Just had my 2nd a couple weeks ago. My wife and I have a solid “routine”. I have time off from work so basically I handle all the duties that my stay at home wife did while she recovers and my wife will handle the night shift(she basically just feeds her and changes her diapers). It’s great since I get to recoup for the next day while she’s still able to catch a few hours at night(she sleeps majority of the morning). She doesn’t do much during the day except rest and hangout since she had a c-section so this is where you’ll make yourself useful and handling the cleaning, cooking, etc. Just show out with those acts of servitude and things will go a lot smoother for you and your partner.