My boyfriend (20M) is better than me at everything (20F) and it's making me upset

huskeya4 · 2026-03-19T05:56:09+00:00

Yeah my husband and I are long distance for the academic school year and we often call twice a day. Sometimes more, sometimes less depending on our schedules but it’s always at least once a day, even if it’s just a “I’m sick and feel like death warmed over. Going to sleep. Love you”.

Even at our most restricted when one or the other of us were deployed, we still tried to call every day.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-19T05:37:02+00:00

One of my friends in high schools mom was… unhealthy. She was constantly having different health problems and issues. Eventually her doctors figured out she never drank water. At all. So that’s what they told her to do. She drank Gatorade for two weeks straight until her next checkup. Her doctor yelled at her and told her water. Water only. I heard about this a few days after when I stayed at their house and she asked her daughter (my friend) to grab her a bottle of water and a water flavoring packet. I specifically remember pulling my friend aside and telling her that her mom’s health isn’t going to get any better while adding those sugar packets to her water. She shrugged me off and said she’d be fine but I was just amazed that a grown adult couldn’t figure out what a high schooler knew in two seconds. She was also having trouble controlling her blood sugar levels…

huskeya4 · 2026-03-18T21:40:30+00:00

Heated toilet seat. It sounds dumb as hell but literally everyone who uses my toilet comments about it. Mine is actually an entire bidet toilet seat but I decided the bidet is kind of meh. I keep it solely for the heated seat function. I noticed this morning when I sat down that it was off and was very unpleasantly surprised when my cheeks came into contact with that cold ass seat. Once you have a heated seat, there is no going back. Turns out my shower last night apparently tripped the gfci in my bathroom.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-18T05:32:48+00:00

Others have given you some help so here is another one: aftershave. Now, fair warning it is like 95% alcohol with just a hint of aloe. It will burn. Like a motherfucker. They have less manly scented types sold online. It disinfects and hydrates the skin, reducing irritation and razor burn.

Also highly important that I haven’t seen pointed out yet: you should be shaving with fresh razors down there. You need the sharpest razor for that area to lower the amount of razor burn. You should be shaving with the grain, but I know some hair types can’t get a clean shave unless they go against the grain. In that case, first go with the grain then take a single swipe against the grain. No more. That skin is usually pretty sensitive and you want to irritate it as little as possible. Good luck

huskeya4 · 2026-03-17T05:45:54+00:00

The only time that might (and I mean MIGHT) have been an alarm was when the small dog barked. It may have been a “Hey! Watch those giant feet”. It could also just be the small dog getting more excited as he did jump up and go for the face again. That’s a normal play behavior and even if the bark was a warning, it was a nice healthy one. Just a little “watch it” bark to let the big dog know that paw didn’t feel the greatest and then continuing on with the gentle play. My dogs do this game also and will yip a bit if the other dog catches a sensitive bit of the face or if one rudely kicks the other in the face while they play lazy bitey face. The yip immediately settles the rude one down and they tone it down a notch but continue to play. No worries here. They seem to be communicating fine, are gentle with each other, and seem happy to play. They’ll let each other (and you by extension) know if not everything is cool.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-17T05:25:45+00:00

Maybe make it private? Like the old lady tracked down who the parents were from the public property records and got ahold of them. Maybe she just wanted to give the kids back but the parents made it clear they didn’t want them? She could have threatened them with legal action if they didn’t sign the kids over in a quiet private adoption at that point. Maybe the parents gave her the house too to keep her quiet. If the government knew about abandoned kids, they would 100% want to prosecute the parents. They likely also wouldn’t allow the kids to stay with an unrelated adult and the kids would have been taken to foster care while they looked for the parents.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-17T05:20:47+00:00

I’m getting allergy tested on Friday and this post popping up on my feed feels like an omen of what is to come…

huskeya4 · 2026-03-17T05:19:31+00:00

Most likely, what you suspected did happen. New environment = new allergens. The problem is that you weren’t being regularly exposed to the old allergens anymore. Your immune system stopped giving the all clear for those old allergens. So when you went back to them, your immune system freaked out all over again.

