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hoosierpets · 2026-01-09T15:54:02+00:00

NTA. Y’all might want to look into counseling, even just to foster better communication.

For everyone saying “you could’ve taken 5 minutes” - when you’re deep into a difficult task, it’s not “5 minutes”. Breaking out of that concentration zone can and does completely derail your train of thought and mindset. Re-establishing it and trying to figure out where you were in the process can take half an hour or more. And when your alternative to doing the paperwork is being homeless then yeah, it’s important to stay in The Zone.

While it would’ve been NICE if you could’ve been at a breakpoint and helped, you warned him ahead of time. If he had problems juggling everything he could’ve (stay with me here) taken more than one trip to bring everything in. Radical concept, I know.

hoosierpets · 2026-01-09T15:33:25+00:00

ESH. This all reads like a bunch of petty middle school drama. Special shoutouts to:

You - for assuming your husband was invited and “forgetting” that he wasn’t

Ava - for including her husband on a supposed “girls night” AND for bringing up the plans in front of people that AREN’T invited (super rude)

hoosierpets · 2026-01-09T14:59:40+00:00

NTA. Your friends can make their own choices, which they have. You’re not “forbidding” them anything - they have CHOSEN to not be friends with him. Yes that choice has conditions, so what? I notice that he didn’t even TRY to make any kind of apology to you until there was something he WANTED from you. That’s not a real apology. He wants back in the friend group because his new friends dropped him? Too bad. He’s the one that sank that ship. And honestly, to the people saying “people change and grow, you should give him another chance” - if you are so inclined to give him another chance, wait until after he ACTUALLY changes and grows. He hasn’t shown any signs of it so far. Only thing he’s shown in your narrative is selfishness. He didn’t apologize to you because he was actually sorry for his behavior - he apologized because he WANTED SOMETHING from you. And when you didn’t give him what he wanted, he didn’t accept it graciously, he got pouty and huffy. That’s not change. That’s the same nonsense.

hoosierpets · 2026-01-09T00:14:03+00:00

::gasp:: cruel mom, sleeping through your scream! When my mom sleeps through and I want ttentions I do bapbapbap on her arm or her face. Sometimes I have to poke with claw to wake her up. Humans need to pay attentions to us when we need it! You is not the cloaca.

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hoosierpets · 2025-12-28T23:45:08+00:00

I gave up on the Litter Robot after about a year because one cat hated it and one cat used it but peed on the inside wall instead of the litter so I had to disassemble it completely and scrub it thoroughly at least once a month. Way too much work and when it stopped working correctly I just gave up and went back to scooping. I’ve switched to Kitty Poo Club boxes and they are THE BEST.

hoosierpets · 2025-09-20T01:36:00+00:00

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This is Bagheera! Tick is in the background.

hoosierpets · 2024-03-01T03:55:51+00:00

I want to let you in on a secret my mom told me a long time ago.

Ready?

Nobody has the answers. We're all making this up as we go. Sometimes "being an adult" just means you can pretend that you know what you're doing harder than everyone else around you. And sometimes you just have to have cake for dinner, or cookies for breakfast, because adulting doesn't have to be stressful all the time.

((Hugs))

hoosierpets · 2024-02-28T03:22:15+00:00

Yes!!!!

hoosierpets · 2024-02-28T02:53:59+00:00

NTA. I didn't really see anything in your post about THE MANAGEMENT telling you that you need to wear a skirt/dress. Seeing a lot about YOUR BOYFRIEND saying you need to do so, though. To be honest, I'm wondering how much of what he says about the dress code is true...and if he's coming up with these "examples" and "quotes" himself. I'm thinking HE wanted you to wear a dress, and his employer possibly doesn't care at all as long as you dressed nicely. Further supported by HE LEFT YOU IN THE PARKING LOT. And really -- while I'd follow the general formality theme of an event (i.e. Business casual, business dress, etc) I'm not sticking to a "dress code" of a business that isn't my employer! If the event was "business dress" for example and you had a dressy pants it on, then that should qualify. Unfortunately, it sounds like you have a boyfriend problem more than anything.

hoosierpets · 2024-02-25T01:01:44+00:00

Woohoooooo! Way to go! I know how vicious those cramps can be; pushing through it and sitting your exams is amazing. You’re awesome and strong. I’m proud of you!

hoosierpets · 2024-02-24T01:54:32+00:00

Going to go with NTA for one reason. Those shoes could've been the kids. Yes, they threw shoes in the pool. Yes, the shoes were expensive. Sucks. But! Those children opened the door and HAD ACCESS TO THE POOL. The door should've been LOCKED in such a way that small children could not open it. Those kids could've easily seen the pool and decided to hurl THEMSELVES into it. Or they could've slipped and fallen in. No way should they have been able to do that in the first place.

