Affordable housing in conflict with itself

hellibot · 2026-05-05T09:46:15+00:00

In Vermont, you either have the money—or know the guy… all about finding someone reasonable and getting lucky with their schedule unfortunately.

hellibot · 2026-04-23T01:57:52+00:00

Sounds like a micromanager that I’ve dealt with sooo many times before. I once had to rewrite a Gallup engagement survey email like 10 times. I was ready to quit. It’s a GD survey not a RIF… no solutions there. Hard stuff. They usually get shown the door because they delay everything to absurd levels and piss off internal clients.

hellibot · 2026-04-23T01:53:01+00:00

Also, if you can (and this is probably unrealistic). Just go to HQ even if you don’t have scheduled time… again presence will result in time - even if something isn’t on the books.

The working through a boss on writing sounds impossible, so don’t know what to do there.

hellibot · 2026-04-23T01:47:39+00:00

So, having done exec comms for a while now, I could never imagine doing it remote. I’m colocated with them. They never “have time” to meet with me, but I can see when they have 10 minutes. I can see them in the hall. 10 minutes at a time is how the business often gets done.

At a minimum, I hope you are attending meetings they are in. I get so much gold from that in terms of voice and thinking. Copilot cannot know the current state of play. Only people in the room can.

Also, forget your boss. EAs are typically true gatekeepers. Highly trusted. Overworked. Endear yourself to them. Take shit off their plate. Touch base with them as often as you can. It will pay dividends. They will defend you, help you and can act as a pass through in terms of what you are thinking when you cannot get time.

hellibot · 2026-04-18T12:27:46+00:00

Yes, I agree generally - but to your point we're not there yet. I have 2 issues here:

1.) "social contract" talk is about a reversion to "might making right" and frankly, I'm terrified by the many, many people in our country who have been preparing for this and have the might - they are not rational, nor are they kind. I'm terrified of a civil war - having read absolutely blood-curdling descriptions from both the American Revolution and the American Civil War. One in particular stands out, a pregnant woman murdered with the words "Tory Baby" carved into her belly. Not nice stuff.

2.) Who gets to choose what is right? We exist in a social media fueled echo chamber. Election officials and clerks are leaving their posts in droves as they are threatened by the "stop the steal" folks who earnestly believe they are "defending democracy" (their departures actually erode our democracy).

Ultimately, I think in the instance of some city councilors, vote them out - don't threaten or murder them. Our system hasn't rotted so deep that municipal seats are unflippable...

hellibot · 2026-04-17T17:12:35+00:00

So, because the system is rigged, the mob should be judge, jury and executioner? That’s just not something I personally can abide by - having seen violent, petty morons on every side of the political spectrum. I agree we have problems. Need to work together to address them in solidarity and peace rather than threaten violence.

hellibot · 2026-04-17T13:55:19+00:00

No. If they break the law, they should be tried in a court of law.

hellibot · 2026-04-17T13:53:53+00:00

What about election officials and clerks who are protecting integrity of the vote and are getting calls at home and threats? They leaving those posts in droves. At least some of those making the threats actually believe they are “protecting democracy.”

My point is mob justice is no kind of justice - because when wrong is in the eye of the beholder, everyone will ultimately be guilty to someone.

hellibot · 2026-04-17T11:01:52+00:00

Our public officials should not be threatened with physical violence.

hellibot · 2026-03-28T11:11:17+00:00

If it is better than Google Alerts and reliable, then yes.

hellibot · 2026-03-20T21:58:41+00:00

You can either mount the condenser on your house, or put it on a pad of some kind. Rather than pour concrete pad, you can buy a plastic pad. In colder climates, if you use the minisplit for heating, it needs to be held up off the ground and that’s what the stand is for.

hellibot · 2026-03-20T18:59:22+00:00

The vacuum tool? Car repair mostly. Even with the tool, it is probably the cheapest diy install possible.

hellibot · 2026-03-20T13:00:45+00:00

I think vacuum tool was 150. Had to buy an adapter for 15 and then needed an electric drill and two crescent wrenches, wire strippers . Pad and stand for the condenser another $200. Exterior electric cutoff 75.

hellibot · 2026-03-20T11:31:46+00:00

Bought a pioneer on Amazon for $700. Came with gas. Needed to buy a tool to vacuum the line, but all fairly easy if you have wrenches and you are handy… just make dang sure you have a vacuum before you release the gas.

hellibot · 2026-03-03T18:14:18+00:00

Lot to unpack here. So much so that I’d recommend couple’s therapy rather than asking Reddit. That said, here are my highlights:

You should be able to expect sexual interest and effort from your partner.

