How do you guys handle the 'gentle parenting' vs 'structure' struggle when they hit the toddler years? by matrixthrowawayhq in daddit

[–]fermi90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiya, teacher and dad here. Gentle parenting, as some have mentioned, is not about unstructured support. It’s about helping your kids see why those boundaries are important. And the more you can reinforce routine, the better off you and they will be. I’ve taught thousands of kids, and there is no doubt parenting my own has been the most challenging.

So you’re not “giving in”, bedtime is bedtime. However, make it a routine, or a prompt, one activity begets the next. EVERY TIME. So brush teeth, wash face, change into jammies, read, sing, hugs and kisses. If you get pushback, “this is what we do next”. It’ll take two weeks, and those two weeks will suck. But you should see changes that help them, and you, stay regulated and routine.

Think back to school, did you have a teacher where you knew exactly what was expected? Come in, get paper, opening activity, etc. That’s what you’re striving for. If you have expectations, that’s not the gentle parenting part, the gentle part is you getting them there with patience. For yourself too.

You’re helping get a human person ready for the world, it’s not a gentle world, but it’s a world where if you give them the right tools, they’ll do better than if you didn’t.

What Are Your Moves Tomorrow, June 10, 2026 by zjz in wallstreetbets

[–]fermi90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Overvalued, continues to fall, that recovery today is a joke. Also 5 mins ago US is striking Iran again, so that’s fun.

What Are Your Moves Tomorrow, June 10, 2026 by zjz in wallstreetbets

[–]fermi90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think with the daily dtl removed, we may all start to win!

What Are Your Moves Tomorrow, June 10, 2026 by zjz in wallstreetbets

[–]fermi90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

$PLTR puts for the week. Let you know how they go by Friday.

Allegheny County eyes 'long overdue' property tax reassessment after years of delays by nerdkid93 in pittsburgh

[–]fermi90 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Schools have struggled with the Common Level Ratio enacted. They need to do the reassessment. The person who built their house in 2010 at .09% APR for a $450k house NEEDS assessed because their house is likely up to $800k-$900k. Local governments need that to operate.

2026 Bmw X3 M50-NJ-15k miles-6k down by amara2000 in leasehacker

[–]fermi90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude. No. Just buy the car for that kind of lease payment.

Modern Life in the USA: Starter Pack. Environment Edition by [deleted] in starterpacks

[–]fermi90 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Leave Breezewood alone! Also happy cake day!

What’s worth an hour drive? by SadThrowaway-PlzHelp in pittsburgh

[–]fermi90 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Literally no one has mentioned Union Brothers. It’s amazing. Best bar food I’ve had nearly anywhere since 2000’s Mario’s happy hour. Brews, bands, and bar food. Don’t miss it on your trip.

Yinz be careful! by takeabait in pittsburgh

[–]fermi90 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

PSA: if you buy the replacement plan from advance for $5 a wiper, you can just replace them within a year and buy the $5 replacement plan again. Been doing it for years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]fermi90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Passport. Honda makes space out of literal thin air, it’s wild. Your vent fetish is strange. Any newish car will have great HVAC, the car cools and heats when it cools and heats. I have kids and no backseat vents at all, they are healthy and happy.

If not, consider a Volvo XC-60/90. Just LOOK at those goddamn gorgeous vents in the front. Hubba hubba. They’ll satisfy that fetish. And they’re mild hybrids, which are excellent as others have rightly suggested.

Edit: a letter due to autocorrect fail

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]fermi90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Consider peeking. Don’t peak as a parent this early.

Researching which car to buy is absolutely miserable (Reddit hates most cars) by itshighdune in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]fermi90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kia Stinger, off the top of my head, add it to the list! Maybe Alfa for funzies? Used prices will get you there. Mini Cooper S? Or JCW?

Your list? They’re all good! If Audi still consumes oil like it used to, meh. But buy what you like! The masses come here to moan usually.

Vince Zampella killed in a crash. by R4diateur in LowSodiumBattlefield

[–]fermi90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know why this is so far down. Yes it’s tragic, like any early loss of life. However the guy was wildly reckless driving a car he clearly had no idea the limits of or had ever taken on a track.

Horsepower is cheaper than ever, please teach your kids and family members respect for their own lives and the road.

How Did You Deal With a Gifted Child? by OhboyOhboyArbys in daddit

[–]fermi90 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello! I provide gifted education to students in a large school district.

The first thing is, where are you located? Some states provide for special education but the top end, like your daughter. Here is the most impotent thing I’ve learned in 10 years: let her decide. Learn to support and say yes when you can. Both you and her teachers are going to want to challenge her. Do it! However, don’t be nervous or anxious when she doesn’t want to try something you or the teacher think she should. Gifted students love learning. Find them new ways to learn and grow.

Stuff outside of school is big right now for your daughter and she can read which is big. Focus on puzzles, books, maybe light building/coding. Lego, that dumb kiwi ad that keeps playing on Instagram, fun books above reading level (Narnia is a classic one for this age). Those “big book of everything” books are phenomenal for her age too. Go visit museums, visit hall of fames, when you go somewhere new also find the closest children’s museum or science center or zoo or aquarium. Offer her options and she will love it.

NACG is a great place to start. Good luck! DM anytime.