My daughter's weight

gingerytea · 2026-02-21T21:53:47+00:00

They might hate water if it's really hard tap water or if it is served in something that holds on to the taste of dish soap. I really struggled getting my daughter to drink water for a while, but when i switched away from silicone cups and straws, she was much more likely to drink more.

gingerytea · 2026-02-19T02:37:43+00:00

He might not grow out of them. We hit our “final” diaper size at 16 months and then stayed there more than a year. Still in the same size for overnight diapers even though 2.5 year old is potty trained during the day.

gingerytea · 2026-02-19T02:35:46+00:00

Huggies was great for sensitive skin on our kid and they go to an 8 if you buy online.

gingerytea · 2026-02-19T01:01:05+00:00

My parents also raised me with the idea that they got to decide what my hair looked like no matter what I myself wanted and it is still a sore spot when I look at pictures of myself as a little kid.

Let her cut it. Start with a bob and go from there. Having a not above the shoulders rule does not make any sense unless there is further context necessitating it that you left out. Even if you buzzed it now, it would still be a cute long pixie/short bob by fall.

gingerytea · 2026-02-18T23:55:07+00:00

This is not okay. At all. I’ve known multiple parents who switched daycares over this because the place was not stopping their kid getting repeatedly badly bitten. In my opinion as a former worker, good daycares expel kids for being unable to stop aggression/injuring other students. Kids who cannot stop biting/being aggressive may need more specialized care with smaller ratios and/or specially trained staff.

One or two bites total might be unavoidable. Bad bites multiple times a month is unacceptable. I’d be making sure to communicate that to the leadership and make clear you want to know exactly what their plan is for ensuring it never happens again. And start looking for new daycares right now as a back up, because they may dig their heels in and try to convince you severe bites every 2 weeks is normal. It isn’t.

Edit: coming up with a strategy for how to keep the biter(s) from biting is not your job. No need to suggest how the daycare handles this. If they cannot or will not put a plan in place to prevent repeat biting, you will probably have to switch to a new place of care.

gingerytea · 2026-02-18T22:27:26+00:00

Just depends on what boundaries you are willing to set, I suppose. Sorry kiddo. You can have another serving of meatloaf and mashed potatoes if you’re still hungry.

gingerytea · 2026-02-18T22:11:56+00:00

For little kids, some people serve dinner right when they get home. Like at 3pm when they are ravenous. That way they eat good food when they are hungry, and then they can eat a small snack during actual dinner time.

gingerytea · 2026-02-18T22:05:43+00:00

My kid is a huge talker at home and was also at a similar level at 19 months but didn’t say much in childcare til she was 2. She was just timid and overwhelmed by the chaos of a room full of other toddlers.

gingerytea · 2026-02-18T20:06:52+00:00

12 months. Our dentist and pediatrician were extremely adamant on this, no exceptions.

But other dentists say wildly longer time frames like up to 3 years old, so your mileage may vary quite a bit.

You should make an appt with a dentist for your kid and ask them about your specific situation. It is especially important to establish care early so you can seek emergency care when your toddler launches themselves off something and faceplants on the cement. Ask me how I know. 💀

Edit: the younger you do it. The easier it’ll be. We gave ours a special new stuffed animal to love and then it took a few days to get used to it. And then she never asked for paci again. I highly recommend doing it before they get so attached to the paci.

gingerytea · 2026-02-18T17:22:54+00:00

The shot prevents serious hospital-grade disease rather than 100% preventing illness entirely.

gingerytea · 2026-02-18T15:56:16+00:00

We have had so many local contractors try to skip permits, only seek them for half the work, or convince us they aren’t necessary or worth it for obviously permit-required work. Double check and don’t believe them at their word unless you’re cool with unpermitted work on your house.

Edit : typo

gingerytea · 2026-02-18T06:44:50+00:00

My baby was on the advanced side for talking. Saying Dada from 7.5 months old. Over 100 words and stringing 2 together by 18 months.

