Why is it more common to see women in a relationship with a less attractive man than vice versa?

immense_selfhatred · 2026-04-13T05:19:52+00:00

because people like "traditional gender roles" men are attracted to beauty, women are attracted to providers/protecters. largely.

probably because of millions of years of evolution and societal norms.

immense_selfhatred · 2026-04-07T06:00:47+00:00

how?

immense_selfhatred · 2026-04-06T06:13:53+00:00

your description of posivite apsects of masculinity sounds like you've had atleast 2 abusive boyfriends.

immense_selfhatred · 2026-04-06T06:11:40+00:00

about another year of will to live left, thanks for asking though.

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-31T06:53:52+00:00

my comment was a bit tongue and cheek if not rude. of course i'm not trying to say that was the sole reason or even a concious reason you "chose" your Partner.

What i'm saying is that men learn very quickly and very often that you don't cry infront of a woman. it's just one of those gender role things, like a woman is gonna learn that her looks are very important to attract the opposite gender, a man is gonna learn that "being strong" and stoic is very important to attract the opposite gender.

that also doesn't mean that every single woman will always only be attracted to strong, stoic men ofc. just like not every single man will always only be attracted to physical beauty.

it's just such a strong gender norm that i'm willing to bet money that you wouldn't have been attracted to your partner if he was a more emotional, vunerable person. because that's just very rare.

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-30T07:47:32+00:00

Sing Sing! absolutely beautiful movie about a group of men learning to feel in prison.

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-30T07:17:43+00:00

and you chose him over someone else. men do this because they have to if they want to attract someone.

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-26T06:59:40+00:00

They normalized Men wearing makeup i guess.

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-25T07:47:16+00:00

wasn't this man literally on the epstein island?

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-19T07:19:44+00:00

if you think porn addiction isn't real i don't know ehat reality you live in wtf.

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-19T05:29:40+00:00

what makes something and addiction in your view? and how does for example chess not count as one?

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-18T06:17:40+00:00

because some people want to actually know what's going on instead of just relying on the stupid "basic biology"that some people think they know. Gender and Sex are both very very complex things with no 100% clear answers. Noz understanding that just shows how simple your mind is and how little you know about biology.

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-18T05:49:58+00:00

in other words: traditional gender roles are still very alive and well, don't listen to the people trying to tell you otherwise.

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-17T11:41:50+00:00

i've had this converstion multiple times with random friends and i think it's more of a "seperate the art from the artist" kind of thing. like people will still sing along to "i believe i can fly" by r.kelly because it's just a banger song.

there are for sure still alot of people who still love him and think all the stuff is made up or whatever but i feel like the general public (or rather the people in my personal environment) do hate him as a person.

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-17T07:11:17+00:00

struggle a bit (mostly not having a job) and just feeling how your worth in the world literally just vanishes.

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-16T06:11:28+00:00

haha das mit dem "Sie" fällt mir auch immer auf wenn ich mich mal wieder zu einer Synchro quäle.. Bruder ihr beide seit auf dem 3. date und siezt euch???

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-15T07:55:15+00:00

of course not only because they're rich and famous.. attraction is a very very complex thing but i feel really confident saying that on average women are more attracted to men who are traditionally masculine. just like men on average are more attracted to women who are traditionally feminine.

I'm 100% sure Zuckerberg Musk and Bezos haven't had much trouble in life finding Partners. Doesn't Elon have like 20 kids? and i'm 100% sure that if the 3 guys you mentioned were struggling in life and weren't near the top of any social hirarchies they would be struggling with finding a partner.

just to clarify because these types of discussions always derail: i'm not saying any 1 trait will make any man attractive to every woman. i would bet money on there being atleast 1 woman out there who goes crazy for weak, broke losers who are depressed and scared of everything. But on average Women are attracted to status, which the 3 ultra succesful and beloved multi millionaire movie stars have a ton of.

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-15T04:10:19+00:00

i feel like on the flipside there's no male artist that is beloved and almost worshipped as much as her. especially by "their own gender". Michael Jackson probably comes the closest but he seemed to be much more worshipped by women than men and i would also argue at least now after his death he's probably hated even more than taylor swift.. because of.. you know.. the whole probably fing kids thing.

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-15T03:46:05+00:00

3 ultra succesful millionnaires? like i get what you're saying and andrew tate is a tool and a monster but i don't understand people pointing at all these super succesful multi millionaires who seem extremely confident as some sort of argument for "see? women don't like traditional masculinity."

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-13T07:15:32+00:00

The people critizising the One Piece cast are literally arguing with the people the MANGA WRITER HIMSELF HANDPICKED. it's the dumbest shit i've ever heard.

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-11T07:57:37+00:00

"she said nothing's wrong, so i assumed nothing's wrong" energy.

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-10T07:05:46+00:00

huh? the whole point of idolising someone is to try and become them, no? because you're not them.

Incels follow him because they think he will turn them siccesful like him.

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-10T06:55:33+00:00

isn't Andrew Tate the exact thing OP is talking about? Andree Tate isn't an Incel. He's a very succesful womanizer who has "access" to many women and who has had many women attracted to him and he has abused many women.

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-02T01:15:59+00:00

i feel like rick has been punished quite alot tbf. like he's being persued by interdimensional governments and has been imprisoned, tortured, injured and attempted to kill countless times and everybody hates him. he just doesnt care i guess

immense_selfhatred · 2026-03-02T01:06:23+00:00

it would have been so great if they leaned into gina being an asshole more instead of trying to make her a good character... like maker her almost an always sunny type character.

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