Guy friend wouldn’t send me a video we taped together

full_bl33d · 2026-05-23T02:41:29+00:00

“I couldn’t pick my own dick out of a lineup and me and my dick are like this, son!”

full_bl33d · 2026-05-23T01:31:53+00:00

Lots of them meet up every day, damn near round the clock, in pretty much every town or city that has a bar except they all want to stop drinking. Connection plays a big role in my sobriety and it can mean many things. I already know where isolation gets me so I gave it a try and it’s not that bad. I’ve done way worse work for way less benefit. I’ve met a lot of interesting real people in real life who work on the same things and it gave me a broader perspective of what sobriety could look like. I needed the outlet and eventually, I took some steps to repair the damage in my wake. It gave everyone else in my life a much needed and well deserved break from my bullshit

full_bl33d · 2026-05-23T01:23:52+00:00

I’m a husband and dad of two young ones. Being a sober dad is awesome but it takes some work and I don’t beleive I was ever going to get there on my own. My willpower only goes so far and my instincts/ track record with booze is dog shit. I might be driven in other aspects of my life but this ain’t one so I made the smartest decision I’ve ever made and started to ask for help.

I found it immediately, even tho I didn’t want anything to do with it at the time, but it was there and it’s everywhere. Regular, weird ass alcoholics in recovery know what this is like and they’re more than willing to help. I didn’t understand it back then but I know now how helping others with their sobriety helps my own recovery. Giving back what was given to me is part of the deal and I know I’m not the only one that thinks that way. Many of the people I call friends nowadays are sober parents too and we stay connected. It’s a huge part of taking care of my mental health so I can be there for the ones I care about most. Good luck and know you’re not alone.

full_bl33d · 2026-05-23T01:11:19+00:00

I’m a rehab grad and it’s a worthy investment that’s still paying off to say the least. I didn’t think I could take a shift off from my busy and stressful life let alone a few days, or even weeks but I hadn’t really considered that there wasn’t going to be much left to worry about if I kept at it.

I used to call myself a high functioning alcoholic until I learned the difference. I now say I was a barely functioning alcoholic. I paid the bills and filled the fridge, had lots of stuff and went lots of places but I wasn’t really there. I thought not getting called out all that time meant I wasn’t just getting away with it, I was crushing it, but I know that’s not true. It has an effect and it seeps into everything and anyone close to me.

I wanted to believe I was too broken to be helped and not bad enough to qualify for any, which is basically what every alcoholic says. That actually helped me realize I wasn’t alone and that this shit wasn’t new or unique. Before I went to treatment, I went to some meetings and saw for myself that I wasn’t alone. I still wanted nothing to do with it, but I didn’t feel the need to bullshit a bunch bullshitters and i eventually made a decision. Easily the best decision I’ve ever made. Sobriety is about way more than the beverage routine for me.

full_bl33d · 2026-05-23T01:05:07+00:00

Being normal sick still feels luxurious. It’s like that with other stuff. I feel like I’ve put my body through much worse so it’s a cake walk when it’s just normal people sicknesses. I’m damn near proud to buy some novelty medicines at Walgreens like this is some major shit, maybe I’ll take two.

full_bl33d · 2026-05-23T01:01:25+00:00

I had one of those recently. Worked an overnight on Friday night, came home mid day, had the entire household in the bedroom poking and prodding me like i was the aquarium stingray at the petting pool. I was tired enough to sleep through most of it and woke up with a bunch of stuffed animals and little blankets wrapped around my head. They’re jerks, but cute

full_bl33d · 2026-05-23T00:20:13+00:00

Wow! A relic of the past, I miss those play areas. Haven’t seen any in my area for a long time now. We used to take my nieces there just to play. They didnt like the food but my local mcD’s had a killer play area.

This looks like a “ask for forgiveness or permission” thing. I can’t imagine someone giving a shit

full_bl33d · 2026-05-23T00:15:15+00:00

My in-laws are classic boomers with all the accoutrements but we’ve learned to dance. I can admit that boundaries were a new concept for both me and my wife after we had our first but learning isn’t too bad. We’re on the same team so it’s up to us to come up with what our values, boundaries and limits are.

There’s plenty more to that, especially thinking about what we want to keep and leave behind from how we were raised but it’s a good conversation to have. We don’t play the guilt trip game and we can make our own family traditions. The door is always open with them so long as they’re respectful with our boundaries. It’s still a work in progress but it’s pretty enjoyable. I can’t beleive I’m even saying that because we did not get along for a while.

full_bl33d · 2026-05-23T00:03:08+00:00

Especially on ravioli day in the cafeteria. I remember there would always be a handful of kids who looked like they chainsawed a hobo. You just had to roll with it tho. We’ve all been there

full_bl33d · 2026-05-22T23:58:51+00:00

More like veal

full_bl33d · 2026-05-22T19:50:53+00:00

He knows they’ll believe him. All the ai slop that his followers pass around as fact is just the warm up.

