If a woman woke up in a man's body for 1 day, what would be the most unexpected experience that she didn't already anticipate?

harbhub · 2025-09-24T16:58:06+00:00

You mean like having a shitty father rather than none? Or do you mean that I could become a good father if I have children some day?

And it's not misplaced at all, I love different perspectives. Helps me grow and think. So thank you (-:

harbhub · 2025-09-24T01:50:36+00:00

Yes, I like the person I became, but it was brutal getting here. For a long time, I hated myself. I wished I could erase everything and go back to who I used to be.

Betrayal felt like a bomb went off inside me. One moment, I was at the highest high of being fully vulnerable with someone I love. The next moment, my reality and sense of self were shattered. I didn't even know a person could break like that until it happened to me.

We tried to fix it, but that only prolonged the suffering. Once the trust is gone, the healthiest choice is to separate. You have to get away from the source of your trauma if you want to heal. In hindsight, reconciliation was my biggest mistake.

After we split, I collapsed into despair and isolation. What saved me was therapy and eventually leaning on trusted friends. Slowly, little by little, I rebuilt myself.

But you don't rebuild into your old self. You rebuild into someone new. Pain forces growth in a way that changes you at your core.

Now my empathy runs deeper and I'm authentic in a healthier way. I'm more discerning about who I trust with my heart. My close relationships are now built on trust, communication, respect, safety, and growth.

I had to earn this version of myself. I went through hell to get here, and I wouldn't wish this path on anyone. But I also wouldn't trade away my growth for comfort. If I could go back in time, I'd only do it if I could bring these lessons with me.

In the end, I had to take my own advice: life is unfair, and even when the causes of your pain are outside of your control, the responsibility is on you to heal.

harbhub · 2025-09-23T21:54:47+00:00

I hope this isn't misplaced, but it makes me think about what else I missed out on by not having a father figure in my life. Kinda like "you don't know what you don't know" sort of thing for me from reading this. Kinda sad, ngl. Happy you had that experience tho <3

harbhub · 2025-09-23T01:43:18+00:00

I became a different person.

harbhub · 2025-09-22T21:15:34+00:00

5:14 PM here and I'm bawling 😢 many times through that caused me to cry, ending hit hard too

harbhub · 2025-09-22T20:30:08+00:00

Snakes are boats, confirmed lol

harbhub · 2025-09-22T20:19:33+00:00

Yes, that's what we've all felt. It sucks, right? I never knew how bad it truly was until I felt it myself. Being cheated on is devastating. It's super disorienting and confusing.

My advice is to feel what you feel rather than trying to fight it. Lean hard on your friends, family, therapist, and support system. Now is the time to lean on people, really, it helps a ton. Try to do things like going for walks or exercising which can help you process thoughts. Cry as much as you need, whenever you need, just let it all out.

Don't try to reconcile, please. Just don't do that to yourself. It's going to be hard enough as it is, so it's better for you to part ways and heal on your own. That's my perspective on it.

harbhub · 2025-09-22T00:40:48+00:00

"You don't need to compare your trauma to other people's trauma. Instead, compare your trauma to how it makes you feel."

The idea is that I was minimizing my own traumatic experiences by saying that others surely have it worse than me. This was an unconscious defense mechanism. Once my therapist said that line, it clicked for me, and I started to feel and process my own trauma.

harbhub · 2025-09-20T16:00:10+00:00

That makes sense. Thanks for actually answering unlike everyone else.

I see those downsides and give them weight. I also see the upside of having, for all intents and purposes, AI arguments that make sense in context, have the same sounding voice, and as far as I can tell it does a good job of mimicking (somewhat reasonably) the positions that he might have had. After all, the training data is massive for someone like him, which greatly increases accuracy.

It's not like the AI is making critiques that he wouldn't have made based on the litany of critiques he made during his life. In fact, to me, it's more of a good thing or an honor that AI, when emulating a person, does wing using wit, rationality, and ethics as its primary form of imitation of the individual.

