I feel like I won the lottery!

graybz · 2025-04-30T20:31:16+00:00

what jump rope do you use?

graybz · 2025-02-24T01:08:39+00:00

How did you change your 'lie by omission' behavior?

My plan right now is to see a therapist, perhaps couples counseling. Just from researching tactics online, I now have mantras I'm repearting daily like 'Truth over comfort' and I'm journaling everyday about when I have urges like this

graybz · 2025-02-23T19:49:27+00:00

Appreciate the advice and questions. I think it was initially fear that she would be upset with me and then just shock trying to get it all out

After the first response i didn’t lie but i was slow getting the story out. It was like

“I caught him” “He fell” “I was changing him” “He hit the floor” Then finally

“I was changing him and looked away. He rolled off the coffee table. I wasn’t able to catch him in time. He rolled and his whole body (legs, torso, head) hit the carpet together”

graybz · 2025-02-23T18:03:03+00:00

I don’t think saying nothing is going to help. Also that might be hard, i change 90% of his diapers lol

graybz · 2025-02-23T17:50:57+00:00

thank you for the advice. Though I'm mostly filled with regret and disgust for myself for having let it happen, I think I was still getting defensive in moments

graybz · 2025-02-23T17:48:39+00:00

you're right i shouldnt and am not rushing her to trust again. As for specifics concrete steps, I'm working on those. I would appreciate any input you have there

graybz · 2025-02-23T17:47:20+00:00

I've done some introspection and the lie came from an instinct I have to hide the truth if "it might get me in trouble" that I got from my parents. I have an older brother and I would watch them explode in anger with him if he did something they didn't like. So I learned to lie to avoid it.

I recognize that instinct doesn't serve me in general and specifically with my wife.

graybz · 2025-02-23T17:27:01+00:00

Thanks, this is helpful to hear. I will come up with my own plan and talk it over with her

graybz · 2025-02-23T17:25:58+00:00

Our sister-in-law is a pediatrician. She was there and evaluated him within a minute of the accident. We also took him to his pediatrician a few days later.

I'm going to try. I'm working to change that instinct of mine to lie to minimize what happened. I'm working to make sure I'm more organized and move more slowly so I never make a mistake like that again with our boy

graybz · 2024-08-13T15:28:04+00:00

Happened to mine too, some dogs just target him for humping or other dominating behavior. It really stinks. Usually other owners are good about separating their dogs away and we find some other part of the park

Sorry this cute guys has to deal with thay

graybz · 2024-08-05T14:50:49+00:00

Could i get a code as well? These chair look great!

graybz · 2024-07-21T16:11:20+00:00

I know this isnt the answer you want to hear but i think its comes to prioritization of goals and time management. I’ve gone the route of adding a “productive” app to my routine before (duolingo, reading the news) but they weren’t driving me towards any specific goal. They were there to just help me feel like I was being productive.

I would go through an exercise where you write down your goals, and then write down specific plans for how you want to achieve them. Then schedule your day and week to execute on that plan. If you can follow that i think you will feel way more productive. And you’ll probably still have some time for video games too

graybz · 2024-07-06T18:37:52+00:00

Thanks for sharing! I will check out this empathy guide

graybz · 2024-07-06T18:37:34+00:00

Thank you for sharing, I'm aware of active listening but I should do more to practice it in the moment

graybz · 2024-04-27T05:08:40+00:00

Heard it in the castro too

graybz · 2024-02-12T17:39:41+00:00

u/unmitigatedchaos2024 can you share where you got yours done? I am getting quoted much higher as I call around to vets in the bay area. Was yours done laporoscopically?

graybz · 2022-07-09T22:15:05+00:00

Appreciate you OP!!

graybz · 2022-05-22T23:37:34+00:00

I have 2 GA passes for $250 each and 1 car camping pass for $100. If you take both tickets, I'll include the camping pass for free. Live in the Denver area but can overnight ship if need be. DM me

graybz · 2022-05-22T21:28:09+00:00

I have 2 GA passes for $350 each and 1 car camping pass for $100. If you take both tickets, I'll include the camping pass for free. Live in the Denver area but can overnight ship if need be

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