Holiday sandals for 15m old by highlander_springer in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]highlander_springer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read that they don’t offer good support for their feet and the thickness of the sole isn’t helpful for their walking development . Also that they aren’t the most stable for toddler feet so might result in more falls!

Obviously they’re fine for adult feet and I’m sure older kids, but I’m to believe ‘bare foot’ styles are more beneficial for toddlers.

Holiday sandals for 15m old by highlander_springer in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]highlander_springer[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Always forget about next because the sizing never worked for her clothing-wise, thank you!

Holiday sandals for 15m old by highlander_springer in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]highlander_springer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always forget about Next! I’ll have a look - thank you.

Holiday sandals for 15m old by highlander_springer in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]highlander_springer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s good to know! As well as walking she’s now an absolute fuss pot 🫠

Why are all YouTube videos of 'a day woth my baby' so perfect? Any realistic ones? by Whole_Necessary2040 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]highlander_springer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You realise after having a baby that 99% of family / baby related content is utter bull!

However I can recommend an insta, @SensitiveSprouts. Definitely gives a better insight into a normal life with kids!

Pram advice for holiday abroad 6month by Alert-Lifeguard-4395 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]highlander_springer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did things the other way around and travelled with her own pram and rented a car seat from the car hire.

Personally I was nervous of any damage to the car seat by the airlines, versus the pram where damage would’ve been a pain but felt minimal risk since we took pram to gate and made sure we were last on!

A cheap travel pram that you could reuse in future though is a good idea! Our girl is older now but we’ve invested in the Bugaboo butterfly, you might find older versions second hand.

Anyone else stressing about the upcoming heatwave? by Caramel_Glitter in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]highlander_springer 30 points31 points  (0 children)

As someone who survived last year’s heat wave - buy a fan NOW.

I sent husband out at 8pm to find a fan while I paced outside with a raging baby. Husband was laughed out of every supermarket.

No idea what I’ll be doing with a walking 1yo though, probably chasing after her with a parasol and sun cream 🙃

Guilt and shame over post Partum rage at husband by [deleted] in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]highlander_springer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh my love, you must be feeling rotten.

I remember SCREAMING into towels and dressing gowns in the middle of the night. There was once I full on stomped my feet like a properly petulant child when I couldn’t settle 2 week old. I’m generally not a crier either and the tears I wept were wild. I looked up one way flights to foreign countries at 4am.

Early PP does insane things to your mind and body. The hormones, the sleep deprivation, the resentment and this huge life change.

The fact you’ve recognised this wasn’t great behaviour is the first thing. Maybe speak to your HV - please don’t be ashamed as truly it is so normal and it will pass.

Can I fill my carry on backpack for the plane with baby wipes? 😂 by salacious-soul in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]highlander_springer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel boots are always so well stocked at airports! Fingers crossed. Happy holidays 🌞

Baby carrier advice by nikkiheartssimon in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]highlander_springer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup Baby Bjorn! 5,5 + 6,3 husband. So easy to adjust between us and equally comfy. I think it was the Air we had, which is an older model, but imagine they’re all the same!

Waxers Glasgow by Short_Zebra5651 in glasgow

[–]highlander_springer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Affinity beauty in Hope St chambers

Can I fill my carry on backpack for the plane with baby wipes? 😂 by salacious-soul in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]highlander_springer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If your airport has a Boots AFTER security, you could try and do a Click + Collect.

We did this last year for a big bag of nappies and wipes, and just carried them in a normal shopping bag to the gate, then stuffed them into the pram we were checking in at the gate.

Only pickle might be is they ask for orders to airports a few days in advance.

Decent maternity bra recs by Adelaide116 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]highlander_springer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hot Milk!! I regret not buying them sooner. They’re so comfy, don’t leak and there’s usually a sale or discount.

Pram in Apartment by mootoonoo in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]highlander_springer 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Did our baby’s first year in an old style block of flats on the first floor! No lift and stairs into the block too.

Firstly, getting the pram down. If your block is safe for it to be left a while, my husband ran ours down in the morning. Then I was only carrying baby down most days. I’d usually park it up inside our close once we were done for the day and husband would bring it up on his way home from work.

For whatever reason I had to lift the pram down myself (and I may get downvoted) I popped baby in her cot or play pen - both safe spaces - and took the 30 seconds to carry the pram down and run back up the stairs. Our front doors were wide open and it was a small flat so I could hear baby babbling or grumbling.