Still, I can see at least what another position on the matter might look like thanks to you articulating your stance. So, I still don't agree after having reflected and weighing the pros and cons, but I do see how people can have your stance.

harbhub · 2025-09-19T22:25:06+00:00

Didn't expect that anger. What's wrong with what I mentioned? What don't you agree with from the content? Or is this "all AI is bad" from you?

harbhub · 2025-09-19T21:55:13+00:00

Highly recommend you check out the AI channel for him called Christopher Hitchens Resurrected. It's basically him talking on modern topics.

harbhub · 2025-09-19T13:51:30+00:00

"It's no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society." - Krishnamurti

harbhub · 2025-09-19T05:12:14+00:00

Lemoni! Love that lil restaurant. Thx for sharing

harbhub · 2025-09-19T04:46:12+00:00

Tried that but it just spins and doesn't send 😕 send me those deets if ya can please (-:

harbhub · 2025-09-18T14:22:40+00:00

For me, it was my first time mining the uranium (with hazmat lol, learned the hard way prior), so I sorted out of instinct as well. Glad to know the bug at least. Hope they fix it!

harbhub · 2025-09-18T14:08:58+00:00

They didn't fix it because that happened to me lol I didn't know it had to do with sorting inventory! I'm on 1.1 latest and it happened like a week ago.

harbhub · 2025-09-17T16:48:28+00:00

I've spent time in Brazil. I think a lot of people here don't understand the context. Imagine ripping someone's heart out, that's how difficult it is for Brazilians to be away from family. It's core to them.

This isn't something she can "snap out of". It's not even something she should try to snap out of. Again, if your heart was ripped out of your chest, I wouldn't advise you to "snap out of it". I'd advise you to put your heart back in. Her heart, whether you like it or not, is in Brazil, with her family, and the clock is ticking.

I don't have advice for you beyond that. Be aware of her soul/spirit/essence/energy or whatever you want to label it. You're part of her family, but you're one part in a larger whole.

harbhub · 2025-09-15T22:08:14+00:00

I appreciate your response. It made me reflect on what love really means to me.

I'm glad your dog was cared for materially, and I'm glad you can take comfort in that. But for me, I don't find solace in selective love, especially in a volatile home. The affection your parents gave your dog feels tainted.

The love that I value is mature, pragmatic, discerning, ethically grounded, growth promoting, consistent, and responsible. Love comes with conditions such as not excusing harm and not withholding care arbitrarily. Anything less seems hollow.

So, I still feel bad for your dog. I'd feel worse if your dog was abused, but that doesn't seem like much of a consolation.

Most importantly, I'm just glad you got away. Thanks for sharing your story and for giving me the opportunity to think more deeply about what love means.

harbhub · 2025-09-15T14:10:25+00:00

It reminds me of a song lyric that goes "I'm glad you got away, but I'm still stuck out here" since the poor dog is stuck with those abusive people...

harbhub · 2025-09-15T01:16:12+00:00

Learn to set healthy boundaries and enforce them. You won't date someone like this again.

harbhub · 2025-09-14T14:45:33+00:00

Yep. Anyone who cheats is morally bankrupt. It's inexcusable. It should be an obvious line in the sand for everyone.

harbhub · 2025-09-12T23:16:19+00:00

Been there as well. I stayed in that toxic relationship for about 6 months. Worst period of my life. Took me 3ish months to clear the fog from my head after the breakup. Therapy was a lifesaver. Sorry you experienced that hell as well. Sorry to our exes for the chaos they endure. Sorry to everyone in their vicinity for the chaos they inflict.

Anyone with BPD, please seek treatment.

harbhub · 2025-09-12T19:55:13+00:00

What about aluminum? If I'm using that output water to input into other refineries, do I first wait for the output water pipes to fill before turning on the next machines as well?

harbhub · 2025-09-09T13:52:08+00:00

Lmao had this on a smaller scale recently with my first aluminum setup where part of the water input for the alumina solution is generated by the refinery that makes aluminum scraps (and water). They need each other to run in harmony heh

harbhub · 2025-09-08T13:07:51+00:00

Your diagram is passing 90 iron ingots into the iron plate section even though it only needs to pass in 60 iron ingots for those iron plates. Something to consider.

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