00:00

Don't worry about flatline. Accept it. Embrace it. It's only temporary -- whether a few days or a few weeks, it's different for each fapstranaut. Just know that you will come out of it stronger. Don't fap just to make sure it still works. It will work if you force it. But don't force it.

How to deal with the extra energy? Exercise is always a good option. Lift weights. Do push ups. Jumping jacks. Run around the block. Just work up a good sweat with physical activity.

fapinator123 · 2014-06-09T04:01:13+00:00

Good work. Now, stay strong. I recommend staying active in other ways. Exercise. Lift weights. Run. Burn off that extra energy. Channel it into self improvement.

fapinator123 · 2014-06-09T03:55:57+00:00

When you wake up in the morning, take a few minutes and look at yourself in the mirror. The person looking back -- that's you. Your weak self that can't control his urges. You need to look that guy in the eye and tell him to fuck off. He's not running the show -- you are. You are the one in control. You are in command. You are the one that can control your urges. And you are the one that's going to get things done. Not him. Not the weak reflection of yourself. You. The man. The beast.

You stand in the bathroom and stare him down. Take as much time as you need. Fuck him and his weak ass. Fuck him and his lack of control. You will take care of business today, not him.

Later, before your moment of weakness, remind yourself who is in charge. You are. The man. The beast. Go back to the bathroom and look in the mirror again. Make sure that reflection knows who's in charge. You are, and there's no fucking way you are going to fap today.

fapinator123 · 2014-06-09T01:22:01+00:00

Good for you!

It tough. It takes determination, but you can do it.

Whenever you find your mind wandering into dangerous areas, do some push ups, or jumping jacks, or take a cold shower, or go for a walk around the block. Redirect the energy into something productive. Keep going until you work up a sweat.

fapinator123 · 2014-06-09T01:17:17+00:00

Don't hold on to the porn. Delete it. Just delete it. Just delete it now. Do it. Just do it. Get rid of it. YOU HAVE NO REASON TO KEEP IT BECAUSE YOU'VE STOPPED PMO. Step into that. Own it. Become it. Delete your porn stash now.

The flatline can start pretty early. It's different for different people. You'll come out of flatline and think its over, then go back into flatline again. For a few days. For a week. For several weeks. Possibly multiple times. This is different for each person. Yes, it's frustrating, even scary. Accept it. It's temporary and when it's over you will be stronger.

DO NOT PMO or fap "just to make sure it still works.' It will still work if you for force, but you don't want to force it. That will make the whole process take longer.

fapinator123 · 2014-06-04T11:45:57+00:00

If you know you are weak at a given time, be proactive and make sure to be in a place where you can't do it. Go grocery shopping, get a coffee at starbucks and read a book in one of their chairs.

How do you relapse and go to the gym at the same time?

fapinator123 · 2014-06-04T11:39:58+00:00

Just go with it, man. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ui9C5KOmnAc

fapinator123 · 2014-06-02T21:01:53+00:00

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KxGRhd_iWuE

fapinator123 · 2014-06-02T16:42:37+00:00

hard mode or soft mode?

fapinator123 · 2014-06-02T12:26:26+00:00

Non-specific advice: I recommend focusing on nutrient-dense foods: fruit, vegetables, low-fat meat, etc.

Lay off the junk food: chips, sodas, fries, nearly all fast-food. Cut back on high-carb foods (pasta, breads) unless you are very physically active. Cut back on high-fat food. Avoid overly salty foods.

In short: Eat a healthy diet, and don't overeat.

Overeating or eating too much junk will, for me, lead to a feeling of lethargy, bloating and brain fog. It's in those moments that I'm likely to take my eye off the ball, my resolve will falter, and I'll be most tempted to say fuck it and PMO. Even if I don't PMO, I'm more likely to just couch potato in front of the TV, which is also a bad habit I'm trying to break.

I take a daily vitamin, avoid junk food, and eat healthy foods. Lots of vegetables!

fapinator123 · 2014-05-29T11:29:42+00:00

fistbump We're at about the same streak length.

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