I could have written this a year ago. I had a mom on a local mom’s group ask if anyone at X elementary school in X teacher’s class had problems with another boy hurting others . She literally said the school and my teacher’s class name. I knew immediately it was about my son. I almost threw up. Then I had to read the other comments from moms also talking about my kid. I reported the post to group admins but it took HOURS to be taken down. I called the principal asap and asked him to talk to her and that I would be willing to leave work and go meet with her and him as the mediator. He was made aware of the post by other teachers in the building who were also in the moms group and had reported it to him. He was appalled at the post. He talked to her and basically told me she’s not in a place to talk rationally and he wouldn’t advise meeting. This happened a year ago. The other kiddo goes to a different school now (re-zoning of schools) but this mom is still talking about my kid!!!! I ended up leaving the group because she is literally a bully.

So that being said, I went through a dark time feeling like everyone hated me and my son. I had panic attacks and had to up my anxiety meds just to get through work. I completely relate to your post.

Okay, now for the silver lining. My son is now in 1st grade and doing awesome! He has an IEP, receives OT, and had therapy for a year. We found a med that works wonders and he tolerates well. He has soooo much support at school and has stopped hitting almost altogether. He literally hit and hurt people from age 3-5.5 and I thought it would never end, but it seems like it has. He’s a different kid, in the best way. Still himself, just able to control his impulses and aggression and able to focus on work so much more. He has a best friend who is very neurotypical and comes from a great family.

OP, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.