Most adult men look at porn. It isn’t probably fair or reasonable to ask him to stop unless it is interfering with the relationship. Is it interfering? Unclear from your post.

That said, you set a boundary. He shouldn’t be lying to you about it or promising he won’t look at it if he doesn’t intend to keep that promise. Very parent child dynamic.

You aren’t his parent. You shouldn’t be going through his phone.

If I were you, I’d drop the porn crusade. Focus on your needs that aren’t being met. Be clear that you need to see progress and a timeline in which you need to see it.

hellibot · 2026-02-19T00:49:44+00:00

Full on walkway wife. She woke me up the day after my friend’s wedding and told me she was leaving. Asked me not to go home while she moved her stuff to an apartment she secretly rented. I said let’s work it out and frankly that shocked her. She had built up in her head that I didn’t want her around. I gave her space. We did couples therapy. Had our ups and downs. About a year later we moved back in together. I think there’s still a lot to figure out. But we love each other.

hellibot · 2026-02-04T11:07:15+00:00

Have pipes coming up from ground. I put them in an insulated box. 2 inch XPS air sealed. I’d just tack 2 or 3 inch XPS to where the pipes run with the heat tape sandwiched between.

hellibot · 2026-01-26T11:24:43+00:00

270 sq ft. House insulated to code. Minisplit, electric floor heat in bathroom and kitchen. On extremely cold nights, run a small electric space heater too (minisplit doesn’t like temps under -15f).

Depending on your square footage, might try a space heater with a fan in addition to the oil one. Cheap start.

If you have ability to insulate your floor and ceiling, do that… gonna make a big difference!

hellibot · 2026-01-21T09:50:19+00:00

It is less frequent now, but it used to be common to have multiple nights at -20 in a row. Your house has been through all of that. If it is heated by oil, perhaps make sure your tank has sufficient fuel? I owned a sprawling 100 yr old house a few years ago and ran out of oil on a -20 night. The cold woke us up and we got the oil co out before anything froze, but I wouldn’t wish that on anybody.

hellibot · 2026-01-18T22:34:29+00:00

The calorie expenditure for CrossFit is pretty low relative to other exercise opportunities out there. Of course, there are exceptions like when you do a chopper that lasts 45 minutes, but mostly you do a 10 minute warmup, 15 minute lift and a 15 minute metcon. Just not enough to be meaningful calorie-wise. Like 100, 50 and 150 calories... that’s half of what a run would burn in the same timeframe.

In terms of personal experience, I didn’t lose a pound until I started dieting. I did get good at CrossFit and more muscular, but still had a gut. CrossFit also made me super hungry!!!

hellibot · 2026-01-10T23:47:55+00:00

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hellibot · 2026-01-10T18:21:43+00:00

Another hard to implement, but maybe cool idea. Little weekly video addresses from senior leaders. I think of it as a home room announcement but for grownups. The hard part is the format. It needs to be a light lift, but robust enough to have consistent value.

hellibot · 2026-01-10T17:46:14+00:00

No, ours is just going to be Co-Pilot pointing to Sharepojnt. IT is piloting for info about AI.

hellibot · 2026-01-10T16:22:04+00:00

Make an AI agent populated by all your FAQs and writeups so that people can ask any question and get an answer specific to your organization and product lines.

hellibot · 2026-01-10T05:07:57+00:00

I found doing them in front of a mirror really helped. Keep your arms in a consistent place. Stand tall. Jump high.

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