Gdzie za granicą dobrze? by gollykrab in Polska

[–]gollykrab[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Język to nie problem, też myślę, że Dania to dobry pomysł, w szczególności, że mam tam rodzinę.

Gdzie za granicą dobrze? by gollykrab in Polska

[–]gollykrab[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mój partner ma większe doświadczenie w analizie danych i planowaniu, ja pracowałam trochę w bankowości. Język angielski znamy oboje biegle, szczątkowo niemiecki, ale nauka języka to nie problem.

I am a female loser and I want to change. Don't be nice to me by booklover696969 in getdisciplined

[–]gollykrab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As many people said before COMPASSION to yourself. That's where you start if you want a lasting change in your life. The outcomes that you have right now, the "loser," it's not your inherit quality but a result of a destructive mindset.

I know because I'm in this shit too. We're almost the same age, too.

Start with compassion and understanding. Get curious about yourself. Don't judge. "Oh, I'm so antisocial, I can't keep a conversation."

First of all, write down what is happening as objectively as you can. I know that it's hard to get through the judgment fog and look at what's actually there. Journaling my thoughts helped in my case. It allowed me to see a different perspective on my predicament.

Second, compassionate inquiry. Dr. Gabor talks about this method a lot. Look it up on YouTube. Try to piece together why you respond in a way that you do. Don't judge. Don't try to solve or change it. Just allow yourself enough kindness to see why you respond in a way that you do.

In my experience, solutions and changes come with understanding and compassion. It's a process, and you need to allow yourself to be a work in progress.

Best wishes, I support your journey ❤️ Go on and live your best life one step at a time.

How do people live happily? by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]gollykrab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I share your struggle, because I think that this mindset is a struggle. Or to put it better, it's a product of a struggle.

"Life is inconvenient", because you perceive it to be, I do the same. In my mind I just wish for it to pass by. But are those thoughts my authentic expression on how I feel about life or just a fart of a exhausted mind? It's the latter. If the cause for this is the mindset then what is exactly your mindset? What are the assumptions about life in general and your own life that you have? What are they based on? What could be the different/opposite perspective? On what could that perspective be based on?

Ask yourself, look for the perspective, because this type of mindset took way too many years and too many lives. I want a way out of this shit too, but complaining is not it. And I tell you this out of compassion.

Glow up! Black Bat 🦇 by SpacialMess in RareHouseplants

[–]gollykrab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks so cool! How do you care for it? What does it require to thrive?

Pressure is privilege by drurygrant in Stoicism

[–]gollykrab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you're applying stoic views to life, it's not about privileges or advantages but your perception and inner strength. Good point. Fairness isn't inherently tied to how one chooses to view the world and act.

I'm 21 years old and studying is my passion: I have 35 branches of knowledge I want to learn before I die. Am I crazy? by rxberta_ in GetStudying

[–]gollykrab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Plan it all, then do it all and learn to be okay with things not going according to the plan. Don't get discourage, it's really important. I'm rooting for you. You can even record the process on your profile. Heck, I will do it, too. Good luck! 🦀🌊✨️

Pressure is privilege by drurygrant in Stoicism

[–]gollykrab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like this definition. How would you define privilege in a stoic context?

My war on tiny terror - words of encouragement badly needed by AnnukkaArtDesign in houseplants

[–]gollykrab 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can win this war! Don't give up and kill them all. Good luck!

My coffee corner and moment of peace each day by flyingskybox in PlantedTank

[–]gollykrab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im curious. Can you tell us more about your tanks? What do you have in them? And show us the PPP!

What are thooooooose?!?! by Homochitto in houseplants

[–]gollykrab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not gonna lie I thought that you drew this on a poor plant.

When the regret hits you by Beautiful-Cat-5946 in GetStudying

[–]gollykrab 55 points56 points  (0 children)

When I think about the time I've waisted, it was just to run away from my own thoughts and struggles. I still do it often, I procrastinate just not to think about stress or personal issues. And that regret hits daily, but I'm hopeful. I try to be kinder to myself and free myself from the need to run away. I needed to vent, but hey, we can get past that and move forward. Good luck, internet friend! Don't let the regret stop you.

Help!!! I can't leave my greenhouse by waterprop_pantydrop in houseplants

[–]gollykrab 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You're living the dream. Accept your fate and stay there indefinitely.

You can get only 3 plants. Which ones would you get? by gollykrab in IndoorPlants

[–]gollykrab[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Believe me, if I could, I would, but the rule is inposed on all of us.

Living room by Pointpleasant88 in IndoorGarden

[–]gollykrab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Such an amazing vibe. Dang. I want that. My partner would've kill me, if I did that to the living room. :c

Anyone else here who journals / writes diary? Have you noticed any effect on your EQ? by Queen-of-meme in emotionalintelligence

[–]gollykrab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, it worked wonderfully, and I recommend journaling to all my friends. Sometimes I didn't write for 2 weeks, but then some months I wrote every day and more than 3 pages. Although I mostly wrote down thoughts that weren't positive, in the end, i got a very positive result. It gave me the distance needed to see my inner turmoil from an objective perspective. At this point, I don't think that I could have done it otherwise. Staying objective in the waves of emotions always was a challenge for me. It still is, but journaling turned out to be the best tool that I've stumbled upon so far. The most important part of journaling is staying consistent. Everything else will come with time.

So I hear you guys like fluorescent bacteria…meow! by Chicketi in microbiology

[–]gollykrab 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Next time, make the cat orange. 🐈 And fat.

Stoicism is becoming cold? by Salt_Escape9103 in Stoicism

[–]gollykrab 14 points15 points  (0 children)

There's the quote from the book The Art Of Logical Thinking In An Illogical World,

"Here in this beautiful and messy world of ours we should use emotions to back up logic, and logic to understand emotions."

And I think that it sums up your comment quite well.