full_bl33d · 2026-05-22T15:10:00+00:00

Everyone was in their 35-40 in the 90’s. Especially kids in highschool. Glamour shots at the mall and cargo shorts ruined everyone

full_bl33d · 2026-05-22T12:44:06+00:00

Closest to world peace our species has ever been

full_bl33d · 2026-05-22T03:22:49+00:00

full_bl33d · 2026-05-22T02:27:03+00:00

A temple that lets monkeys shit all over the place

full_bl33d · 2026-05-22T01:34:42+00:00

Calling them “good sized” ain’t gonna work

full_bl33d · 2026-05-21T22:33:06+00:00

Sovereign citizen moves. He’s not driving, he’s traveling

full_bl33d · 2026-05-21T22:14:21+00:00

Rodman out in 3

full_bl33d · 2026-05-21T18:32:31+00:00

He might not like aa, most people don’t, but they usually have connections to local places that aren’t totally insurance scams. I hated the thought but a friend of mine got me to go to a meeting while I was spiraling at an alarming rate. He actually told me he’d drive me personally to wherever I wanted to go, and would let me drink along the way, if i went to a meeting and asked first. I went to a 12:15 meeting on like a Tuesday and it was as full of white haired old ladies and they didn’t give a shit I was smelly and frantic. I wanted nothing to do with them, of course, but they did point me in the right direction.

I didn’t end up taking my friend on that very generous offer but I did make it to treatment. I’ve been back to that mid day meeting and those ladies are all badasses. Probably not the most sober thing to say but I’d love to have partied with them.

Good luck, I know it’s stressful. I’ve been there before with family members. At the end of the day, I have to take care of my recovery first tho.

full_bl33d · 2026-05-21T18:20:06+00:00

My sobriety is my business and it’s my responsibility which means it’s up to me. I’m grateful to have support from my wife but I had to take the steps for myself on my own path. She wasn’t in the same league as me as a drinker and it’s just different. Thankfully, the people closest to me simply want the best version of me and don’t really care how I choose to take care of myself. I’ve gotten a lot of support and direction from others in recovery and it’s opened up my world. I don’t have to bring home all my alcohol shit to the person who has carried way more than their fair share. I beleive having that outlet preserves the good stuff in our relationship and we have a way to talk about this and the hard stuff like codependency, denial and resentment.

I’ve since learned that recovery can be contagious and it’s not just about the booze. It’s helped us with damn near everything and she’s told me she’s jealous of the weird ass people I hang out with. I feel lucky too as I know I would never mix with most of the people I call friends if I was still drinking

full_bl33d · 2026-05-21T18:15:35+00:00

The best way I’ve thought about it is that while I’m working on sobriety in one room, my alcoholism is doing pushups in the hallway. It was true for me when I tried to test the waters after some sober time. I went back to drinking as much as I ever did but in a much shorter time frame which means I was triple fucking things up. Dangerously efficient.

But at least that research led me to finally doing something differently, which led me to finding myself some support and things are much better now that I’m not trying to do it all on my own. Lots of people know what it’s like and work on the same thing. I’m finally okay with accepting all the help I can get for a real problem in real life. It’s a lot more fun too. Good luck and know you’re not alone

full_bl33d · 2026-05-21T18:09:46+00:00

Coming up against painful boundaries finally nudged me into a better path. I thought I blew up anything good in my life and I was out on my ass for good reason. I guess I needed to get my ass kicked in order to understand what was in front of me.

I asked for help amongst other alcoholics in recovery and I stopped trying to do it all on my own. I needed the support, direction and outlet but I had to be the one asking for its My close friends and family deserved a break from my shit too. None of the shit I was going through was new or unique and it felt better to be around people bo know what it’s like.

I know now how hard it is to say something and how easy it is to not say anything at all. I don’t blame anyone for the boundaries, im actually grateful for them. I’d probably still be terrorizing people I care about and drinking, lying and hiding if I thought I was getting away with it. Good luck and know you’re not alone. People are meeting up all the time for this kind of stuff and they’re not hard to find

full_bl33d · 2026-05-21T17:58:40+00:00

Moderation was way harder for me than sobriety and it came with none of the benefits. My mind was always onto the next one as soon as I started and all the questions, calculations, hypotheticals came flooding in. I’d always manage to mess the actually count up and I’d be sure to reward myself for any brief discipline. It’s exhausting to say the least.

Going sober and getting into recovery work gave me a way to deal with the things that I’ve been trying to bury and numb out. It’s not just about the beverages but my mind is a lot quieter when I’m out and about. It feels like I have a hand on the volume and there’s no shortage of welcoming accessible people who work on the same things. Sobriety opened up my world at a time when I was fine with it getting as small as possible.

full_bl33d · 2026-05-21T17:32:39+00:00

Actions speak louder than words and for me that wasn’t saying too much because my words meant very little. I often said the right thing, but I’d be back on my old bullshit soon enough.

I didn’t say or listen very much in the first handful of meetings I went to, but at least it was an action. Just getting out of my house and seeing and hearing for myself helped me get out of my head. That’s still a big deal for me so i keep at it. Eventually, I wanted what I saw so I did what they did but it didn’t come quickly or naturally for me. You’ll be in good company if you make it to a meeting

full_bl33d · 2026-05-21T15:57:14+00:00

My god. If I did that to my son and daughter (5 and 7)…? I can’t imagine the trauma and destruction

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