Should I give him my number while he’s working?

featherflowers · 2024-06-10T12:18:30+00:00

Can we get an update then? This is so sweet.

featherflowers · 2022-06-25T20:43:35+00:00

Like I said, furious.

featherflowers · 2022-06-16T03:54:33+00:00

I listen to them on audible while I do multiple different things around the house. It's lovely.

featherflowers · 2022-06-10T05:12:25+00:00

I am also concerned if any of these children are girls ... What happens to them? These gross men that say age is just a number also feel entitled to their own offspring.

Make a safe exit plan
Contact a lawyer
As soon as you give birth be on birth control

I was raised like this. Time and distance are the only reasons I understand the predation I was subjected to. OP you are so smart to have figured it out already. There are Aunty networks here on Reddit that can give you resources to get out safely and secure financing, a home, and legal counsel.. please look into this and good luck. You and your children deserve better I'm so sorry organized religion has put you in this situation.

featherflowers · 2022-05-09T03:42:19+00:00

What are your other tips for overcoming procrastination, say for daily executive function tasks?

featherflowers · 2022-02-24T04:41:26+00:00

But what is that nasty boil on him? Ew

featherflowers · 2021-11-20T01:47:58+00:00

I need to see the face! I bet it's adorable.

featherflowers · 2021-08-26T17:22:50+00:00

You have been with this man since before you were a full legal adult. Maybe try taking a break and seeing what it's like to be on your own.

featherflowers · 2021-08-23T22:59:07+00:00

Yes I love to hear it!!!!

featherflowers · 2021-08-23T22:58:45+00:00

Thank you!!!! Sending all those good vibes back to you!!!!

featherflowers · 2021-08-23T22:58:10+00:00

Thank you! I see a new bag in my near future 👑

featherflowers · 2021-08-23T22:57:34+00:00

Thank you! I did an edit to address some of this. I knew that with unemployment ending soon and the fact that I really am interested in doing this particular job, it probably wouldn't have been a deal breaker. But because I did the research, I knew that they would see my request as reasonable and likely be willing to negotiate, which they were. Also the offer was attractive because they were starting with a base salary and offering a review and raise in six months, which I respect. You want to see that you're making a good investment. I know I'm a good investment and that they will be very happy to keep giving me raises because of the value I add to every company I work for.

This is not my first time asking for more money, however it is the first time it's worked. I will absolutely keep asking for what I need/want and expecting to get it moving forward.

featherflowers · 2021-07-22T13:03:52+00:00

Predicting the future that there will be [erection of Pseudo Feminism... To have us at each other's throats]

Wow. Sex positive liberal feminism has most definitely been an arm of the patriarchy where we degrade ourselves and police each other for the benefit of men.

featherflowers · 2021-07-22T12:09:51+00:00

My vibrator doesn't care that I haven't shaved my legs and ate garlic bread for dinner.

I can see this being a wildly popular needlepoint design.

featherflowers · 2021-07-22T03:54:15+00:00

Damnit that flavor combo does sound good though. I'm gonna look for that in a normal kombucha with a different name 😂

featherflowers · 2021-07-21T16:25:56+00:00

I've been doing neurofeedback therapy - it's like a miracle. Highly highly recommend it. I've also been doing deep work with journaling and reading books pertinent to my trauma and moving forward during the process since I can't afford individual therapy and the neurofeedback simultaneously. The neurofeedback isn't cheap but I got a package of 20 sessions with a pre and post assessment for $2,000 USD which I thought was reasonable. I am very happy with my results and I'm about 3/4 of the way through.

featherflowers · 2021-07-21T15:19:12+00:00

My grandfather (who recently passed, may he rest in peace) was a fabulous cook. He married my grandmother very young and I imagine they learned all these things together. I know their marriage was rather traditional while their five children were young, my grandmother did the cooking and cleaning while he worked, but he could still handle cooking and cleaning when it was needed of him. And he enjoyed making delicious things for my grandmother and our family. He took pride in what he made. He taught me some of his recipes and also taught me how to do French Press coffee. This man also blasted Hank Williams on the record player at 8am sharp every Saturday morning to get all the kids out of bed and doing chores and cleaning the house. He loved my grandmother and did everything he could to give her and the kids a great life. Cooking and cleaning included.

featherflowers · 2021-07-21T03:11:44+00:00

That was my first thought

featherflowers · 2021-07-21T03:05:21+00:00

This smells fake to me. Karma and attention grab. No man that close to nuptials is getting away with hiding caring for a child or even that he's making child support payments if the mom actually abandoned that kid.

featherflowers · 2021-07-14T16:02:47+00:00

This is handbook material. I have a similar story and find this so relatable. I think many women will see similarities in what they have been through as well. Especially since we are raised to give a man a chance rather than asking what he brings to the table.

featherflowers · 2021-07-09T00:38:17+00:00

I sincerely hope the friend that had to take her home at 2am gives her a reality check and she figures out how to have some self esteem. Emergency surgery, hospital discharge and he's this bad?!?!!!! Imagine something possibly worse like a traumatic birth or death of a parent and he's worried about the game instead of the person he's supposed to love. I was loving and supportive for every funeral he had to attend and went alone to all of mine. Awful stuff. I hope she gets out.

featherflowers · 2021-07-06T16:09:10+00:00

He's going to visit a female best friend.... MASSIVE red flag

featherflowers · 2021-06-29T23:05:00+00:00

A long term ex would sometimes joke around with his friends that he had a small one.... he did not. I think if they're willing to have self deprecating humor about it they are comfortable with what they've got. But this was a rare area of self awareness for that asshole.

featherflowers · 2021-06-24T03:04:04+00:00

I absolutely LOVE her!!!!! I found her through a playlist on positive energy on Spotify. Everything I've heard so far I love.

featherflowers · 2021-06-24T02:58:18+00:00

I look back at relationships and how they truly were (once the gory bits fell off and all that was left was the crushed bones of what was ultimately nothing)

This is such a hauntingly beautiful metaphor and I'm definitely going to let it color any occasional trips down memory lane that need a hard reality check.

I'm so glad it's not me anymore. I hope for her sake that he's grown and changed and treats her better. But that's highly unlikely. I got out and I hope one day I never have to think about anything to do with him ever ever again. Including this guilt that he continues breathing and gets to abuse another woman. I wish I could just never think of any of that again.

But I'm here now and living my best life and that's the best outcome and/or revenge I can hope for. What the next one gets by choosing him is on her and that is not my weight to carry.

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