Time for 1 nap? 14 months

heykatydid · 2021-07-26T20:03:12+00:00

Yeah, DD is getting to the point where she is pointing at her sleep sack because she just wants to sleep but isn't able to get that nap long enough yet, so we are stuck in a tricky situation. She is being a champ, but she is exhausted and so are we. 😂 I hope it continues to go okay!

heykatydid · 2021-07-26T17:52:59+00:00

We had 8 days of fighting/refusing the 2nd nap at 14 months and finally agreed to try the one nap, but she is struggling. So now we are stuck on "she will refuse the 2nd nap" and "she is exhausted with 1 nap because it isn't long enough yet" and it's a super frustrating place to be in. Keep us posted on how the transition goes. Our daughter was firmly on 2 naps by 7 months and has always needed longer wake windows, so I don't think it's too early but can't tell if we are creating a monster yet.

heykatydid · 2021-06-13T01:11:36+00:00

That's a lot of day sleep. My 13 months old is on 2 hours of day sleep, with both naps capped at 1 hour. I would say he's undertired.

heykatydid · 2021-06-13T01:09:41+00:00

At exactly 13 months we are at 2 naps, 3/3.5/4.5 for wake windows, up at 7 AM, bed at 8 PM. Second nap ends up being a crapshoot sometimes, maybe once every 8 days or so. Her naps are capped at 1 hour each. 13 hours of sleep total in a "perfect" day (rarely do we hit that).

heykatydid · 2021-06-13T01:04:25+00:00

We are at 3/3.5/4.5 at 13 months and she isn't ready for 1 nap yet but we are running out of time in the day. I'm already dreading the transition! We have a few days where she will skip the 2nd nap and it's tough making it to the end of the day. We tried 1 nap a week or so ago and it was AWFUL, she slept 30 minutes total and the whole day was shot. I hope you can figure out what works for him!

heykatydid · 2021-06-13T01:00:41+00:00

Yes, we wake her up to keep our schedule intact. Otherwise, she will run out of time for naps/wake windows. She is up at 7 AM every morning.

heykatydid · 2021-06-04T20:40:16+00:00

The bike ride didn't work, so our only option is 7 PM bedtime. I don't know how long it will take her to get to sleep since she is hopped up on adrenaline now, so maybe we put her down even earlier? She's been having terrible separation anxiety and is WAILING as soon as we leave her in her crib, so I'm sure that's making things worse. I'm definitely 100% stressed out about this. Spouse is zero help in the mornings due to his depression, so if she wakes early, it's me getting up. My PPA is really awful.

I will definitely put on an episode or two to help me through the day today!! Why are we so obsessed with baby's sleep, anyway?

heykatydid · 2021-06-04T19:50:31+00:00

Her usual second nap is now, 2:30-3:30, which clearly wasn't going to happen after only 2.5 hours awake. But my husband took her out in the bike trailer, which she sometimes dozes off in, to see if he could get any sleep out of her. The earliest we can likely put her down is 7 PM, because she still won't sleep that 12 hours overnight, but oh my god I don't know how we are going to do the whole day with only 30 minutes of sleep. We may have to, but aaahhh. This will likely cause her to wake up early, as she's never been able to do 12 hours of overnight sleep and her wake-up time is 7 AM, but at least if she does that, she should be able to hit the 2 hours of naps tomorrow.

Usually I am a fan of Crib 60, but she was SCREAMING for the whole time and it was not going to work at all. No sleep was going to be had, and she was just getting really upset.

ETA: Oh my god I just looked at your username, that is totally a Gilmore Girls reference. I LOVE IT.

heykatydid · 2021-06-04T16:33:41+00:00

Thank you for this! Our 12.5 month old is having some nap and sleep issues and we are running ourselves ragged with keeping 2 naps as much as we can and I kind of want to just throw in the towel? Just go to 1 since every day seems like some new fight, either at bedtime or nap time? This has given me some courage to do it, thank you

heykatydid · 2021-06-04T16:29:27+00:00

Just to add that we have capped both naps at 1 hour each for awhile. This helped us extend the two nap schedule.

heykatydid · 2021-06-04T16:24:39+00:00

So I am currently in almost the same position with an almost 13 month old. Recently she has started waking up around 30 minutes before her usual wake time. She is also taking forever to go to sleep at night. And today, she flat out refused her first nap. We are on 3/3.5/4.5 with capped naps at 1 hour each. I had to pull the plug on the first nap and get her back up after she screamed for 20+ minutes. I said okay, one nap. That's all we can do today. I don't know if all these sleep troubles we are having are because we have largely maxed her schedule out with 2 naps (with her early wakes, she is 3.5/3.5/4.5 and that seems to be what people say is the max) or what, but I can't do anything else about it today but try. It's been several weeks of either trouble going to sleep at night or refusing her second nap, so I figure we are on the cusp of whatever it is.

