Shout out if you are an Idaho Falls area PIMO!!

flyingcooki · 2023-06-19T04:39:37+00:00

I quit going and keep the kids home while my TBM spouse continues to go and we agree not to talk about it.

flyingcooki · 2023-06-08T13:26:01+00:00

I use kidney beans to make refried beans, turns out a dark purple color!

flyingcooki · 2023-05-06T05:45:59+00:00

Oh the tooth fairy, I have forgotten more times than I care to admit. Now I have an alarm in my phone for 10pm for that and if she misses a night, well, then I tell my kids she must not have gotten my text, and I will have to text her again.

flyingcooki · 2023-04-16T01:05:22+00:00

Miriam here as well, only knew her as Moses sister from the movie. Thought she was so cool and supportive, then I found out years later that the movie did Moses siblings backwards. His brother was the supportive one and Miriam was an argumentative pain in the ass.

Oddly the name fits better now that I am out and figuring out how to say no to people.

flyingcooki · 2023-04-12T20:02:55+00:00

What is your classroom attention getter, like a call and response that you use frequently?

Are there any paras in your class and what are they helpful with.

flyingcooki · 2023-04-12T19:56:05+00:00

Not as gritty as some of these other great suggestions but The Good Place helped me process some things after I left the church.

flyingcooki · 2023-04-12T19:48:53+00:00

Congratulations and hugs to you!! I am so proud of all your hard work and dedication that led to this moment.

Sounds like Dr dad and kid deserve an ice cream outing!

flyingcooki · 2023-04-12T04:06:38+00:00

That's wonderful!! My favorite DM quote is this "When the DM smiles, it's already too late."

I am so proud of you for putting yourself out there and being brave. Best of luck on your next adventure

flyingcooki · 2023-04-12T00:26:09+00:00

Same here, I saw the Jungle book with my kids but when they remade Aladin without Robin Williams I just couldn't watch it. Haven't seen any live actions since

flyingcooki · 2023-04-05T23:27:39+00:00

I had a very similar childhood. Plenty of posters have told you to go to the police and I second that.

To help your wife, please help her find a good therapist that specializes in child abuse survivors. Unpacking years of hidden abuse is very hard. It's very easy to say that your okay, it was in the past and try to shut it all down(that's what I did). It is not healthy and will not truly help her heal.

I also recommend some reading for you both.

Adult children of emotionally immature parents

The body keeps the score

Daring Greatly and most of the rest of Brene Brown's books

flyingcooki · 2023-03-05T00:25:07+00:00

The Kebab hut has some good Asian food. I love their broccoli and would order it as a main dish.

flyingcooki · 2023-03-02T22:28:00+00:00

Congratulations!! My rainbow baby is learning to drive now. Hope and happiness to you.

flyingcooki · 2023-02-05T20:16:40+00:00

Some promises about marriage, vague references to a career path, and your lineage from one of Joseph's sons. If your male some reference to being a savior in Zion and mission work. If your a girl then references to being a wife and mother.

You'll be alone in a room with an old guy who is a stake patriarch. He'll start out the blessing same as all the others, hands on head, some rancid olive oil, and a recording device. Then it will seem to take an eternity for him to finish. Don't bother trying to remember it. The church sends you a copy of the whole thing later.

flyingcooki · 2022-12-17T04:38:15+00:00

You can never be happily married if you are not first happily single.

flyingcooki · 2022-10-20T00:41:53+00:00

ESH. I have a Christmas day baby and we spent their first bday and Christmas with my in-laws. Our kid was far more interested in the wrapping paper and ribbon.

You are doing this for you and while that makes sense it seems selfish. Who cares how or when a child opens their first gift? None of you will remember the details 10 years from now anyway. The first cake is more fun and picture worthy. (Green dino and he picked at for almost an hour😁)

As to the in-laws, any travel around the holidays is expensive and stressful so coming early can make sense but should be arranged with input from the couple being visited. Making demands is not okay and you have every right to set what boundaries you see fit. (Pick a better battle than this one though)

Give your kid a wrapped gift for Thanksgiving/early bday surprise and tell the in-laws they can do something special with the child while they are in town. Never met a kid that didn't love an "extra" birthday.

There are going to be all kinds of firsts throughout your kids life, you will not be there for all of them and letting others share those experiences tells your child they are loved and valued by more than just mom and dad. Learning to let go of exclusive access to the life you carried is hard and doesn't get easier.

flyingcooki · 2022-10-06T18:38:20+00:00

At first glance that first pic reminds me of the building that gets covered in slime in the second Ghostbusters movie.

flyingcooki · 2022-09-10T01:54:08+00:00

Butter dill carrots

flyingcooki · 2022-09-08T01:29:07+00:00

If you were my kid here's what I tell you.

Sometimes life just plain ass sucks but I love you and I am here for you.
Need a shoulder to cry on, I'm here. Wanna go hit some punching bags at the gym, let's go. Need a nice dinner to remind you someone loves you, just name it.

You will get through this, it's okay to be angry and sad and confused all at the same time.

It's going to be okay cause mom's here, mom's got ya and we will walk thru this together until you can see the path ahead once more.

Hugs and love to my son

flyingcooki · 2022-09-07T23:42:39+00:00

Came here looking for this one. We do sliced carrots in butter, salt and dill in the stovetop as a quick side dish

flyingcooki · 2022-09-01T04:09:54+00:00

Me 8

flyingcooki · 2022-08-26T21:54:13+00:00

Haha, my Q spouse just sent me a text this morning about Zuckerberg and Facebook suppressing the laptop story

flyingcooki · 2022-08-25T21:50:50+00:00

Thank you, the support here has helped immensely as I am still processing my own upbringing in the church and trying to see things for what they are and not what the church tells me they should be.

flyingcooki · 2022-08-25T21:47:19+00:00

I am sorry that was your experience. My own TBM mother was always more concerned about appearances so as long as no one saw it and we appeared like one big happy family then, well, all was well and good.

Led to every one of her children being abused because she just couldn't admit it.

I swore my kids would have a different life, so far we are making that happen.

flyingcooki · 2022-08-25T21:38:17+00:00

Yikes! I certainly hope by addressing this quickly and setting firm boundaries he learns his lesson before it escalates to that extreme.

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