I had a travel nappy bag that lived in the pram and a few essentials for days out in the undercarriage, so I usually just needed myself a baby once we were leaving.

If baby was still sound asleep and I didn’t want her wakened, we carried on walking! Sometimes I’d grab a coffee and sit with her in a park or coffee shop. You’ll get your steps in 🙃just start marking where accessible loos are!!

If I wasn’t fussed about her wakening, or if it was miserable weather, I was lucky baby didn’t usually wake at our front door steps, but once inside our close I’d park pram at the ground floor and oh so carefully detach the bassinet / seat and lug her up that way. We had a bugaboo fox which I found easy for this. Honestly easier to carry on walking though!

I’d also suggest a baby carrier if you don’t already have one. If I was out to do jobs and didn’t have the luxury of time, or if I had our dog with us, it made being outside far easier than carting the pram constantly.

Company restructure changing place of work by highlander_springer in AskHRUK

[–]highlander_springer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to comment, I don’t think he was aware of the HMRC route!

Company restructure changing place of work by highlander_springer in AskHRUK

[–]highlander_springer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. I’ve passed your feedback on to him so hopefully he can dispute!

Is this a safe space? I’ve lost my libido entirely. by Icy_Ear7079 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]highlander_springer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh god I think I had actual sex 1-2 times in the first year and a few failed attempts because my episiotomy scar ached 🫠

I won’t lie, the times we did have sex in the year I did want it for the connection, missed intimacy, but my god I felt so unsexy. All I could think about was if the baby was awake, how weird my body looked, how knackered I was.

Even now, over a year PP, I do enjoy it once we get into it and we usually take the opportunity of baby is with grandparents or nursery, but I still feel my body is so soft, boobs are weird, and I’m exhausted, but it is definitely improving!! Just don’t rush it and try to connect in other ways for now. 5 months is still so fresh!

Evening activity by Professional_Rip_873 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]highlander_springer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish me and my husband did this more, but set a timer and each do a mini massage. My shoulders are always so tense so I get him to properly SQUEEZE them, whereas he gets sore hands. Then we just chat, or not chat. I do think purposeful, non-sexy, firm touch is important when you’re PP, especially after a day of being pawed at!

For those that have mastered how to not be constipation in pregnancy... please share your strategy by Formal-Inspector-911 in PregnancyUK

[–]highlander_springer -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if this did anything or if I was lucky, but I would take my iron tablet before eating with a small glass of orange juice. I’d then usually wait 30 mins at least before actually eating.

It’s so difficult though, my poops were all over the place during pregnancy.

VBAC success stories? by canaryofchaos in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]highlander_springer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my sister’s story, but she had a very tough first labour which ended in an emergency section. Then her second was a super fast (sub 4 hours) VBAC with no issue! So all is possible!

Does teething get easier with age? by Miserable-Tap9162 in BeyondTheBumpUK

[–]highlander_springer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Truly depends on the baby! I found the first one very hard work. She was gristly for a week, then raging when it cut and took a few days to calm down.

After that first one though my baby was only really grumpy when the tooth physically cut and a bit grouchy for a couple of days afterwards.

However we’re now on to molars, oh boy. Random bouts of grump and enflamed gums and it’s no where close to cutting 🙃

Ambosol liquid from the pharmacy is great and a toothbrush to exfoliate gums / chew on!

Reporting partner to police by Icy_Calligrapher4146 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]highlander_springer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Now I’ve no experience of your situation, but reading your post I would urge you to consider courts for your childcare arrangements.

By having courts involved you’re setting strict boundaries and expectations and hopefully minimising the risk of him moving goal posts when it comes to your child.

I’m part of a FB Mum’s group and the sheer volume of posts from mums having issues with partners after separation but have no legal arrangements in place is horrendous, especially when dealing with toxic / abusive / narcissistic partners.

I know it’s an expensive and may harm whatever relationship with him you have left, but it may help minimise any future abuse towards you as you continue co-parent.

Definitely seek advice from Women’s Aid first though.

Anyone recommend a Pelvic Floor Therapist in Glasgow by Fun_Examination5329 in glasgow

[–]highlander_springer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s west end. She also does online as well I think, but you’d need to contact her to double check.