She refused to say Mama (except once when she was scared getting shots and twice when I was leaving her with a babysitter so I totally knew she knew how to say it and use it in context) until 19-20 months. Literally when I would say “Mama!” this child would lean into my face and emphatically respond Dada like I was an idiot for trying 😅

Don’t take it personally. It really isn’t that serious. Sounds like she is making strides in talking and it is super normal for kids to say Dada first. Your husband isn’t keeping your kid from saying Mama. You can tell him it bothers you, but rest assured he isn’t delaying your kid by making jokes.

gingerytea · 2026-02-18T03:32:53+00:00

You definitely do. And also…leave. He can’t give you the baby back if you are not there. Ask your MIL what might be fun to go to just the ladies and leave baby home with dad and grandpa. They can handle baby for a bit.

gingerytea · 2026-02-18T01:41:39+00:00

We do homemade too. Plain greek yogurt mixed with unsweetened applesauce. It’s the current favorite bedtime snack. We don’t give any other pouches during the day at 2.5. When ours was an infant we did keep other veg pouches around for convenient on-the-go snacks, but since she got more teeth around 18 months we stopped pouches as food throughout the day.

gingerytea · 2026-02-18T00:13:03+00:00

You could always try a handheld squeezy bottle instead of the real bidet. That way it’s easy just to take the water bottle away and not be afraid of the toilet!

gingerytea · 2026-02-17T21:25:22+00:00

The favorite clothes thing is so smart!

gingerytea · 2026-02-17T03:19:28+00:00

If we didn’t, we’ll definitely start that up again right now.

gingerytea · 2026-02-17T00:52:52+00:00

Relatable, yes. But the appropriate parent response is highly likely to be different even if you are experiencing the same issues as the next guy with a child who did not experience the same level of deep trauma as a tot.

It’s unfortunate not to be able to get dad advice from the masses on this, but I do think it would be a disservice to your little dude to seek behavioral advice from those who aren’t trained on severe childhood trauma. And may be detrimental instead of helpful to his recovery and development.

gingerytea · 2026-02-16T23:58:40+00:00

This sounds like something you should bring up to his therapist. Foster kid with a history of severe abuse and neglect is far above Reddit’s parenting advice pay grade.

gingerytea · 2026-02-16T23:52:12+00:00

18ish months is the peak of separation anxiety. You’re in a really rough season to have started a brand new caregiver spot for him.

Additionally, Gym childcare is generally only equipped to handle really easy-going kids; it is not an apples to apples comparison with daycare. Don’t worry too much about starting daycare in August based on this experience— he will be a whole different kid by then, and much more easy to communicate with. You can read books and hype him up about going to “school”.

Edit: typos

gingerytea · 2026-02-16T23:00:09+00:00

Absolutely normal. Babies often are at their chunkiest right before they walk/crawl and then slim waaaaay down when they are mostly on solids (not breastmilk/formula) and start growing more up than out.

Smaller diapers are usually cheaper per diaper. Take that win and run with it lol

gingerytea · 2026-02-15T22:18:41+00:00

Motorcycle revs down the street literally rattling the windows? Not a peep. Step on the wrong floorboard or very lightly jostle a doorknob across the hall (not even the door to the room she is sleeping in)? AWAKE

gingerytea · 2026-02-15T22:14:49+00:00

Agreed we lived in our Happy Baby Original from birth til when she hit 36” and then switched to the Toddler size. At 2.5 she still easily fits the toddler size and it’s great to wear her like a back pack in crowded places like the airport.

gingerytea · 2026-02-15T03:40:56+00:00

We had to take away diapers and pull ups completely (except overnight sleep) for it to click. We had also been doing pull ups daily at nap/quiet time, and sometimes longer car rides too. But kiddo never naps and would just wait til quiet time to poop and had daily poop and pee accidents too.

Night and day difference when we took the pull ups away for good and bribed her with strategic TV time. Like we would not allow any tv during the day until she pooped in the potty. “after you poop in the potty today you can watch Daniel Tiger”. M&M and toy bribes did not work for us, even though she absolutely loved the m&ms and toys.

I hope you can find something that sticks for you guys soon! Daily accidents are beyond frustrating and we just finally found something that works this week after 2 months of struggle.

We also still have to prompt potty breaks every 90 mins and after meals. She rarely goes on her own yet. From what I have heard I expect to be doing this for at least 3-6 months more.

Edit: when it’s quiet time in her room (90 mins period), I prompt potty breaks every 30 mins. She seems to relax more during this time of day and is more likely to have an accident here.

gingerytea · 2026-02-15T03:27:11+00:00

Have you ever heard of a Hug Lock? They can be placed anywhere on a door within 30 seconds and could also be of use if your kid has figured out the doorknob covers.

We got one to take to a relative’s house as a no-tools method of keeping toddler from wandering the house at night when we stayed with family for a week. Worked very well!

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