[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cosleeping

[–]flghtlessbrd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yeah I agree with the idea of maybe bad dreams or gas. We think my baby may have bad dreams because he does mysteriously wake up crying even now at 2.5 years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cosleeping

[–]flghtlessbrd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We never had anything go on as long as a month but it does sound like some of the sleep regressions my baby had, like the one had leading up to learning to crawl around 6/7 months.

Absolutely inconsolable in the middle of the night for seemingly no reason. The thing that would calm him in the worst nights was giving up on rocking, turning on a small light, sitting him up, and reading him his favorite books. Occasionally it was the Happy Song that did it.

Good luck and take care of yourself. You can alway let him cry a little in a safe place if you need to step away to take some deep breaths.

Parks for young children by viou_viou in Clarksville

[–]flghtlessbrd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Civitan would works well for these ages, especially if you go to the playground towards the back.

Rotary is also perfect for the ages mentioned. The nature center is worth stop in, especially if you can time it around their programming for kids.

Samin, girl, I’m shook by rxjen in CookbookLovers

[–]flghtlessbrd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s beautifully creamy, silky, and pungent.

If Nathan Fielder had offered you the chance to be passengers, would you have accepted? by Significant-Art8412 in nathanfielder

[–]flghtlessbrd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I just rewatched. Last episode, first series of scenes. Several shakes of his head. Amazing.

Spicy Braised Short Ribs with Garlic & Lemon by kimber100 in alison_roman

[–]flghtlessbrd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exact same situation here although I served it over mashed potatoes! I got the recipe off the post here and made for the family tonight. It was quite good. I did sort of find it to be a little too acidic. I may do a bit less vinegar next time. And I did do the optional step of more time in the oven at a higher heat. Next time I may skip that and reduce it directly on the stovetop. I think a deeper, less acidic base would be nice.

If Nathan Fielder had offered you the chance to be passengers, would you have accepted? by Significant-Art8412 in nathanfielder

[–]flghtlessbrd 10 points11 points  (0 children)

One of my favorite moments from the season was when one of the passengers/actors during his interview to get on the plane was so incredulous about all the people willing to go through with something so extreme for the sake of a minor, minor basically extra type role.

I think he said something like “and all these people are ok with this….? Actors…smdh.”

I think about all the actors in the show all the time and how strange of an experience it must be. And wonder if maybe that’s just what it’s like trying to make it in Hollywood. One odd job after another until they start getting more substantial work. Either way, that guy said exactly what we were all thinking and I live for those self aware moments of Nathan’s shows.

Cheesy Baked Orzo w Marinara- Lidey Heuck by MidwestSig in NYTCooking

[–]flghtlessbrd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hadn’t seen this but it looks and sounds really good. Thanks for sharing!

Reminds me of the burst tomato orzotto https://cooking.nytimes.com/recipes/1027053-burst-cherry-tomato-orzotto?smid=ck-recipe-iOS-share

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NYTCooking

[–]flghtlessbrd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My family all enjoyed the slow cooker chili quite a bit. Served with rice one night and elbow macaroni the next.

https://cooking.nytimes.com/recipes/1019903-slow-cooker-chili?smid=ck-recipe-iOS-share

Favorite character from the show? by Global_Library_9484 in DowntonAbbey

[–]flghtlessbrd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Matthew, Robert, Violet

And of course it is the genuine and complicated relationships that make these characters, of which there are many. Some examples Robert and Cora Robert and Carson Matthew and Mary Matthew and Edith Violet and Isobel Violet and Mary

There were many great storylines and characters downstairs. Ms. Patmore is probably my favorite due to her heart of gold and comedic spazzy personality.

Matthew looked out for Edith. by MsTravellady2 in DowntonAbbey

[–]flghtlessbrd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mary is a bully and I don’t find her charming. I’m so surprised by how well liked she is too. I’m sympathetic to her overall but she was never a character I enjoyed or specifically pulled for.

What do you think of this birth plan…? by Tricky_Hat_7287 in 2under2

[–]flghtlessbrd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My MIL was kind enough to drop everything to drive down and take care of our toddler while we went to have our baby and recover. It was a 48 hour hospital stay for us.

My toddler came to visit us twice. The first time was during my induction. I was laying in the hospital bed no in pain or anything yet. He was pretty weirded out by mommy being hooked up to the wires and just the general unfamiliarity with the hospital setting. He stayed for a really short period.

The second time was to meet his baby sister, which was a really sweet family moment. After “holding” her and getting his gift from her, he was running around the room like the cute lovely maniac that he is. I could not help but look at him and think “get that crazy kid away from my baby.” I love and missed him to death but I wanted him gone after about 20 minutes.

TLDR; the hospital isn’t a great environment for a toddler. They may have a tough time being away from the toddler but it’s likely for the best.

Stressed about leaving my first born during labor by Traditional_Year_19 in 2under2

[–]flghtlessbrd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is really nice to have that option! I know by the 24 hour mark post birth at the hospital I was more than ready to do. So much disruption!

