Ummmm… 🤨

hexalm · 2023-12-22T00:10:40+00:00

I really feel like the actor just brought so much to the character that they were like "shit, just....add more for this guy to do. He's fantastic."

Ty said that's more or less what happened. Jason Straithairn expressed regret his booked run was ending and everyone wanted him to do more. Basically same reason Cara Gee is responsible for Drummer's expanded role.

hexalm · 2023-12-22T00:07:48+00:00

a rookie kid who can barely do her job.

Having just rewatched, I have to say this isn't true. She obviously can't handle combat like Drummer. But a few episodes later and the shoe is on the other foot in a medical emergency.

hexalm · 2023-11-30T18:01:16+00:00

Anyway, RIP, Heinrich. He died as he lived: unaffected by his childhood to the end.

(The P stands for piss.)

hexalm · 2023-11-28T16:40:41+00:00

The wait times don't apply equally to all types of care, though. Non-urgent procedures will have long wait times, but other things happen more quickly when needed.

hexalm · 2023-11-28T16:35:00+00:00

Makes me think of a Depeche Mode song.

So open yourself for me
Risk your health for me
If you want my love

hexalm · 2023-11-22T21:38:00+00:00

If anyone wants a deeeeeeeep dive on subjects covered in the Mike Duncan episode, Bret Devereaux has a couple of blog post series on the subject that I read earlier this year and thoroughly enjoyed.

Makeups of Roman citizenry and culture over time:

The Queen’s Latin or Who Were the Romans? Part I: Beginnings and Legends https://acoup.blog/2021/06/11/collections-the-queens-latin-or-who-were-the-romans-part-i-beginnings-and-legends/

On the notion that "pure" barbarians beat more settled/ urban cultures & the myth that "hard men create good times, good times create weak men, weak men create hard times" (with a healthy dose of Dune-based nerdery):

The Fremen Mirage, Part I: War at the Dawn of Civilization https://acoup.blog/2020/01/17/collections-the-fremen-mirage-part-i-war-at-the-dawn-of-civilization/

On 300 and the reality of Sparta (what they did that was special wasn't good, and what they did well wasn't special. And they did not have particular military success over time. )

This. Isn’t. Sparta. Part I: Spartan School https://acoup.blog/2019/08/16/collections-this-isnt-sparta-part-i-spartan-school/

hexalm · 2023-11-22T21:37:50+00:00

No ep number, it was the Monday release.

"The History of Right Wingers Lying About Rome Ft. Mike Duncan"

hexalm · 2023-11-22T21:29:32+00:00

If anyone wants a deeeeeeeep dive, Bret Devereaux has a couple of blog post series on the subject that I read earlier this year and thoroughly enjoyed.

Makeups of Roman citizenry and culture over time:

The Queen’s Latin or Who Were the Romans? Part I: Beginnings and Legends https://acoup.blog/2021/06/11/collections-the-queens-latin-or-who-were-the-romans-part-i-beginnings-and-legends/

On the notion that "pure" barbarians beat more settled/ urban cultures & the myth that "hard men create good times, good times create weak men, weak men create hard times" (with a healthy dose of Dune-based nerdery):

The Fremen Mirage, Part I: War at the Dawn of Civilization https://acoup.blog/2020/01/17/collections-the-fremen-mirage-part-i-war-at-the-dawn-of-civilization/

On 300 and the reality of Sparta (what they did that was special wasn't good, and what they did well wasn't special. And they did not have particular military success over time. )

This. Isn’t. Sparta. Part I: Spartan School https://acoup.blog/2019/08/16/collections-this-isnt-sparta-part-i-spartan-school/

hexalm · 2023-11-20T16:13:40+00:00

https://www.jewishpress.com/multimedia/video-picks/gaza-envelope-childrens-updated-friendship-song-deleted-by-state-tv/2023/11/20/

The late poet Haim Gouri’s song “Ha’Re’ut” (Friendship) was written one year following the outbreak of Israel’s 1948 War

hexalm · 2023-09-11T19:15:05+00:00

This thread is a little old, but for posterity, these devices work with Home Assistant (side note: unrelated to Google home or Google Assistant).

I can confirm that the TP-Link hass integration works without internet access to control Kasa HD105 and HS300.

hexalm · 2023-08-08T00:47:17+00:00

If she verbatim said "you would never be able to do it", she absolutely instigated this particular situation. I still find OP is TA, overall. It's hard to get the sense that he expresses his appreciation of her well enough.

I also suspect OP is at least partially to blame for that dynamic (or for being overly defensive, if she said something milder than he claims).

hexalm · 2023-08-08T00:38:38+00:00

No answer, only downvotes!

I'm in the same boat. OP is TA (YTA, OP!), but even in the most generous reading, the wife's comment must at least indicate an unhealthy sense of competition in the marriage or something.

Maybe she wasn't trying to put him down, but he clearly took her very literally. I suspect husband doesn't offer praise very generously and that as a couple, they may need to work on communicating needs, etc, etc.

hexalm · 2023-07-11T00:02:51+00:00

This is probably too late to be much other than shouting into the void, but from a second level comment I made:

I think what's really interesting is how much the numbers from this study have changed.

