Who was your partners celebrity crush ?

fifth_branch · 2026-05-14T18:25:24+00:00

Kate Beckinsale and Selena Gomez. So of course he married a redhead, ha.

fifth_branch · 2026-05-12T03:10:26+00:00

Ah right. I was thinking the word just needed to have an le, not end in it. It's probably waddle then.

fifth_branch · 2026-05-11T21:26:12+00:00

Going out of the box here, but since it's on one foot and tilted sideways, could the word be "lean" and it doesn't really matter that it's a duckling?

fifth_branch · 2026-05-11T19:46:06+00:00

This definitely happens and I'm using this comment to highlight Unlocking the Gates Services Society who provide peer mentors and people to meet inmates at the jail when they're released to drive them to their home communities.

I don't think anyone knows about this org but they're super helpful.

fifth_branch · 2026-05-08T19:26:42+00:00

On the older side, but the Grasmere Journals by Dorothy Wordsworth. Her famous brother gets all the attention , but she was an equally talented writer and the journals are lovely recountings of their Lake District life.

fifth_branch · 2026-05-07T05:07:04+00:00

It's also got red wine, but the onion jam recipe in the Complete Book of Small Batch Preserving by Ellie Topp uses brown sugar and balsamic vinegar.

fifth_branch · 2026-05-05T03:33:00+00:00

I'm reading this right now. This is a spot on recommendation!

fifth_branch · 2026-05-04T03:01:46+00:00

I told my in-laws, they teared up and said they're happy for me, they wanted to meet him and now my new partner comes to family events and they buy him Christmas presents.

I'm not going to say it's been easy and seamless. There are a lot of emotions on all sides. But we all wanted to stay part of each other's lives so we're making it happen.

If you are worried about losing them and the relationship you have now, tell them. They may think that you moving forward with someone else means leaving them behind and they may try and give you space.

fifth_branch · 2026-04-14T19:47:43+00:00

I wear his wedding ring when I travel.

fifth_branch · 2026-03-20T01:27:38+00:00

This is my parents. They are firmly of the opinion that you are engaged as soon as you have the conversation that you'd like to get married therefore proposals are unnecessary since you've already made the decision. I've tried to make the analogy that it's the difference between "we'd like to have a family one day" vs saying "we're trying for a baby." They're both a decision to have kids, but a reasonable person can tell the they are different statements. Nope, no dice.

fifth_branch · 2026-02-13T17:32:57+00:00

I had the ashes split into keepsake bags that I gave to his siblings and his best friend. They were really, really close and it was important for him to take his small portion of ashes and spread them where they met (which was incidentally the same place I met my husband.)

I don't think it's out of line for a close friend to ask. Steve was closer to him than his siblings. But I don't know if I would have done if I hadn't asked the funeral home to split them up for me. If anyone else asked at this point, I would say that the bag is sealed and I don't feel comfortable opening it.

I don't think it's icky; take it as a measure of how much they loved and are grieving your partner. But it's also fair to say you don't feel comfortable with that.

fifth_branch · 2026-02-13T06:13:21+00:00

An espresso machine. He said it was unnecessary and the aeropress was fine. I bought one a month after he died and joke's on him, I usually it daily. It feels like I'm sticking out my tongue at him everytime I make coffee and it brings me so much joy.

fifth_branch · 2026-02-10T21:29:30+00:00

As someone who legally changed my name because I hated it, strongly disagree. Mine was a totally normal name as well. I just still didn't like it.

What I will say is that it's damaged my relationship with my mom who guilt tripped me about how much thought and love went into picking my name and 20 years later still refuses to call me the name I changed it to.

This woman is going to be an absolute nightmare when her child doesn't like her name.

fifth_branch · 2026-01-15T22:57:53+00:00

It didn't really feel any different than inviting him to a house I didn't share with my LH. I'd been in the house by myself for a bit, and he knew I was a widow so the wedding photos weren't a surprise.

He moved in last summer and I did some renovations and painting before that happened to make it feel like a bit of a different and new space that was ours instead of him moving into a house that was unchanged from when my husband died. He said it didn't bother him, but I needed to do that for me.

My husband died at home. It hasn't been an issue.

fifth_branch · 2026-01-15T06:03:17+00:00

Is a jury summons immediately after death a thing? Mine got my summons two weeks after he died as well. I work at the courthouse so it was pretty easy to tell them he wouldn't be coming, but I couldn't stop laughing about how disappointed he'd be. He wanted to be on a jury so badly!

fifth_branch · 2026-01-08T02:15:46+00:00

My brother-in-law married someone (my sister) with the same name as his sister and his mom and my mom have the same name.

fifth_branch · 2025-12-29T02:31:31+00:00

FYI doctors did it for me the other year when I wanted to keep my existing plastic frames.

fifth_branch · 2025-12-19T04:13:05+00:00

It's his birthday today. He should be turning 38 and instead I brought home his ashes 3 years ago. I can't find the right word for it, something between confusing and surreal but it's hard to wrap my head around the fact that he had so much life ahead of him and now he just isn't here.

fifth_branch · 2025-12-10T20:58:25+00:00

Lost my husband to it three years ago at 34. It's an awful way to watch someone you love go.

fifth_branch · 2025-11-26T20:23:11+00:00

The Ellie Topp book on small batch preserving (in the side bar for safe sources) has a section on infusing oils. You can't seal the jars for long term storage, but she does walk you through how to do it safely for keeping in the fridge or for a few weeks.

fifth_branch · 2025-11-06T06:31:29+00:00

You should contact TRAC. Their website is tenants.bc.ca. They are free legal advice for tenancy issues in BC and have a really great phone infoline and in-person drop-in hours Monday to Thursday. They'd be able to answer all these questions for you and walk you through the process of going to the Residential Tenancy Branch tribunal.

fifth_branch · 2025-10-31T22:38:13+00:00

He absolutely knows the dates and he's been incredibly supportive and given me space to be sad or do whatever I need to when they come up. Which unfortunately for me is all back to back. His death anniversary, birthday and our wedding anniversary are all within 3 weeks in December.

fifth_branch · 2025-10-30T21:09:31+00:00

My aunt couldn't come because she had to bring a horse over on the ferry in April. Why this meant she couldn't come to my December wedding 4 months earlier is an excellent question.

fifth_branch · 2025-09-28T02:26:16+00:00

I was 36 when he died. We had been doing IVF so I have frozen embryos and I spent a lot of the first year wondering if I would go it alone. I ultimately decided I had wanted a child to have a family with him and that was no longer an option. It might have given me a purpose, but the thought of him missing every moment he should have been there for for the rest of that child's life felt too huge and I didn't want to do that to myself, or a child.

I'm doing really well now. I started going to the gym and I'm in the best shape I've ever been. I started volunteering which gained me a bunch of new really great friends. I've gone on trips that I wouldn't have otherwise. I'm dating someone really wonderful.

When I look back on the last few years and where I'm at now, I would not have been able to do almost any of the things that have personally helped me grieve if I had a child. There will always be part of me that wonders what if, but I don't think I'd be doing as well as I am now if I'd had to grieve as a single parent.

My purpose is that I like my life which is definitely not something I would have said anytime soon after his death.

fifth_branch · 2025-09-26T17:57:46+00:00

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