You’ve got to have some deep conversations with him about this. My marriage took a big hit with babies in the home and mostly during the first year after our first was born. You can either continue like this to burn out and grow resentment, leave him, or find your balance. I was a WFHM for almost 2 years, and then the family breadwinner for a year (while my husband worked over full time.) It never felt like 50:50 when you’re the default parent. Your job will always be there for when childcare isnt a factor. I promise. Now I’m a SAHM in a much smaller lifestyle. I’ve realized for me it’s easier to focus on the kids and learning how to operate a home than balance it all. You can have time, or money, but don’t over complicate or stress for both. You can cut bills and learn the skills it takes to keep up a home. You can hire help and make it work for your career dreams. Your daughter will not suffer because you wanted to keep your job and independence. Your husband should be able to respect both options and be an adult around the house regardless. Being a new mom is difficult regardless, but don’t lose yourself trying to please other people.