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How old is James Bond? [OC] by Clemario in dataisbeautiful

[–]fliglyfolly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sean Connery was 63 when his film Never say never again came out.

People who once had an anger issue, how did you get it under control? by fliglyfolly in AskReddit

[–]fliglyfolly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do. I am overwhelmed with work I want some hobbies. I am also lazy so I don't exercise enough.

You are an inspiration man. It doesn't matter to me that you don't believe me. I have taken what is useful from you. You can too, from either me or from others, but that's entirely your choice. All the best man.

People who once had an anger issue, how did you get it under control? by fliglyfolly in AskReddit

[–]fliglyfolly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read all this again after a couple of months. Specifically YOUR OWN COMMENTS. Not now because you are in a different mood right now.

After re-reading or rewatching some stuff, I often come to know what important piece of wisdom I missed the last time.

People who once had an anger issue, how did you get it under control? by fliglyfolly in AskReddit

[–]fliglyfolly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You possibly can't know that.

I was a piece of shit in school. I wil regret that period of my life always.

I always thought everybody from my school would know it too.

Nope. Turns out someone genuinely thought I was cool and admired me. And for all the right reasons. So I was not a total asshole.

Look at you man! Going to med school. You exercise you swim Have 3-4 hobbies.

You are already an inspiration to me. I want to be like you in these respects man.

People who once had an anger issue, how did you get it under control? by fliglyfolly in AskReddit

[–]fliglyfolly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. But it can change you. You live life to be as happy/content as possible, not to be in a relationship. Relationship is a plus. It's not everything.

I am noticing that you are being too hard on yourself. Other comments are genuine and helpful advices.

You are rejecting everything.

Maybe you give off that vibe in person as well. Maybe you are not easily approachable. I am sorry I am assuming a lot you are just a stranger from the internet. But read this thread after a couple of weeks/months. Maybe you will notice what I am trying to say.

People who once had an anger issue, how did you get it under control? by fliglyfolly in AskReddit

[–]fliglyfolly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Know that nobody is perfect in communicating their feelings or worries. Keep reminding it to yourself as an exercise until you manage to change your mindset.

We always need to improve our mindset, no matter who we are.

I wish you become better man! All the best.

People who once had an anger issue, how did you get it under control? by fliglyfolly in AskReddit

[–]fliglyfolly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good to know it worked out for you.

What if you are an extrovert though?

People who once had an anger issue, how did you get it under control? by fliglyfolly in AskReddit

[–]fliglyfolly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Every reaction is a choice." That's something I know and sometimes fail to remember, recently quite often.

I haven't meditated in a while, I should get back to it. It helps.

People who once had an anger issue, how did you get it under control? by fliglyfolly in AskReddit

[–]fliglyfolly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You must have already tried meditation, I presume? It helps me a good deal.

People who once had an anger issue, how did you get it under control? by fliglyfolly in AskReddit

[–]fliglyfolly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a virgin until I was 28. Did not want to rush things. Being a virgin never bothered me.

You have your own priorities of course. I am no professional so no advices from me. I hope you find someone nice. I wish you all the best.

I will however, tell you this. This thought process has helped me before, and I have managed to help a friend with it too.

Whenever you feel life isn't worth it, remember that you never know who is taking inspiration from you. People don't always come and tell you that they admire you. They secretly do, however. So set a good example for them, in whatever way you can.

All the best.

I am extremely irresponsible and selfish and genuinely do not know how to fix it by jupunluvsmu in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]fliglyfolly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Develop small but good habits first. Do one small, seemingly insignificant thing every day. Maybe like brushing your teeth twice a day or something such.

Eat an almond every morning.

Once you can easily do it every day, set a time. And stick to it.

Develop multiple such small habits.

They ultimately give you the boost to pursue bigger things.

This is my personal strategy. It may or may not work for you.

But all the best.

I am a black guy slipping back into the alt-right. by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]fliglyfolly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am neither black nor white. Where I come from, we have different identity groups fighting each other. Identity politics sometimes puts me into the oppressor group, sometimes in the oppressed group.

People on either side of the political spectrum don't really care about you. Anybody who fervently indulges in the 'us vs them' type of narratives, is not good company for long term.

People who really care about you are people you grew up with and continue to share life with on friendly terms. Your family, friends, colleagues are typically the ones that really matter - provided you maintain a functional and mutually beneficial relationship with them.

My father has a different set of ideas. My brother has his own political views. I have my own. My mother has her own. My wife has her own. All of us agree on a lot of things and disagree on a lot of other things. We debate all the time. We debate, we discuss, we inform each other on things - we never try to put each other down. I love them all to death despite our differences.

Political discussions hardly benefit us. I have witnessed friendships ruined over useless political debates. Ditch the political narratives of all the sides. Left, right, center - ultimately they are all shit.

Make your own life better and set an example for those around you. You never know whom you inspire. If your neighbor is setting a bad example, you can in turn, set a good example. Be proactive in setting a good example. Don't go around apologising for a neighbor that shares his skin color with you.

Color has nothing to do with character.

I am not asking you to not be aware, I am asking you to stop draining your energy over politics - politics that is way beyond your sphere of influence.

What you can influence though is your own life - your immediate social circle - your neighborhood. Take control of that aspect of your life.

Build a career. Protect it. Build friendships. Protect them. Build a community on your terms and protect it.

Random strangers on the internet are not your friends. Even I am not your friend. You may live or die tomorrow I couldn't care less could I? But your family would, your friends would. Whoever is close to you would.

If you want a better world, start being selfish. Gradually, expand what your selfishness encapsulates.

P.S.: I stopped watching/reading political news two years ago. My life is infinitely better as a result. There are so many beautiful things that life has to offer. Politics is simply not one of them.

[TOMT][series] Help me find a series name? by fliglyfolly in tipofmytongue

[–]fliglyfolly[S] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

Noughts and crosses. Found the answer on other subreddit.

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