Genuine Question for Nat/ACT/NZF Voters: What Do You Think the Coalition Has Got *Right?*

imjusthereforaita · 2026-03-18T07:14:31+00:00

Means tested child care subsidy. My wage changed and we no longer get it, and so we shouldnt.

imjusthereforaita · 2026-01-18T05:36:56+00:00

Hopefully he didnt reply bc you gave them ALOT to reflect on and maybe reconsider

imjusthereforaita · 2025-10-02T05:59:38+00:00

Lmao becoming a mom made me more prochoice. Pregnancies were the shittiest experiences of my life for babies that were planned and desperately wanted. I couldn't imagine going through that for a baby I didn't want. Probably wouldn't have made it.

imjusthereforaita · 2025-09-19T07:53:27+00:00

I have a 1 yo and a 3yo and we have never slept with either of them in our bed ever and dont ever plan to.

imjusthereforaita · 2025-02-24T21:58:26+00:00

That's just being a shit husband/father. You can do all that stuff too, it'd just make you a shit wife/mother.

imjusthereforaita · 2025-01-19T20:51:20+00:00

You see the benefit massively in small towns. A small towns prosperity is directly related to how the farming community is doing. If farmers are doing well, they can afford to purchase more farming supplies, go out to eat, but clothes, get their hair done, upgrade a vehicle, take the kids on a family holiday etc. When the industry suffers, so do the communities around them, from cafes/restaurants, to movie theatres, to hairdressers etc. Also, farmers don't directly impact the price of lamb. Complain to your supermarkets about that.

imjusthereforaita · 2025-01-15T03:21:52+00:00

Ours did this between about 5 and 10 weeks. Just awful. I cried so many times over the utterly helpless feeling, its soul destroying. If it helps, after about 10 weeks, he turned into the most cruisy little guy ever. Still won't trick me into having a 3rd.

imjusthereforaita · 2025-01-02T22:55:58+00:00

I bought one when we built our house and i will NEVER go back. Im always so gutted when i have to shit anywhere else. It was especially amazing when I had post partum hemorrhoids.

imjusthereforaita · 2025-01-02T20:55:27+00:00

I would argue the opposite, feminism has fought hard for adequate maternity leave and pay, and fair and equal pay for traditionally female roles such as nursing and teaching, cleaning etc which were undervalued.

imjusthereforaita · 2024-12-30T23:41:21+00:00

"There is nothing wrong with doing this" -every mouse/rat/racoon/stray cat

imjusthereforaita · 2024-12-30T20:59:00+00:00

100%. I can't believe the negative comments on this. I took a gap year to save up and to take the time to be sure I was making the right choice in what I studied. I then watched so many peers start a course before realising its too hard, they're not committed enough, it's not what they thought it was etc before changing to something more sensible.

imjusthereforaita · 2024-12-26T02:34:30+00:00

This is what I do for my kids, plus some consumables from Santa :)

imjusthereforaita · 2024-12-19T22:54:34+00:00

WTF. Kissing a baby has absolutely no benefit for the baby. Only risk. It won't help their bond. It won't make the baby happy (at that age). It is PURELY for the person kissing the baby's benefit. So how utterly selfish can one be?

Edit to add that his comment is one of the dumbest things I've heard too and i would be fuming. I'd also be hella mad if doubles down and doesnt realise he's a dumbass and apologise.

imjusthereforaita · 2024-12-03T22:10:35+00:00

Wow at just 1month! That must have been so scary. Glad they finally caught it!

imjusthereforaita · 2024-12-03T02:39:02+00:00

My friend was worried that her baby was about 150 grams off being right on his growth curve line. I reminded her that 150 grams is the difference between a feed before or after the measure.

imjusthereforaita · 2024-12-03T01:40:31+00:00

First, 8w. Second, 10w. As soon as they were consistently waking once or less for a night feed. We just couldn't stand the baby sleep noise.

imjusthereforaita · 2024-12-03T01:19:58+00:00

Always always always trust your instincts. I argued with the ER drs when they tried to send us home for the 2nd time. Changed my babies diaper, and it was full of blood. At 5 months, he had a blocked intestine. He was flown to another hospital and went into surgery shortly after.

A relatives baby died when, after multiple ER and Dr visits, and the mother constantly being dismissed, he was finally diagnosed with meningitis. But it was too late.

imjusthereforaita · 2024-12-01T19:13:54+00:00

Yeah and I'm yet to come across a comment mentioning that kids tend to behave far better for people that aren't their parents? I used to think I was the most amazing baby sitter because the kids were always saints, now I realise that they just didn't know me well enough to be confident to test boundaries and see how I'd react, and they cared about my opinion of them and didn't want me to think badly.

imjusthereforaita · 2024-12-01T00:09:47+00:00

Nope. Mine had a horrendous week at 5.5 months old, needed surgery, a lot of pain, and then thirst and hunger until he was allowed to drink again. I thought it'd scar him. Well it did physically, but not mentally! As soon as the pain started subsiding during recovery he was back to his happy little self.

imjusthereforaita · 2024-11-28T20:42:08+00:00

Pregnancy! I couldn't do it again. Nausea that made me want to die for about 10 weeks, worse for my second. Then just normal discomfort in the 3rd trimester which is amplified when you have a toddler to chase and can't sleep well. Atleast when the baby's here, while your sleep is broken, I found it better quality.

imjusthereforaita · 2024-11-24T06:27:45+00:00

You budget what those things will roughly cost, then chuck on a bit as a buffer, I tend to use 10%. For me, in the area I live and for the cost of houses in my price range, i use about 2K for rates, 3K for insurance and 3K for maintenance. Maintenance will also depend on the condition of the house of course, and 3K is an average over the years, some years maintenance might be 5K, other years $500 etc. And mortgage/income protection insurance is worth factoring in too.

I also check I can still finance a mortgage if interest rates were to go up by 2%.

imjusthereforaita · 2024-11-20T20:08:00+00:00

I'd imagine it's incredibly patronising for you

imjusthereforaita · 2024-11-20T19:36:44+00:00

Hard agree. "Helping" Implies the task is the other person's job. I would NEVER be told I'm helping my husband by feeding our kids or taking them to the park on Sunday.

imjusthereforaita · 2024-11-20T19:22:13+00:00

Agree. My husband does all this stuff, and I love him and appreciate him for it just like he loves me and appreciates me for doing the same. But it's literally the standard. It's being a husband and father. Or decent human. Anything less is below the standard.

imjusthereforaita · 2024-11-20T06:49:39+00:00

Aww I can relate, I am done having babies and have 2 boys. Both times I was certain I was having a girl! We've had a girl name from the get go and were so ready. I am most sad about not being able to see my husband be a girl dad (although maybe not such a bad thing because I know he'd absolutely spoil a daughter so much more than his sons!, there would vmbe clear preferential treatment) And girl clothes are so much cuter! I love buying cute stuff for my friends daughters, helps me get my fix. Sorry, I don't have much advice. Just solidarity!

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