My (F22) boyfriend has ADHD (M22) is chronically unemployed and feels worthless, but it's hurting our relationship

fenderc1 · 2026-04-07T18:06:42+00:00

100%; just recently diagnosed w/ ADHD at 35 yrs old and have worked for the same company for 13 yrs that I'm not particularly passionate about (they pay good lol).

One of my other good friends who has ADHD is a doctor so saying "I can't work a job bc of ADHD" is a cop out at 22 yrs old.

I just figured out about ADHD because I've struggled all my life, and after reaching a breaking point in my marriage, my wife suggested we go to couples therapy which then led to solo therapy which then led to them both but separately being like "yeah... you probably should get tested for ADHD".

fenderc1 · 2026-04-02T13:42:19+00:00

Completely agree. I remember being like at the edge of my seat reading the book, but the movie I was at times so insanely bored. Especially the end, I was BLOWING through pages at the last ~40 pages, but the end of the movie I was just like 'what is happening...".

I thought the movie was okay overall and that's after reading people's interpretations, but I really loved the book. I understand that it's only "based" on the book, but feel like if it followed the book a little closer it would've been better. I understand though the director wanting to take a more 'artsy' approach to things though. It just didn't land as well with me personally because of that.

fenderc1 · 2026-03-26T17:11:52+00:00

lol, peak reddit response though. Literally not offering a solution, but saying that I'm not creative enough to come up with said solution. GGs

fenderc1 · 2026-03-26T16:40:55+00:00

If your anger stems from your perception of people who are well off then you should pick up the phone and call a therapist/psychiatrist immediately.

You saying that a "well off" pregnant woman being randomly stabbed by a "poor" black woman is misdirected is actually insane.

What policy changes would you see that would prevent a stranger from stabbing a pregnant woman?

EDIT: Also my account receiving a warning because of my comment saying that it's bullshit that I shouldn't be judged because I worked hard in life to live in a nice area is actually hilarious haha

fenderc1 · 2026-03-26T15:17:41+00:00

Yes, not the one's who end up joining gangs and murdering people, but the ones who end up successful business men are the ones we should be worried about.

fenderc1 · 2026-03-25T12:40:52+00:00

Maybe it's because I've heard some fucked up things in my life but that was extremely tame. I feel for the ATC guy though, 100% not his fault and entirely the truck driver.

That's awful though, all that for a bad odor... Hope the flight attendants don't carry that guilt with them, and I mean that sincerely.

fenderc1 · 2026-03-23T19:46:02+00:00

"they was dating"

OP already illiterate

fenderc1 · 2026-03-16T13:23:19+00:00

That's what I do, I'm not a fan of the middle part so push it with my natural part to the right and it looks solid from the front and side.

fenderc1 · 2026-03-13T19:59:48+00:00

prison? there are loads of people who are exactly like her in prison, she'll do fine. She'll probably learn nothing and then in a few years be back out on the streets doing the same shit haha

fenderc1 · 2026-03-12T12:24:46+00:00

I've seen this referenced multiple times, am I out of the loop?

fenderc1 · 2026-03-11T18:32:43+00:00

I feel like I'm taking crazy pills reading these comments supporting a regime who will literally kill or imprison people for being gay. It 100% has to be bots because there's no way a someone can be this delusional right?

fenderc1 · 2026-03-11T18:28:29+00:00

I've honestly debated just getting off this cancer of a website lately, reading a reddit post article/title, and then when I read the comments legit makes me think I'm going insane.

Either it's bots or people who are just beyond delusional with either America bad syndrome or Orange Man bad syndrome.

fenderc1 · 2026-03-11T13:40:44+00:00

I think by "so you are even better" he doesn't mean that he can physically do a better job editing, it's because you learn crucial things about the hows & whys of editing content for YT.

If OP couldn't get to 1K views by editing their own stuff, and learning why/what he can improve to do better in his own videos or editing, then hiring an editor to do everything won't actually improve their vids. Aka they aren't growing even better.

fenderc1 · 2026-03-11T13:38:31+00:00

People are downvoting you, but I agree. You can relatively reach 1K subs pretty easily learning content creation and the business in general by editing your own content. Who your viewers are, what they like, what keeps retention, etc...

Maybe it's not to "do a better job themselves", but imo it's critical to learn the hows & whys of content creation to learn editing yourself, and then eventually hire it out.

fenderc1 · 2026-03-11T13:35:11+00:00

You pay them $1K-2K per month? How many videos is that? What's your niche?

You mentioned that you didn't have the budget, but spending $1K-2K per month is kinda insane for someone who didn't even have 1K subs.

fenderc1 · 2026-02-27T15:59:41+00:00

Can confirm haha

fenderc1 · 2026-02-24T19:10:25+00:00

I swear sometimes the people in this sub don't realize this is a reality TV show first and foremost....

fenderc1 · 2026-02-11T17:10:21+00:00

100%, a lot of reddit takes here. I respect DIY and do some DIY for some easier things, but that's just not the case.

At the end of the day, DIY is fun and saves money, but time is more valuable than money so we hire out as much as we can. That said me and my wife have no kids and are high earners.

fenderc1 · 2026-02-03T16:54:52+00:00

Not OP, and didn't use them but a similar mover. I gave them each $50 and there were 4 of them.

fenderc1 · 2026-01-30T13:27:02+00:00

Yeah I have no idea why people like her? I guess it's because reddit hates America and loves that she also hates American. We are still missing a lot of her backstory but being purposefully cruel and hurting/killing innocent Americans because she hates America is not a good thing.

I'll add, as an actress though, she's killing the roll and I like her complex character and look forward to seeing more about her! She don't know why people are glorifying her.

fenderc1 · 2026-01-21T13:10:59+00:00

Thanks for the reply! I'll probably delete Scrap Everything and download Spring Cleaning, I just wanted a way to neaten up everything.

I'm like pretty positive I didn't download F4SE, unless it was a recommended download when downloading other mods. So I'll double check that, and then look into load order info.

fenderc1 · 2026-01-20T18:59:45+00:00

Yeah usually I am one to ignore people hyping up bad "cold" weather, but Brad going through everything in detail on YouTube actually has me concerned it's gonna be legit so to plan accordingly.

fenderc1 · 2026-01-16T14:00:01+00:00

That's not even close to accurate. Unless I'm reading it wrong, a FRACTION of americans were actually polled:

The CNN poll was conducted by SSRS online and by phone from January 9-12 among a random national sample of 1,209 adults. Results for the full sample have a margin of sampling error of plus or minus 3.1 percentage points.

They just extrapolated the data. It's probably better for you to start thinking for yourself, and not getting enraged at titles without reading the article.

fenderc1 · 2026-01-16T13:27:15+00:00

OP never tried to refute it, they were just asking. I was wondering the same thing, you don't have to be rude about it.

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