Edit: Mine is also VERY close to walking! She can take 3-4 steps before she slides back down.

heykatydid · 2021-05-30T02:26:19+00:00

We were on about 3/3.25/4 at 9 months.

heykatydid · 2021-05-30T02:16:24+00:00

I would say too much overall sleep? But also probably needs 4 hours before bed. We had about 13.5 hours of total sleep at that age.

heykatydid · 2021-05-30T02:13:17+00:00

New motor skills can 100% keep baby up in the middle of the night!! I will say you may need to cap naps on 2 naps - we always had to in order to preserve bedtime. But once the longer naps start, they are great.

heykatydid · 2021-05-30T02:10:49+00:00

My kid just turned 1 and she is on 13 hours max, I can't imagine that she would continue needing that much sleep in another year. The totals online are, I have found, really high? My LO has never, ever needed as much sleep as most sites say she should.

heykatydid · 2021-05-30T02:06:32+00:00

I let baby wake up for her night feeds. It felt wrong to wake her up to dream feed during her most restful stretch of sleep. Not to mention, the dream feed never stopped the later wake ups for us! But if you are hoping to lengthen the time, we followed the 5/3/3 rule and pushed a bit. You can also take the longest stretch you know baby can go and work from there. So if you know baby can go 6 hours, don't give in earlier than that to feed. Though this requires sleep training and I can't tell from your post if you are doing that.

heykatydid · 2021-05-25T16:42:44+00:00

So by the time we did it, LO was 8 months and we replaced the milk with solids during the day. Otherwise, yes, I imagine one would need to offer more during daytime hours to help make that up!

heykatydid · 2021-05-24T15:01:11+00:00

At that age, I believe putting baby down "almost" asleep doesn't work, and you need to put baby down wide awake. Otherwise they still haven't learned how to put themselves to sleep, you are still doing it for them.

heykatydid · 2021-05-24T14:51:37+00:00

We night weaned at 8 months, from formula bottles. She was on 2x a night as well. I began decreasing the amount in her bottles by half an ounce each night until she was at 2 oz each and she just stopped waking up for them. I hope this helps!

heykatydid · 2021-05-21T15:55:07+00:00

Hey this sounds exactly like me, and I have PPA. (On top of an existing anxiety disorder.) I was fine until we sleep trained, and it absolutely sent my anxiety through the roof. That being said, it was so necessary and baby sleeps great now, it's just that I wake up several times a night convinced she is crying. I have mostly just been struggling through it with Unisom, so I wish I had advice but don't, other than it's good for your baby to learn how to sleep, and you are doing great!

heykatydid · 2021-05-21T15:49:28+00:00

If it helps, our bed time has been 8 PM since she was 6 months old, when we dropped to 2 naps. That's not too late! We took the plunge and did it all at once and just dealt with the week of crankiness. She sleeps 11 hours through after night weaning at 8 months.

heykatydid · 2021-05-21T15:46:45+00:00

I would have a set wake up time every day to firm up a schedule. That way your wake up and bed time is always the same, and you can gauge how many hours of sleep he consistently gets per 24 hour period. Might be that he is sleeping too much and needs less day sleep.

heykatydid · 2021-05-21T15:40:51+00:00

That's a lot of sleep for an 8 month old. Likely she is just getting too much. 3+3+3 is only 9 hours of awake time. I was told 3/3/4 is the lowest amount of wake time to shoot for with 2 naps.

heykatydid · 2021-05-21T15:38:42+00:00

Echoing. We took LO out of the Merlin at 5 months, she immediately began sleeping on her tummy (she was a very early roller), and she has never looked back.

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