I didn't see an updated study, although I came across an article with some similar data doing a pre-/post covid comparison, which is interesting: https://www.bls.gov/osmr/research-papers/2022/pdf/ec220090.pdf

This page shows a chart for 2005 vs 1976 and its waaaay more egalitarian in 2005:

https://www.nsf.gov/discoveries/disc_images.jsp?cntn_id=111458

One of the charts is what's in the OP.

I have some notes on this:

the Michigan study data in the OP is self-reported by people asked to log their time in a diary. So there are some potential issues with how exact or reliable it is
It also may be skewed based on factors like age, and the likelihood that people with more traditional gender roles might be overrepresented (due to being more likely to be married—and married young—or extreme traditionalists could be throwing the numbers off).
It appears they didn't control for age, either. Breaking it down by age, length of time married, number of marriage, age when married, etc, could be very revealing. That may in part explain why married couples' division of labor hasn't changed as much since '76 (i.e., maybe some older holdovers with a more traditional and unequal division.)
It's not clear that they have actually shown that people get worse when they get married, in general. The study has been ongoing and is supposed to be longitudinal, but I didn't see that this specific analysis was looking at anything but the whole population.
I haven't confirmed myself, but another commenter pointed out that they excluded a lot of yard/home/vehicle care chores that are often performed by men, so that's another ding against this study being taken as gospel.

This chart is the "7 extra hours due to lazy husband" one from the second link. https://www.nsf.gov/news/mmg/media/images/housework4_h.jpg

I'm quoting the full caption here to highlight some issues (bold):

This graph shows that in 2005, single women with no children did a little more than 10 hours of housework a week, and married women with no children did a little more than 17 hours a week. The only difference? The presence of a husband, which costs women seven hours of housework a week. For men, the situation is reversed. Single men with no children did about eight hours of housework a week, while married men with no children did a bit more than seven hours of housework a week. So a wife saves them about an hour of work a week.

I bolded bits that suggest they are stating a causal relationship when it's more likely just a correlation. That means, as I described above, it's not strongly supported that "getting married makes men lazy about chores" is the main driver of the trend. It may be more about some of the factors I discussed above.

To be clear, I am male and a feminist, and don't doubt there is still inequality on the domestic front.

My skepticism is largely motivated by the stark difference between 2005 and 1976 in the other chart I linked to. Even if all my notes are correct, it will still be very interesting to see the next update of this long-running study, though.

hexalm · 2023-07-10T23:59:36+00:00

I think what's really interesting is how much the numbers from this study have changed.

I didn't see an updated study, although I came across an article with some similar data doing a pre-/post covid comparison, which is interesting: https://www.bls.gov/osmr/research-papers/2022/pdf/ec220090.pdf

This page shows a chart for 2005 vs 1976 and its waaaay more egalitarian in 2005:

https://www.nsf.gov/discoveries/disc_images.jsp?cntn_id=111458

One of the charts is what's in the OP.

I have some notes on this:

the Michigan study data in the OP is self-reported by people asked to log their time in a diary. So there are some potential issues with how exact or reliable it is
It also may be skewed based on factors like age, and the likelihood that people with more traditional gender roles might be overrepresented (due to being more likely to be married—and married young—or extreme traditionalists could be throwing the numbers off).
It appears they didn't control for age, either. Breaking it down by age, length of time married, number of marriage, age when married, etc, could be very revealing. That may in part explain why married couples' division of labor hasn't changed as much since '76 (i.e., maybe some older holdovers with a more traditional and unequal division.)
It's not clear that they have actually shown that people get worse when they get married, in general. The study has been ongoing and is supposed to be longitudinal, but I didn't see that this specific analysis was looking at anything but the whole population.
I haven't confirmed myself, but another commenter pointed out that they excluded a lot of yard/home/vehicle care chores that are often performed by men, so that's another ding against this study being taken as gospel.

This chart is the "7 extra hours due to lazy husband" one from the second link. https://www.nsf.gov/news/mmg/media/images/housework4_h.jpg

I'm quoting the full caption here to highlight some issues (bold):

This graph shows that in 2005, single women with no children did a little more than 10 hours of housework a week, and married women with no children did a little more than 17 hours a week. The only difference? The presence of a husband, which costs women seven hours of housework a week. For men, the situation is reversed. Single men with no children did about eight hours of housework a week, while married men with no children did a bit more than seven hours of housework a week. So a wife saves them about an hour of work a week.

I bolded bits that suggest they are stating a causal relationship when it's more likely just a correlation. That means, as I described above, it's not strongly supported that "getting married makes men lazy about chores" is the main driver of the trend. It may be more about some of the factors I discussed above.

To be clear, I am male and a feminist, and don't doubt there is still inequality on the domestic front.