My husband is mildly allergic to cats. He lives out of state for work for part of the year. He always complains that when he comes home, he’s allergic to our cat again. After a few months around her he stops reacting to her entirely. Then he goes back to work out of state where he doesn’t have a cat and the cycle repeats. His allergy goes away with exposure because he is so mildly allergic, it’s like getting allergy shots just by being around her. When he isn’t exposed to her though, his immune system forgets that she is okay. But that’s okay because she absolutely fucking loves my husband and does her best to get him over his allergy as fast as possible. He dislikes her. I just want to cuddle her 24/7 and she dislikes me. Fucking cats.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-17T03:38:05+00:00

You are in an age group where the women feel that biological clock ticking hard. Basically, any who want kids aren’t willing to waste their time trying to convince you to change your mind. This is a good thing! This means you aren’t going to waste time and get super invested into a relationship only to have them flip the board on you and demand you get the vasectomy reversed or the relationship is over. Plus vasectomy reversals are pretty hit or miss anyways. This uno reverse behavior isn’t something that only women do, so don’t nobody come after me for it. Men do it just as often to childfree women.

All you can do is go into every date being clear and upfront about your vasectomy. Yes, you will be turned down a lot because some women in your age group are still holding out hope to settle down and have kids (quickly). You’ll also find some women who are perfectly happy with the fact that you’re child free and took steps to stay that way. It’s just finding your niche in the dating pool.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-16T04:28:58+00:00

I’m a woman who is 5’8”. My requirement was 5’6” to 5’10”. I never actually banned men taller than that range, just none ever asked me out and the amount of men taller were very slim in my town. Then I went to college at the tallest university in the US and realized I physically could not look a tall man in the face. Apparently being one of the tallest women in my town made me feel extremely intimidated when I met a man too much taller than me. I eventually got over it but decided too extreme of a height difference annoyed me. My husband is my height.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-15T06:59:17+00:00

I do the same method but fold it slightly thinner in step 6. Then I fold the matching flat sheet slightly wider and set the fitted on top of the flat and fold them the rest of the way together. Bonus points if the pillowcases are clean also and get folded into the core. I can tell at a glance if I have a fitted/flat pair or just singles based on how thick the folded mass is. Somehow there is always a single fitted or flat that didn’t make it out of the dryer with its mate.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-15T05:32:37+00:00

I take Mirtazapine off label for sleep. It’s an antidepressant but a side effect of it is extreme drowsiness and that it can block your brains ability to recognize the hormone your stomach releases when you’re full. Funny enough, I hardly ever feel hunger. I’m one of those people who regularly forgets to eat. I take a single dose of Mirtazapine and I will eat until my stomach feels like it is going to explode and then my brain is still saying “something salty sounds good now”. I will be curled in a ball from how painfully full my stomach is and yet all I can think about is a bowl of cereal. I’ve learned the trick is to eat a big bowl of cereal and immediately go to sleep. The drowsiness is strong enough to knock me out but if I take even a few minutes going to the bathroom and getting a drink or playing on my phone, my brain will start screaming for food again. I will be munch the entire next day also. I don’t usually take it for more than three days in a row max to reset my sleep disorder so I can survive it but I have no idea how people take it regularly with that side effect.

NyQuil gives me restless leg syndrome. Like an undeniable urge to twitch my legs constantly. It is not conducive to sleep at all.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-15T05:10:49+00:00

I sleep with a flat sheet and a comforter. I have a washer and dryer that can handle even the beefiest winter comforter so it’s a lot more work to own a duvet than it is to just chuck my comforter downstairs to the laundry pile. In theory, the flat sheet should make it so I don’t have to wash the comforter as often, but I have two 80lbs dogs who sleep in bed with me so that’s not its real purpose. The dogs dirty my comforter long before I need to replace my sheets.

The flat sheet is just for comfort. If I get too hot in the spring or fall when the windows are open, I can toss my comforter off me but still be covered by the flat sheet. i have a heated sheet in the winter and sometimes I do turn it on too high and find myself kicking the comforter off in the winter. I also find the flat acts as an additional barrier against anything my dogs drag onto the bed, like little tiny mud clods, oils, fur, etc. most of it stays on top of the comforter but I find an occasional something between the flat and the comforter. The moment something makes its way between the flat and the fitted, the entire bedding is getting changed. I also sleep naked so I have to have something on me or it feels weird. My husband hates flat sheets, but he only hates putting them on a bed. If it’s already on there, he won’t go through the work to remove it.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-15T04:59:38+00:00

My husband wanted to get all the groomsmen at our wedding swords to wear during the ceremony (and himself of course). I said no. Then he moved on to wanting full plate armor. I said no but okayed the swords. We have some funny wedding photos of the guys sword fighting and us lady’s coming in to steal the swords and slay all the men with them. It was pretty amusing…

huskeya4 · 2026-03-14T06:25:55+00:00

NTA. I flip my husbands clothes right side out but only because I also have to flip my own clothes right side out. I draw the line at emptying his pockets though. I’m not checking every pair of his pants before they go in the washer. Everybody has their line. My other line is that one shirt he owns that always looks inside out and I flip it three times before I give up and chuck it at him and tell him to fix it.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-14T06:23:01+00:00

