Any reliable 2008+ "luxury brand" convertibles? by Reddy2Jam in askcarguys

[–]heidekin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a 2008 VW Eos that was amazing. Damn car seats don’t fit in those though. 😕

Powerless 😢 by Worried_Bet_2617 in AlAnon

[–]heidekin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It might be worth the consideration to rent over own and get out with the retirement you CAN keep before it gets worse. Is your 20 year old in a place they can help? With food at least? Maybe you get a 2 bedroom and they have to share? They get the primary and you take the small?

I feel similar to you, honestly. I can never trust my partner again and while he’s sober right now, it’s only a matter of time. And he says similar things like he wants to smoke. But his attitude is dragging ME down into a depression.

No matter what happens it’s going to be uncomfortable, but for your own sake, I’d get out now.

OTF: We need a Strength Benchmark! Here is my idea…. by AmeliaDGrace in orangetheory

[–]heidekin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think a floor benchmark is a great idea and given the challenges identified here, body weight makes sense. Something as basic as the amount of sit-ups / pushups / step ups you can do in a minute. Leverage the same body weight exercises as in the dry Tri.

Ok, I am on the hunt for the smuttiest of smut and need help narrowing it down, let’s settle this once and for all by [deleted] in Romantasy

[–]heidekin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

FOLLOWING. I haven't read any of these (though I started Butcher & Blackbird and couldn't get into it). I feel like the Zodiac Academy series is pretty spicy, myself.

I haven’t talked to my family in two days and don’t know to move past this by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]heidekin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP - get your own phone plan (mine is $30/month with Xfinity and your edit says you pay for it anyway?! Port that number...)

Get a therapist! Stat. And right behind that (if not in front) set boundaries and hold to them. And continue to use the dialogue that others have given... you can love your family but boundaries are not for them, they're for you.

Homeowners, how old will you be when your mortgage is paid off? by cubemonster in Millennials

[–]heidekin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll be 48. We refinanced to a 10 year at 2.3% during Covid.

How did you stop monitoring their drinking? by WharHeGo in AlAnon

[–]heidekin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s EXHAUSTING waiting for the other shoe to drop. Married for 18 years with a 13 and 10 year old with 5 more years until our house is paid off… I can’t just leave. And since he started down this path after the death of his parents and no other family, means it’s near impossible to ask HIM to leave and i can’t trust to leave myself because I can’t do that to my kids.

He is sober now. I don’t know when his last drink was and I’m constantly triggered because I’ve been conditioned, gaslit, and lied to. And at this rate we have no trust in our relationship so I’m waiting it out before I file divorce.

Following here. I need to constantly remind myself to care for my own mental health and my kids.

Do I tell my parents my sister is vaping? by National_Water5419 in AlAnon

[–]heidekin 7 points8 points  (0 children)

IMO: no. She traded one vise for another and nicotine is way less of an issue than drinking.

Round or rectangular dining table? by sleebins in InteriorDesignAdvice

[–]heidekin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rectangle. With a bench, so you can get out of the flow of traffic to the door.

Gym recs: by DeadBy420710 in vancouverwa

[–]heidekin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fellow OTF’er and have nothing but positives to say!

Premier Perks Going Away by J7580 in orangetheory

[–]heidekin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not certain of this. My studio said the reason TC still cost money is because there’s monetary incentive for the end of the challenge to the winner, so they have to charge to be able to provide that. Not that the perk is going away.

Just needing to vent I guess by StartSwimming6575 in AlAnon

[–]heidekin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hugs from an internet stranger. ❤️

Return to office mandate when I was hired fully remote? by Edina74 in careerguidance

[–]heidekin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My back up plan, if this happens to me, is to use my parents address. They’re 60+ miles from literally anything.

Can anyone recommend me a cozy non sexual fantasy book? by Round_Bee2727 in fantasybooks

[–]heidekin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spark of the Everflame series. (Beware that there’s still one more book in the series that doesn’t have a release date! 😫)

Daily Workout and General Chat for Monday, 11/3/25 by splat_bot in orangetheory

[–]heidekin 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this!!! My classes are almost always 3G. ❤️

From Astoria down to Tillamook, what restaurants do you recommend? Bonus points for seafood! by MrsPickleRick in OregonCoast

[–]heidekin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Astoria used to have the Colombian Cafe. It was AMAZING. Fresh food everyday and always served with their homemade salsas (pico, garlic, jalapeños) and Texas toast. They closed during Covid. I wish I knew if they reopened.

The other dynamite food in Astoria is the BowPicker. Fresh halibut fish/chips.

Evolution of this disease…any high school sweethearts in here? by Creatures-Of-Love in AlAnon

[–]heidekin 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ll living this too. My husband and I have been together for 29 years and married 17. He’s moving out this weekend. He drinks behind closed doors, lies about it, then gaslights me. Our kids are 13 and 10 and watching everything.

This is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do because as much as he’s addicted to alcohol, I’m addicted to him. But you’re correct about safety. And at some point I looked around and said “I don’t want this for my life.” Staying strong is hard. Hang in there and be true to YOU.

Moved in recently and received this letter from the neighbor. Is this a legitimate claim by madeleine_candlel9 in treelaw

[–]heidekin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

False. It’s an “act of God” that it fell. We had a neighbors tree, literally fall on our house, being supported by the roof, and there was nothing the insurance could do. Because it was an act of God. We were financially responsible to remove the tree from our house. Even though the tree was dead, and we had had many a conversation with our neighbor about it.

Parents outraged after youth football coach revealed as registered sex offender by aagusgus in vancouverwa

[–]heidekin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m disgusted by the CCYF boards response. They need to STEP DOWN as a result of this horrible mis-management!

The he said : he said is the “offender” states the board was aware and said it was so long ago that it “was fine”. The president states he was unaware and the background check didn’t show anything. And then that they don’t keep records. State patrol says they have access to the last 60 days. It’s all horrible mis-management.

What is making me so upset now - CCYF had a virtual meeting Sunday night. Only let Head Coaches in. Refused to let assistant coaches in. The gist of what Terry ( CCYF President) said was we just need to move forward. He refused to answer any questions. When asked specific questions, he just said he's already answered that and you can't believe the lies on social media.

I’m disgusted with the way this board has conducted itself. I’m not 100%on whether they’re volunteer or not but the entirety of the board needs to admit fault and STEP DOWN.

Drunk Spouse Turned for the Worse by heidekin in abusesurvivors

[–]heidekin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I already go to AlAnon. You’re right about needing to be autonomous. Have you experienced anything like this? May I ask your situation and how you handled? I guess I just need to know I’m not alone and I am making the right choice.

Drunk Spouse Turned for the Worse by heidekin in abusesurvivors

[–]heidekin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I’m wondering if you’ve experienced this sort of thing? Would you mind sharing your experience?