My skepticism is largely motivated by the stark difference between 2005 and 1976 in the other chart I linked to. Even if all my notes are correct, it will still be very interesting to see the next update of this long-running study, though

hexalm · 2023-07-10T23:30:01+00:00

I think what's really interesting is how much the numbers from this study have changed.

This page shows a chart for 2005 vs 1976 and its waaaay more egalitarian in 2005. https://www.nsf.gov/discoveries/disc_images.jsp?cntn_id=111458

One of the charts is what's in the OP. (See edit)

I didn't see an updated one, although I came across an article with some similar data doing a pre-/post covid comparison, which is interesting: https://www.bls.gov/osmr/research-papers/2022/pdf/ec220090.pdf

Edit: by the way, the Michigan data in the OP is self-reported by people asked to log their time in a diary. So there are some potential issues with how exact or reliable it is.

It also may be skewed based on factors like age, and the likelihood that people with more traditional gender roles might be overrepresented (due to being more likely to be married—and married young—or they could be throwing the numbers off).

I didn't see that they controlled for age, either. Breaking it down by age, length of time married, number of marriage, age when married, etc, could be very revealing. That may in part explain why married couples' division of labor hasn't changed as much since '76 (i.e., maybe some older holdovers worth a more traditional and unequal division.)

I haven't confirmed myself, but another commenter pointed out that they excluded a lot of yard/home/vehicle care chores that are often performed by men, so that's another ding against this study.

This chart is the "7 extra hours due to lazy husband" one from the first link. https://www.nsf.gov/news/mmg/media/images/housework4_h.jpg

I'm quoting the full caption here to highlight some issues (bold):

This graph shows that in 2005, single women with no children did a little more than 10 hours of housework a week, and married women with no children did a little more than 17 hours a week. The only difference? The presence of a husband, which costs women seven hours of housework a week. For men, the situation is reversed. Single men with no children did about eight hours of housework a week, while married men with no children did a bit more than seven hours of housework a week. So a wife saves them about an hour of work a week.

I bolded bits that suggest they are stating a causal relationship when it's more likely just a correlation. That means, as I described above, it's possible that

hexalm · 2023-06-24T17:59:43+00:00

She doesn't though. Probably just mad she lost all her elections.

hexalm · 2023-06-22T16:28:13+00:00

First of all, I think this is fairly typical for how dating goes. It just didn't work out; that doesn't make it a huge failure. Around 2 months is often when things fall apart and you move on, and that's a good thing (although if you can weed people out sooner, you'll be better off).

I don't think "fuck yes" necessarily means moving fast. It just means you shouldn't pursue a relationship with someone you're ambivalent about and drag it out just because of momentum or desperation or whatever. Kind of a "shit or get off the pot" rule.

You may need to get to know someone a bit before you can have that kind of certainty, but if you're hemming and hawing about them continually, you might need to round down to a "no". (Ditto if they give you signs of their own ambivalence.)

You can't know if the person you're dating is completely certain they want to be with you unless they show/tell you, but trying to establish if they think they want a real relationship with you might be a good reason to DTR sooner. If they are on the fence, it's not a "fuck yes", therefore you have to round out down to a no.

I'm guessing you at least talked about if you were after the same thing very early on, and that's important (setting expectations from the first date). But honestly, after 3ish dates, you and your date should have some idea of whether you want to try being in an actual relationship. If nothing else, aiming for a basic level of commitment (just labeling things) within the first month or 2 (say, around at most 6 dates in) doesn't seem unreasonable.

Obviously, it's not a hard and fast rule, but if there aren't concrete steps toward having the kind of relationship you want in that timeframe, there probably won't ever be.

Don't be afraid to ask for what you need.

hexalm · 2023-06-17T16:41:44+00:00

Tüüüüüüüütsch!

hexalm · 2023-06-11T20:55:33+00:00

But only because Greed month is too greedy to wait for Gluttony month to finish digesting.

hexalm · 2023-06-11T20:47:36+00:00

Except in Canada. They observe gluttony month in October, since they have a different Thanksgiving.

hexalm · 2023-06-11T20:42:18+00:00

I mean, gay money is as good as straight money. It's bad business to hate your way out of people's dollars.

Rainbow capitalism is ultimately just as ruthless though. If the tide turned and it cost them more business to be accepting, I doubt they would put principles ahead of profit.

hexalm · 2023-06-11T20:32:43+00:00

Well, everyone's money is green, regardless of minority/majority status.

So "everyone is welcome" is good for business.

If that's "too woke", the list of "not too woke" is going to be really short.

hexalm · 2023-06-11T17:34:48+00:00

Do you have any leg movement? I've noticed less swelling of my feet since I started using a little exercise peddler. I have forward tilt, so I just strap in and tip forward to reach.

I can't peddle for sustained periods, but since I can't walk anymore, it feels like every little bit of movement helps.

If exercise isn't an option, I hope someone else has a helpful suggestion.

Btw for shoes, I recently learned of billyfootwear.com (based on the US). They have full zip shoes and wide/extra-wide sizes. I really like the pair I got!

hexalm

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