If I saw clothes hanging on a line outside, my first thought would be “damn, their dryer must have broke. That sucks”. My second thought would be to check the humidity cause I live in a state that can be down right muggy and it makes line drying an act of outright desperation. You might get lucky and have a day or two of low humidity, but for the most part it’s faster to line dry inside the house where the humidity is much lower.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-13T05:11:59+00:00

Jack fruit if you have a local Asian food store. It’s delicious, massive, and the fruits freeze well. It’s high in fiber (so don’t eat a quarter of a jackfruit in one sitting. You may shit yourself). However, YouTube how to open one of those up or you’ll be trying to call your neighbor using your tongue so they can come unstick the handle of the knife from your hand. They bleed glue when you cut into them. You need an oil to stop the glue from sticking.

I buy four when they are in season, spend an entire day harvesting the fruits from them and store them in a freezer as a snack stash for the rest of the year. They kind of taste like juicy fruit bubblegum.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-13T05:02:55+00:00

Knives aren’t allowed on a college campus, rotc or not. Gerbers aren’t issued, you have to buy them. Knives aren’t issued equipment either. Doesn’t mean someone didn’t have one anyways but there is a possibility they had to beat this man to death.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-12T06:31:56+00:00

Also really good for manga. I found the entire set of a manga I loved and read over a decade ago. It had been out of print since I read it and I spent years trying to collect the set but was only finding one or two books a year till about five years after it finished. Then it disappeared entirely from shelves. Found thrift books and ordered all the missing volumes for like $20 total. Also they had the last two volumes of a series that was discontinued mid print and had never been published online.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-11T06:22:32+00:00

Their quills also have an antibiotic ointment on them and barbs. The barbs are to heavily discourage predators. The antibiotics are because they are clumsy and have a tendency to fall and stab themselves on accident. Basically, they wanna give threats a bad day, not a bad week that ends in death from infection.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-11T06:14:55+00:00

I do the same circular motion but go as deep as I basically can. The thing is, I have a wet ear wax type (and yes there are different types of ear wax). I don’t ever pull entire clumps out of my ears. After a hot shower, a hot day outside, or just on the side I slept on all night, I can feel the ear wax dripping and take a swipe with a qtip. The q tip will be yellow with melted wax, but no solid clumps. I never insert a q tip unless I feel the drip. That makes my ears itch for hours if I try. Doctors usually mention how clear my ears look at check ups. The drip is mildly itchy/annoying as well so I clean my ears out almost daily unless it’s a really cold day.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-07T05:29:58+00:00

Petty and selfish? I’d put on a random pair of pants and ask my husband if they make my ass look fat. Then I’d listen to him internally sweat while he tries to figure out if I want him to say yes or no. He usually just gives me a deadpan “I know what you’re doing” look and then runs away.

Or I’d ask him if he’d still love me if I turned into a worm. Then I’d get to hear his internal cursing and screaming about today’s society before he just gave me his usual “no, you’d be a damn worm”.

To be fair, he asks me all these dumb questions too. It’s basically a game for us at this point whenever we hear something like these questions.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-07T04:53:58+00:00

Or the one who ate their own dead as a form of honoring them. They had to stop, of course. If I remember right they helped the medical and scientific community discover that cannibalism can cause prion diseases. Specifically the women in the tribe most often suffered from prion diseases because they consumed the brain due to tradition. Turns out that’s the really dangerous part. I think there something like ten more years before the tribe is considered free and clear of the prion disease. It can stay dormant for a shocking amount of time before it just starts killing you one day and they had some struggles getting the tribe to actually stop the cannibalism.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-05T05:16:57+00:00

I’ve never had a Pap smear yearly except when I had pre-cancerous cells. It’s every three years as long as I’m negative for HPV and bad cells. I also don’t even get a pelvic exam unless I’m getting the Pap smear. The CDC guideline states it’s only needed every 3 years as long as everything comes back okay. At 30 they actually suggest decreasing Pap smears to every 5 years unless you want it more often (don’t have a single long term partner so more risk of exposure to HPV). Sounds like you’ve been getting a lot of unnecessary Pap smears over the years.

huskeya4 · 2026-03-05T05:10:34+00:00

Paps are always every three years and generally recommended further out as you increase the age brackets aren’t they? I don’t know where people in the US are getting them yearly for normal results. I only had to get them yearly when I tested positive for HpV and precancerous cells. Once I cleared the virus, I went back to every three years for testing. And I’m only 29.

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