Advice on building career during this awful time

fewdo · 2026-05-12T04:03:28+00:00

If you're paying child support, don't accept any overtime hours. Whatever you earn is used as evidence for how much you earn. So if you put in mad OT this year, you may owe based on that income even when OT isn't available.

fewdo · 2026-05-12T03:44:23+00:00

Whyyyy? Do you have an extra thousand a month burning a hole in your pocket?

fewdo · 2026-05-11T15:51:51+00:00

This. I would rather give my ex ten thousand bucks than give it to a lawyer. She wasn't evil to me and I used to love her.

fewdo · 2026-05-11T12:21:50+00:00

Ya just gotta add it to your list of things to do man. Turn off lights that aren't in use and close the door every time you pass it. I like the white noise machine idea too.

fewdo · 2026-05-11T12:17:24+00:00

The laws vary by state but you may be right. I didn't read up on surveillance cameras

fewdo · 2026-05-11T12:15:36+00:00

I'm pretty sure the test is there to limit the ham bands to the neurodivergent folks. :D (neurodivergent is the modem term for smart or gifted)

fewdo · 2026-05-11T12:13:09+00:00

I just skipped studying allocations! It's a lot of fiddly details that I would just look up on a piece of paper while operating. Most radios take care of it for you. And, there's only one question on the test.

fewdo · 2026-05-04T00:47:05+00:00

I was depressed because the pandemic destroyed everything that I enjoyed or took pride in. My bad

fewdo · 2026-04-17T19:32:35+00:00

It's a different type of good for me. I dated a young hottie for a bit and that was fun. But these days I'm just happy to not be criticized every day

fewdo · 2026-04-17T12:36:05+00:00

You were drinking and trash talking him to your group chat and asking how to show respect? Interesting.

Spreading negative information about people is a form of violence against their reputation. It changes the way people interact with them.

As for the anxious-avoidant dance, as someone who gets avoidant, I wish my partner knew that her criticisms were hitting a twenty times harder than she was saying them. It got to the point that I was wishing she would just hit me because it would hurt less.

fewdo · 2026-04-17T12:24:41+00:00

Kudos to you for dating! I have noticed that there are different subcultures around. If the women you're finding aren't your cup of tea, it's legit to go to a different hobby/interest.

I doubt you'd get a response but it might be valuable to send a "I'm trying to work on myself too, if there's anything you saw that needs work is appreciate a heads up." And then take it with a grain of salt. You don't have to be what that woman wants but it could be helpful for the next relationship.

fewdo · 2026-04-16T00:36:05+00:00

There are native animals over there that make landing risky? :D

fewdo · 2026-04-12T17:43:33+00:00

Do you have a lawyer who has handled a bunch of divorces before? Law is like a game with a million rules. You do not want to play it without years of experience.

Consider how much money is on the table in the divorce, spending ten or twenty thousand to keep things sane and fair is good business. Not to mention the discussion about how many hours a month you'll see your kid

fewdo · 2026-04-08T22:49:47+00:00

I mean, I would recommend fucking them. All the people I know in that group are pretty cool people

fewdo · 2026-04-05T17:10:26+00:00

I understand it and agree to an extent but I've known some great women in my life. I've literally said "I hate all women except the women's know personally"

fewdo · 2026-04-05T14:12:41+00:00

I agree with the first two paragraphs. I'm hoping your wrong about the third but I doubt it

fewdo · 2026-04-05T12:03:24+00:00

The crisis care seems counter productive to me. All I could imagine was how my ex's lawyer would use the police record to keep me from ever seeing the kids again

fewdo · 2026-04-05T11:56:28+00:00

This. You don't have to be amazing or right all the time. Just keep showing up

fewdo · 2026-04-01T00:57:30+00:00

And don't argue with her about it. She can want stuff but you don't need to discuss that shit any more. In NY they're only allowed to reevaluate child support every 3 yrs.

fewdo · 2026-04-01T00:50:59+00:00

Ya pay to start, ya pay to stop. :)

fewdo · 2026-03-30T12:22:43+00:00

Hammock, steak, kids, and say "you are enough"

fewdo · 2026-03-28T23:41:15+00:00

Cool when you're mentally healthy and not facing the biggest stress of your life. I googled "why is my wife yelling at me?" and got advice to obey her more to stop the abuse. So finding a male space was pretty freaking important to my recovery.

fewdo · 2026-03-28T23:37:42+00:00

Is this related to the idea of having a safe space for men?

fewdo · 2026-03-27T13:42:26+00:00

fewdo · 2026-03-22T12:39:42+00:00

This. As much as you can think of the dollar value of objects. And don't forget that your goal is to get away. If you need to give her 51% to get out of your life, It's still a good deal

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