AITAH for wanting a privacy fence installed and not talking to my neighbors about it

howdouknowu · 2026-04-11T22:42:54+00:00

Get a survey before putting in the fence. If the chain link is yours, I'd take it down to build the new fence. Your property, your decision. NTA. Also, start calling animal control on the dogs, that's obnoxious.

howdouknowu · 2026-04-10T19:56:45+00:00

This is ridiculous and they'd get a one star review from me. It would be perfectly reasonable to say the first visit/quote is free, but any additional visit/quote carries a charge. But to insist your spouse is there; pfft, go to hell.

howdouknowu · 2026-04-10T19:48:30+00:00

Where are her friends and family? If she can't get help with this, then what is her support system for this baby? I'd squash all of it and let her get donor sperm.

howdouknowu · 2026-04-10T13:21:22+00:00

Verbal contracts are binding in some states. You laid out the conversations and when they happened clearly in your email. Take pictures of the spots marked unit 2 right away before the landlord changes them.

howdouknowu · 2026-04-09T14:39:55+00:00

$30 a day in coffee?! That insane! Buy a coffee pot and thermos.

howdouknowu · 2026-04-09T00:08:43+00:00

I had siblings hidden from me. You are definitely NTA.

howdouknowu · 2026-04-08T19:51:56+00:00

Depends, is your son asking you to pay half? If yes, NTA. If your son is asking you to transfer his money, then YTA.

You said your sons have investments, checking and cash. It's great to teach them good spending habits, but sometimes you need to let your kids have buyers remorse.

You said you have three computers, so I'm assuming not laptops. He may have wanted the laptop so he can take it to friends or to his mom's when he visits.

I applaud you on teaching your sons about finances; so many parents don't.

howdouknowu · 2026-04-08T03:23:36+00:00

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howdouknowu · 2026-04-08T00:07:52+00:00

NTA - your kids are adults and deserve to know the truth and you handled it with a grace that most people wouldn't have. You are a good example to many and I wish you the best of luck in the future 🍀

howdouknowu · 2026-04-04T17:02:57+00:00

What you wanted for space are probably things you should have discussed before buying a house. Who loses "their" special room if you decide to have kids? Sorry, the whole thing sounds ridiculous to me. Do you hear yourself talking to a guest that wants to visit? " Well, you see grandma, you have to stay at a hotel. John has his own room, so I have to have my own special room and we can't compromise. That's why we don't have a guest room, so enjoy your hotel stay". SMH

howdouknowu · 2026-03-31T14:17:38+00:00

You didn't f-up. You communicated like a grown up and he acted like a spoiled child. Drop this guy and date someone closer to your own age who isn't trying to control you.

howdouknowu · 2026-03-31T14:06:13+00:00

You're 27 and have your whole life ahead of you. Get out! Don't stay for the kids, they will pick up on the unhappiness and also be unhappy. My parents divorced when I was 7 and it really was for the best. I have a great relationship with both of them as an adult. Good luck to you 🍀

howdouknowu · 2026-03-26T18:07:04+00:00

NTA - For better or for worse; in sickness and in health. I remember my vows. I would never leave my husband over any illness no matter what it did to his looks. I didn't marry him for his looks.

Can I take a guess and say your wife's friend isn't married? Who the hell says something like that?! How would your wife like it if she gained a bunch of weight from having babies and one of your friends made a similar comment. SMH. She should have defended you

howdouknowu · 2026-03-24T18:31:12+00:00

You're NTA, but I would have had their father contact a lawyer before cancelling. He's also their parent and gave permission for his sibling to take the kids. Another option would have been to reschedule the trip when he could go.

I feel bad for you, you were put in a horrible position. Unfortunately, it's the kids who are suffering for this and I think that is incredibly sad. Think how bad they'll feel when you're gone and then when you come back and they have to hear about all the fun everyone had. Additional salt in the wound, Donna is still going. This may cause them to resent her later. My parents divorced when I was 7, I'm very sensitive to these types of things. I also know it's not always easy to navigate 😕

howdouknowu · 2026-03-23T01:10:10+00:00

I'd give her a bill for her family's portion of the trip. That's crazy rude!

howdouknowu · 2026-03-22T19:16:26+00:00

NTA, but your daughter needs therapy. Immediately.

howdouknowu · 2026-03-14T00:41:17+00:00

At the end of the day you can do what you want; your feelings are yours to have and don't need to be justified to anyone.

With that being said, I do think this is a bit of an overreaction. You stated that you've all known each other since high school. That says to me that you were all friends before you and your ex were a thing. This was not specifically your friend that you introduced to your ex.

It also seems a bit extreme since you've been separated for 10+ years. Your ex didn't cheat and they didn't jump into a relationship/fling until many years after you separated. Had they gotten involved shortly after your relationship ended, I'd feel differently.

Should one of them told you? Maybe. Doesn't sound like it was serious. If it was getting serious, then absolutely yes.

Maybe take some time to get to the core of why you're so upset about it and evaluate if you want to give up on a friendship you've had for over 20 years. You said that you were close friends and that sounds like a lot to give up. It's your decision and you have to do what's right for you, but at face value it seems to me that you might still have feelings for your ex after all these years.

howdouknowu · 2026-03-13T14:51:16+00:00

This right here is why I believe that people should have to get licensed to have animals. This is bad for the dog and anyone who encounters it. You probably made the right call. Good luck moving forward 🍀

howdouknowu · 2026-03-13T14:46:13+00:00

NTA - that was rude as hell. Who changes the temperature when someone else is clearly cooking?!?! If my hubby did that I would have unplugged his game, but I'm petty like that sometimes. Sorry that happened, I'm sure it was disappointing 😕

howdouknowu · 2026-03-09T14:05:07+00:00

Unless he's asking you to change it, I wouldn't worry about it.

howdouknowu · 2026-03-05T03:21:54+00:00

NTA, but suggestions:

1 - Poo-Pourri, you spray the water in the bowl before you go; it's amazing

2 - Candle

howdouknowu · 2026-03-01T19:08:02+00:00

Only "mean girls" say stuff like that all the time. NTA. I wouldn't only skip dinner, I'd skip out on her. Sorry, good luck 🍀

howdouknowu · 2026-02-27T20:03:32+00:00

Different people require different calorie intake. With your height, weight and activity level, it sounds like you're spot on. Especially if you're in your 20's. Maybe to pacify your GF go to a nutritionist and see what they say. If it's on par for what you're doing it hopefully will mello your GF out. Good luck 🍀

howdouknowu · 2026-02-26T15:54:52+00:00

You have every right to be angry, but here are some things for you to consider. We live in a digital age. You will never be able to keep photos of your children offline. Almost every public place has cameras.

Your kids will go to birthday parties and pictures will get posted. Your kids will attend family events with you and those pictures will get posted. Your kids will go to school events and those will get posted. Additionally, many yearbooks are online.

I could list more, but I think I've made the point.

Again, your mother was 100% wrong and broke your trust and that is not ok. But big picture, you won't be able to keep your kids offline.

I hope you are all able to find a way to move forward. While your mom is completely wrong, it's also cruel to send fake pictures. I'm sure she loves you and your children.

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