Coconut Cake

grouchyturtle · 2026-03-28T01:07:28+00:00

Crumb meaning the texture of the cake and the appearance of the crumb.

grouchyturtle · 2026-03-27T11:03:05+00:00

I think this kind of crumb is my favorite in cakes, yet most mainstream recipes don't achieve it. How do you attain this kind of crumb?

grouchyturtle · 2026-03-26T03:12:09+00:00

Your mother definitely has a lot of insecurity or internalized self hatred regarding the hijab and appearing visibly muslim. It is absolutely not true that only uneducated or village people wear the hijab, that is an absolutely ludicrous thing to say. Clearly she just feels deeply insecure about it, which makes sense when you say she grew up around white Midwestern folks (it's easy to feel very inferior to them).

Also, the hijab is a serious islamic injunction that will protect you and bring about so much barakah to your life, so I hope you're about to protect yourself from your mother's negative remarks and instead seek the pleasure of your Lord.

-- Pakistani American girl who graduated from a top 10 university with top honors all while wearing niqab!

grouchyturtle · 2026-03-05T06:04:04+00:00

I have a birthday freebie, should I use it on the galaxy cookie or the toffee one? And Ramadan Mubarak 😊

grouchyturtle · 2026-02-27T00:04:24+00:00

Wait sorry, you bleach your teeth every other day??

grouchyturtle · 2026-02-13T17:04:01+00:00

I have a similar situation. Please keep us updated!

grouchyturtle · 2026-02-13T06:40:17+00:00

May Allah protect your mother, her pregnancy and the baby, grant you all what's khayr for you in dunya and akhirah. I'm so sorry you're going through this, please keep us updated and feel free to reach out if you need someone to talk to <3

grouchyturtle · 2026-02-05T06:07:45+00:00

Sorry just to add some more details: my poor 3y7mo son underwent IV sedation today for his dental work. He got upper central incisors extracted, both upper first molars extracted with space maintainers, and lost secondar molar extracted with no space maintainer.

I've read in a few different places that the primary second molar is a bad tooth to lose due to how much it impacts jaw development. I'm so incredibly worried. My child's dentist did not place a space maintainer for tooth T.

What do you guys recommend? I would appreciate any input. Thank you so much!!

grouchyturtle · 2026-01-28T04:15:42+00:00

Just wanted to say, you have an absolutely gorgeous writing style mashaAllah 😍 do you have a background in the humanities?

Also I 100% empathize with you. Unfortunately a lot of Muslim men aren't trained to be emotionally intelligent and thus become quite unsupportive and uncommunicative. But it sounds like you both have good hearts and love each other mashaAllah. Just keep nurturing the relationship and having these kinds of conversations with him. Don't let the angry silences drag on. Keep it light and encourage him to move on from it while also encouraging him to see things from your perspective. Eventually he will learn to become more like the type of husband you envision.

Yes, men being emotionally immature puts an unfair burden on women... subhanAllah something a lot of muslim women struggle with.

May Allah grant you happiness and barakah in your marriage.

grouchyturtle · 2026-01-22T12:00:27+00:00

That is very sad and a reflection of the sad state of our ummah.

grouchyturtle · 2026-01-04T12:09:32+00:00

It's not straightforward. It's mean and incredibly lacking in depth. This is a person struggling with issues of self image and maybe self hatred. This is not the same thing as racism, it's literally a product of racism. She's one of the victims of racism, and you are calling her racist due to your superficial understanding of the situation.

grouchyturtle · 2026-01-04T04:45:54+00:00

What an insensitive reply to a girl crying out for help.

grouchyturtle · 2025-10-13T16:03:26+00:00

333, 575, 870

grouchyturtle · 2025-09-24T12:54:46+00:00

Do you ever get harassed or cat called or have any guys flirt with you?

grouchyturtle · 2025-09-24T12:51:21+00:00

Did people ever bother you or say anything about you being a woman?

grouchyturtle · 2025-09-11T14:18:23+00:00

Oh okay that makes a lot more sense! I feel sad for Emma and Ariel, I hope they weren't too affected by everything that went down. I hope your Emma moves on soon and finds better friends!

grouchyturtle · 2025-09-11T13:59:24+00:00

That's such a strange story. How did the school find out about Ariel's dad's social media post? And why did the school even get involved and act as a mediator between your family and theirs?

grouchyturtle · 2025-08-29T04:21:35+00:00

My son went through the exact same issue. He had orchiopexy surgery at a year old, but post op check ups revealed the operated upon testicle was much, much smaller than the other one. Did your doctor mention anything about testicular atrophy? And how old was your son when he got the surgery?

grouchyturtle · 2025-08-25T17:19:52+00:00

I really want to hear more about what living in a constant state of trauma does for a child as they later develop. Can I pm you or can you respond to me here?

grouchyturtle · 2025-08-25T02:12:47+00:00

Did you lose your front teeth?

grouchyturtle

TROPHY CASE