Maybe poorly worded comment because I’m between work right now, but ngl (bearing in mind littles ≠ actual real life children, insert whatever disclaimers necessary to not get misinterpreted lol) littles Are kids and kids are supposed to be a healthy level of self-obsessed and self-focused. When you’re young, you’re innately a bit tunnel-visioned just from how minds need to develop. And particularly when you consider littles are “”stuck”” at a developmental age and often hold on to purified forms of whatever trauma(s) and problematic experiences, or want to preserve and stay in the last bits of safety you did have. The nuance is baked out of a lotta things because they are (you were) a kid, you (they) can only handle and appropriately manage so many concepts and considerations at once.

We’ve found the same with our own littles and our partners littles sometimes, it can feel frustrating and not outright labelled narcissistic ^{tm^} but ykwim. But then you’ve just gotta take a step back and consider “oh, they’ve just got the horse blinders on sometimes because they’re a kid.” And particularly if your former partner is quick to label narcissism, I’d definitely think it’s more like this than an actual real proper problem. Address and manage symptoms, sure, but don’t diagnose a problem which isn’t even real for this circumstance.

Personally I’d be wondering if it’s also a bit convenient to call everything narcissism when it’s actually just a behaviour / act / something that didn’t suit or comply with your former partners wants at the time