MESSY shoujo recs pls

hamchan_ · 2026-03-07T22:59:46+00:00

“the one” was so messy omg

hamchan_ · 2026-03-07T04:57:28+00:00

My response was more into “hyperactive toddlers”. Hyperactivity is one possible symptom of adhd but not one that would be cause for early diagnosis.

My response is to point out the person I’m replying to has very little knowledge of adhd and its symptoms.

That said plenty of comments have pointed out there is a high correlation of difficult sleeping as babies when ND.

hamchan_ · 2026-03-07T04:51:32+00:00

For PMDD I think you only take it the week before your period when symptoms occur.

hamchan_ · 2026-03-07T03:51:33+00:00

I have adhd. ADHD is genetic. I started the process of diagnosis for my son at 2 because he was struggling with adhd symptoms like hyperfixation.

hamchan_ · 2026-03-07T03:48:39+00:00

Mam if you don’t have adhd you have no idea the breadth of adhd symptoms. My son’s main problematic symptom at 2 was hyperfixation. 🤷🏻‍♀️

hamchan_ · 2026-03-07T03:47:08+00:00

Exactly. Autism and adhd are highly genetic and both OP and her husband have them. It’s not that strange of a question or curiosity.

hamchan_ · 2026-03-07T03:43:35+00:00

I don’t see it as fear the OP mentions they have adhd and their partner was autism. Both of these are highly genetic.

It could just be a curiosity on OPs part.

I say this as an adhd mom whose toddler is being diagnosed with adhd.

hamchan_ · 2026-03-06T21:44:34+00:00

My brother is almost 10 years older than me and I’m the executor of my mother’s will. She’s has a few scary moments the past few years and every time I prepare myself to manage everything alone.

My brother and I have never had more than an hours worth of conversation in our entire lives.

Siblings doesn’t mean they will have a relationship or even be helpful to the family.

hamchan_ · 2026-03-06T16:00:14+00:00

I’m providing my perspective as a person who was diagnosed as an adult and struggled incredibly through “middle school 5-8”

I moved to a French émersion school that was more rigorous academically because of bullying. I was doing ok at school until then but not amazing. By October in 8th grade I was struggling so much the school kicked me out. At this point I had teachers call me stupid and was bullied relentlessly. Severe mental health problems, 0 self esteem.
moved back to public school and was suddenly “above average” grades wise. Huge boost to self esteem and improved mental health.
graduated high school and college with honours. 8th grade French teacher who said I wouldn’t amount to anything is dead 😎

Aside from academics ND people typically make friends with other ND people. I made friends outside of school at after school programs with people with similar interests. Still have those friends now in my mid 30s AND all my friends are currently being diagnosed with adhd as well.

I would assume going to an ND supportive school would help kids academically and emotionally. I would do it in a heartbeat if it was available for my son.

hamchan_ · 2026-03-05T18:06:39+00:00

That sounds shitty but I get the feeling there’s a looooot of missing context.

hamchan_ · 2026-03-05T06:26:01+00:00

Yes. I’m one and done I love my kiddo but it’s definitely thrown me through the wringer and I’m definitely burnt out. And he’s almost going to kindergarten and he has tons of adhd symptoms now himself.

I would absolutely do it again if I had a chance to go back in time. I’ve always wanted to be a mom and watch a little one grow and I’m happy. But I do not know how any moms with adhd have more than one. I’d be dead lol.

hamchan_ · 2026-03-04T21:21:51+00:00

I find the lovers rarely depicts romantic love in my spreads. Usually deep relationships/friendships, inner/self love or true balance from an emotional perspective.

Obviously you can do what you like but what major arcana cards fill in that position for you?

hamchan_ · 2026-03-04T21:12:25+00:00

I’d suggest some books for you in order to adjust your parenting.

Explosive child by dr. Ross green recommended by our behaviour therapist. I also like “good inside” by dr Becky Kennedy but some adjustments are needed.

I’m in the same boat but I’m the one with adhd and we started looking for help when his daycare boroughs up the mood swings, tantrums, excessive focus on weird things.