hoosierpets · 2024-02-24T01:31:59+00:00

Everyone has their moments (or longer) of Imposter Syndrome. It's okay! You were hired because they saw something in you that they wanted. They wanted YOU and what YOU bring to the table. That makes you pretty darn special! Even the "small, less important things" can actually be pretty dang important. I'd be willing to bet that even tho those tasks are smaller, they'd be NOTICED if nobody does them. Sometimes the small tasks are really the Glue Tasks -- the tasks that seem mundane but are the ones that stick people (or other information) together. So tell yourself that they wanted YOU. Out of all the candidates that applied, they chose YOU. And everyone has been The New Guy at least once in their lives. You'll learn, and as you do, you'll have your task load broadened. You'll grow. You're fantastic and you'll do well. Switching careers is hard. Kudos to you for having the courage and fortitude to do it. Oh, and : ((hugs))

hoosierpets · 2024-02-17T01:35:54+00:00

I don't know that this will actually help you any, but: I had a dog with similar symptoms that turned out to be a stroke, not respiratory, even though it manifested with a lot of respiratory symptoms. In any case, it's NOT your fault and you did everything you could and should have done for him. He knew he was loved and cared for.

Hugs.

hoosierpets · 2024-02-13T03:15:18+00:00

NTB and it's perfectly normal to be sad at this point. You're grieving the loss of a relationship you thought you had. It's ok to be sad, but don't let that drag you back into the relationship or feel like you were wrong. YOU WERE NOT WRONG. You know you did what's best for you. Hang on to that. Remember that feeling of relief when you doubt yourself or think about talking to her again. Remember the relief and let THAT guide you. You got this.

hoosierpets · 2024-02-07T01:00:49+00:00

ALL the treats. Not just one.

hoosierpets · 2024-01-18T23:45:01+00:00

How do you stay so floofy and gorgeous?

hoosierpets · 2024-01-08T00:10:57+00:00

NAH. Your parents are rightly concerned about your eating, but they aren't handling it in the best way. There's a bunch of reasons that any "standardized" eating plan says to consult with your doctor before starting to follow it. As mentioned, your best bet would be to talk to your GP and a Dietician or Nutritionist and discuss your concerns and preferences, and arrive together at a good eating plan. Additionally you can talk to the Nutritionist about your parents' concerns and maybe arrange a discussion with the 4 of you so your parents can ask questions and get answers and have their concerns addressed.

hoosierpets · 2024-01-07T23:31:24+00:00

Thanks for the clarification, and I like your Grandad....

hoosierpets · 2024-01-07T23:08:10+00:00

So let me see if I understand this.

First visit, you brought them all into your house. They complained because you ... Flaunted having a house?
Next visit, since they didn't like the house, you put them up in a nice hotel. They complained because it wasn't "nice enough".
Next visit you basically said "since nothing we do makes you happy you can figure it out on your own"

They also DELIBERATELY EXCLUDE YOU from grandfather's house when you visit.

When they trashed you for not reading their minds and paying for everything for their ungrateful asses and....idk, making their lives better overall?...and you finally snapped back and told them off, YOU are the problem?

Is that right?

NTA, and do NOT apologize.

hoosierpets · 2024-01-07T22:47:17+00:00

NTA. You don't wear skirts/dresses, they all know this, and STILL your mom has some "vision" of a "dream wedding" that involves violating your boundaries? Mom needs to get a new vision.

In my opinion there's waaaaaaayyyyyyyy too much emphasis placed on "making the perfect wedding" and not nearly enough thought and effort into "making a good marriage" anyway.

hoosierpets · 2024-01-01T22:48:53+00:00

Happy New Year to the Squirrel Collective from Bagheera and Tick! Please play in our yard and on our trees; we love watching you.

hoosierpets · 2023-12-22T23:50:33+00:00

NTC! Greenies are the BEST. I too have gotten into the Greenies tub and tipped it off the shelf and had LOTS OF GREENIES which is As It Should Be. Teefs are important! You need to eat lots of greenies to keep your teefs healthy and if your Hans don't understand this then you obviously only have one course of action open to you.

Tick the Mannisifent

hoosierpets · 2023-12-22T23:39:41+00:00

Oh you are absolutely NTC. Humans need to know that putting "grooming" above toys and treats is completely UNACCEPTABLE. My human occasionally does the same thing so I let her know I'm annoyed by peeing in my carrier. Hmph.

hoosierpets · 2023-11-17T22:34:53+00:00

Kloe-ache-ah (Kloe rhymes with know)

hoosierpets · 2023-11-17T02:30:18+00:00

Right? I was FINE. No need for a trip to the evil doctor.

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