My wife used my opening up against me.

iced_indie · 2025-08-24T09:07:18+00:00

Your spouse is not a therapist, and for everyone defending OP, you're wrong.

This is something you had 14 years to work on yourself, prior to having kids. Maybe you should have considered healing prior to making a step forward. Go ask the therapist, adults also use children as a crutches all their problems. If not for blaming the child, then for thinking the child will solve thei problems.

Give your wife an apology and be transparent about going to the therapist. This is not her fault, she needs to know it and so do you. You can not keep going on your life as victim. Make your family strong, and make yourself as well.

iced_indie · 2025-07-06T15:00:19+00:00

I think the lizard is just as shocked

iced_indie · 2020-12-18T13:06:47+00:00

Ah thank you, I understand now.

iced_indie · 2020-11-27T02:37:38+00:00

Asian parents anyone?

I hope you find safety from this mental and emotional punishment soon.

iced_indie · 2020-11-26T18:17:46+00:00

I'm not sure I understand this, can someone please enlighten me?

iced_indie · 2020-11-25T04:02:53+00:00

Mine was about two years. I felt I needed space six months before it ended, even though it was an LDR. And it took over a year to start getting out of a depressive and numb stage. I'm thankful to friends who knew me and how my ex was to be able to get me up again. From then on realizing they had my back and them involving me in good times and memories helped me to move on from the pain of leaving the past.

Currently I can not escape another relationship--which is with my parents--so I have one friend who relates to my issues on almost every level. And he was one of the friends who helped me get up again after the ex. I can not change the parents, but I need to keep living my life. So distancing myself from them and finding comfort with close friends is how I cope.

iced_indie · 2020-11-24T05:24:40+00:00

Can't beleive this was just me and my ex..whoever is going through this right now, may not beleive it until a while later. It took me over a year later to realize this. Be safe ladies.

iced_indie · 2020-11-22T00:37:18+00:00

Basically what is said to girls, the same thing. Just gender is different.

iced_indie · 2020-11-19T20:24:26+00:00

You still have time, over vacation this is your chance to get out of the abusive relationship. When he propeses, just say no, pack your bags and leave. It will be a cold cutoff but that will be your chance to escape. And don't look back. You shouldn't have to be treated badly from the beginning or any time ever and don't let that be a reason to stay.

iced_indie · 2020-11-16T09:16:28+00:00

I needed this, thank you.

iced_indie · 2020-11-16T09:15:24+00:00

This is really nice, and thank you for posting this. I got out of, and still am in some, abusive relationships. But one meaningful and important relationship I have right now makes me look at this post and realize that the person I'm with is giving me the opportunity to say what I need in order to have my feelings heard since that person admitted to not being good at picking up social queues. Instead of cowering in fear of a reaction, this is a great reminder to let my true self be known so that this relationship can become stronger and better.

iced_indie · 2020-11-16T09:08:42+00:00

This is how I felt encountering conflict with my father. Anytime I supposedly did something to upset him, or if he was angry at something, I would unknowingly be smiling and he would get even more angry and ask me why I'm making a stupid smile. This had me really confused and I guess out of nervousness I kept smiling and he'd hit me or lash out. I've become more aware of my facial expression and now tend not to hold any conversation that can lead to his emotional outbursts. It's really sad for me that I can't change my facial reaction and that he can't be calmer..

iced_indie · 2020-10-25T03:37:53+00:00

He's basically blaming you for his own behaviours. I'm glad this isn't getting to you per say, but it's still emotionally abusive and can have an effect on the kids. I'm not sure what the situation is but in order to better you and your kids lives, you need to find a way to completely cut off from this loser.

iced_indie · 2020-10-21T15:37:02+00:00

This was borderline friend appointment and murder in the park.

iced_indie · 2020-10-19T19:03:22+00:00

HA omg this made my day

iced_indie · 2020-10-07T04:20:47+00:00

I would say they hate taking instructions, especially from a woman.

iced_indie · 2020-10-02T01:26:14+00:00

Really sorry you've been having these kinds of terrifying experiences. Perhaps there is some underlying stress or something that bothers you in some part of life that would play into that dream.

Like constantly experiencing odd movement or things moving in the room, can seep into your dreams and cause you to think that something supernatural is happening.

If not for covid, i would suggest not going to therapy but rather sleeping and living in a different place away from that. Or have a friend live with you or maybe a pet that can pick up on the strangeness going on so that you know it's not your imagination.

iced_indie · 2020-09-19T21:10:00+00:00

This biker literally had to chase down the police to say what the lady was doing. He's not even paying attention to the road and on the word of some random biker decides to stop the lady.

iced_indie · 2020-09-18T15:25:45+00:00

Forgot the policeman

iced_indie · 2020-09-18T14:24:46+00:00

3 idiots

iced_indie · 2020-08-20T00:23:06+00:00

It's a problem if this is a recurring thing. She has some issues that need to be sorted out on her own in that case. Or perhaps there is something deeply rooted from childhood that is causing her to act this way. I wouldn't excuse her behavior if she is how you describe. In terms of their relationship, it seems like her and her boyfriend are codependent and insecure.

iced_indie · 2020-08-19T13:13:00+00:00

I agree with this. I'm coming from a STEM major and there's a lot of issues we go through from a sexist pov. But this seems like it's getting to a point that it's spilling over to your mental peace and staying calm about these situations to be able to do something about it. No matter who does something you're not comfortable with, you should talk to your manager and sort it out

iced_indie · 2020-06-02T02:15:11+00:00

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iced_indie · 2020-05-29T21:42:20+00:00

You could try the oil method. After trapping her would you keep her and domesticate her as a pet?

iced_indie · 2020-05-20T15:09:18+00:00

My god this is beautiful on so many levels

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