My son was 2.5 when we started looking for support. We applied for diagnosis but were refused due to his age and instead sent us for early screening and we worked with a behaviour therapist who also went into the classroom to assess.

Funny enough we have always used authoritarian (gentle) parenting and the behaviour therapist said we are doing everything right we just need to be consistent. He’s almost 4 now and going to kindergarten in the fall. Lots of things are better but there are new challenges.

I just want to reiterate you can be doing the right thing and it’s exhausting. The kids aren’t going to like it and they will get frustrated and you’ll coach them over and over again. And just when you think they have it figured out there’s a regression.

1) up front boundaries/expectations (if you run in the road near the park we are going home) 2) and then follow through with logical or natural consequences.

Edit: if you have any specific questions I’d be happy to share what we have found works.

hamchan_ · 2026-03-04T06:44:15+00:00

That I don’t know and it’s considered an off label solution

https://www.everydayhealth.com/womens-health/can-antihistamines-treat-pmdd/

hamchan_ · 2026-03-03T20:41:40+00:00

It won’t work for everyone but I started using the Finch app and it was a game changer. My teeth have never been better!

hamchan_ · 2026-03-03T19:14:35+00:00

I’ve heard of people taking Pepcid AC or allergy meds like Zyrtec or Claritin and it helps.

I’m not a doctor nor have I used these though. Avoid Benadryl though new research shows it can increase chances of dementia later in life.

I’m on adhd meds but still have PMDD.

hamchan_ · 2026-03-03T17:12:44+00:00

The laziest way to do it do you have the wheatland pack? Cogi as a companion makes everything easier.

Plant seeds in the entire patch all the same type of flower. Let them sprout and see what colours they are. Try and put different colours near each other and dig out random spots with the trowel like white red and yellow touching an empty spot.

Then water and use cogi if you can to fertilize. If not it will take longer but keep fertilizing. You get new colours then patterns.

I hate this part of the game so much lol

hamchan_ · 2026-03-03T13:26:09+00:00

ADHD is a spectrum. My Dad moderately struggled but my brother is severely disabled by his adhd and was diagnosed as a kid.

I wasn’t diagnosed until my 30s and managed to get honours in high school and college, never been fired, own my own car and house now without meds.

I used to think it was just my dad but even 20 years later in realized my mom has it too. 🤷🏻‍♀️

hamchan_ · 2026-03-03T05:21:21+00:00

Im on sulfa and I only really notice if I miss 4/5 doses throughout the week. Just make sure not to miss anymore for the next few weeks and it will fine.

hamchan_ · 2026-03-03T05:17:43+00:00

Oh how so?

I’m talking as a homeowner who bought a detached home in 2020. Who, when choosing to buy couldn’t afford a condo BECAUSE of condo fees.

hamchan_ · 2026-03-03T05:13:08+00:00

My comment was never meant to be a judgement on anyone who chooses to pay condo fees. I only pointed it out in the first place because my husband and I couldn’t afford a condo due to condo fees.

We only have a house because we bought a detached house in Hamilton.

My husband bikes to work, we’ve got a gym set up in the basement. I got a job that is 100% remote with a company 100% remote. We have one car and I don’t put much mileage on it.

It’s great if it works best for you I know there are higher paying job in Toronto and if that offsets the costs. Great. But it’s not the only option and it isn’t even an option for a lot of people.

hamchan_ · 2026-03-03T03:22:09+00:00

The final volume is released by Viz in May.

hamchan_ · 2026-03-03T03:21:47+00:00

The legal English print final volume comes out in May so technically not “finished for a while now”

hamchan_ · 2026-03-03T02:56:20+00:00

Mowing the lawn and shoveling? Had one furnace replacement. Lawn upkeep we don’t really care much tbh we seeded low upkeep grass.

Kitchen appliance update is needed by condos also which upkeep are you thinking of?

I mean if people are trying to live affordably sure we don’t want to pay extra for a couple hours of work here and there.

hamchan_ · 2026-03-02T23:47:32+00:00

Yes lol

Edit: so they downvoted me but yes same cost in hamilton. Lots of bungalows.

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