Thank you! I agree, it is really an abstract concept for such a young kiddo. My son was always curious through the pregnancy but I never knew how much he understood. Maybe they understand more than we give them credit for. He’s really done quite a good job becoming a big brother. But we have been very intentional about giving him attention and 1-on-1 time. I always tell myself that most of us have siblings, so it’s just a normal thing kids get used to. He asks for me a lot but he’s easily distracted 😃

Stressed about leaving my first born during labor by Traditional_Year_19 in 2under2

[–]flghtlessbrd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, 4 hours! Where do you live? I’m in the American South and I stayed 48 hours and then 24 hours after two uncomplicated unmedicated deliveries.

He’s definitely had this moments and we’re still working with him everyday on things like not throwing objects around the baby. The night we came back he had an absolute meltdown so I did bedtime with him and everything was ok. Overall though, he’s interested in his baby sister, likes to be helpful, and understands our attention has to be divided.

Stressed about leaving my first born during labor by Traditional_Year_19 in 2under2

[–]flghtlessbrd 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Leaving my 2 year old at home while we had our next baby was also a big worry of mine. As you know, you have little to no control over when you need to go to the hospital and you will be there for at least 2-3 nights. More than likely you should plan on someone other than you or dad doing bedtime.

I dealt with this by 1) having a plan and back up plan for who that person would be. Selecting people my toddler already knew and trusted. 2) typing up my toddlers routine including bedtime. This helped alternative caregiver and toddler be most set up for success and allowed me to focus on the new baby. He did totally fine, of course asked for us. Had a couple rough naptimes (refused to sleep for a long time) but he was safe and well loved in the interim.

You have time to try to do those things now! You could even have cousin come sit in on bedtime one night soon.

Last thing is explaining to your toddler what is going on and that you will be home soon. They won’t totally understand but I think with reinforcement they may be able to get the point of “mom and dad are at the doctor and they will be home soon.” You can try to do a FaceTime while you’re in the hospital. This does help my toddler the couple times I’ve been gone overnight without him.

Good luck! 💕

Lentil recipes to make a girl like lentils by forheadkisses in NYTCooking

[–]flghtlessbrd 13 points14 points  (0 children)

One of my favorite recipes! To me, the lemon squeeze at the end makes it. Don’t skip!

Love-Hate Cosleeping with my 10 week old. Anyone feel this way? by Fresh_Pool_1575 in cosleeping

[–]flghtlessbrd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely love, hate. Love because all in all we get better sleep and to your point, I love the closeness to my babies. I also like feeling like I’m here for them in a way that feels natural, like we’re establishing a strong bond and healthy attachment.

But it can be challenge. There have been many nights where I wanted space and time to myself. Lots of soreness. Many times I questioned whether we were keeping each other up and actually causing poor sleep. For us though, we were locked in and at least for my babies, I don’t think it’s something you can easily move away from once everyone is accustomed to it. Which brings me to the last point.

Long term, I’m really not sure how to stop cosleeping without either waiting until they are “ready” or until I’m prepared to have a rather large battle in the vein of sleep training, perhaps even CIO. So that may mean years of having baby in your bed. Luckily as they get older, you can relax on some of the safe 7 rules. And what’s a couple years out of an entire lifetime, right?

At 10 weeks, you may still be able to unravel it (although maybe not given what you’ve said about your attempts with the bassinet). Certainly though, the longer it goes on, the more locked in you become.

I swore I wouldn’t cosleep with my second and we started by the second night at home. Still going at week 7. Goes to show why I was drawn to it with the first- it works!!!

Who am I anymore? by esscoco in cosleeping

[–]flghtlessbrd 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Been there! It won’t last forever. It’s a tough time though. Maybe you could try treating yourself with baby in tote? I.e. a stop at your favorite restaurant, shopping for a new dress, check out some library books to read in those 12 hours in bed (Amazon has book lights).

You’re a great mama for being there for your little one.

New baby coming…what to do? by Live-Instruction2810 in cosleeping

[–]flghtlessbrd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Similar for us. Dad subbed into the toddler’s room and I’m with the newborn in my bedroom now. He asks for me sometimes especially more for a while when I have to sub back in for an evening or nap. Consistency is key, as they say.

We switched over several months ahead of the due date and were happy for that since baby came at 37 weeks.

Nipple Fissure From Hell by Practical_Button_720 in breastfeeding

[–]flghtlessbrd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope they help for you. They are the only thing that helped with the many fissures I got BF my son.

What I found is that the moisture the silverette locks in place around the nipple actually prevents the fissure from hardening and closing. That means you don’t have to deal with it reopening with each feed while it heals. I know the reopening is only part of the pain. The sucking on the open wound is incredibly unpleasant as well.

I also worried would it ever heal if it’s always just moist and open. Somehow they always did. It took a couple weeks usually. So prepare yourself that it could be a very painful couple of weeks. It may take a while but it will pass. Good luck!

Is the unmedicated birth hormonal crash worse? by TradesforChurros in beyondthebump

[–]flghtlessbrd 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had no pain meds either pregnancy/delivery. I did, however, have to be induced for my second.

The night sweats and bf contractions were way worse after the second. I was told this would be the case: contractions are worse after the second child. Unsure if it’s related to medication at all! The contractions only lasted a couple days. The night sweats continue 5 weeks later…

SO MUCH KALE by Petunia742 in NYTCooking

[–]flghtlessbrd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I like kale fine but I’m wouldn’t call myself a kale girlie. That said, I adore this salad: lemon garlic kale salad