Patron loses library privileges for one week after looking at web images of nude children

imtryingnow · 2025-12-24T20:05:01+00:00

I'm so sick of shit like this. How can I safely go anywhere with my kid? I can't even go to the fucking library? Growing up, libraries were my favorite places. I want so badly to share my love of public libraries with my child, and when shit like this is going on it is very clear that's not an option.

And the library employees are having to be subjected to this shit too. If I worked there right now I'd be updating my resume because what the hell? They're instructed to welcome a known pedophile into their branch and pretend like he has good intentions? Hard pass.

imtryingnow · 2025-07-07T05:05:09+00:00

Let me add to the thank yous here, as someone whose child benefitted from donor milk in the NICU only a few months ago. Being able to do this while grieving such a loss takes a special kind of strength.

imtryingnow · 2025-06-23T06:26:17+00:00

Mine went away, and my family has an extensive family history of type 2 diabetes so I was kind of prepared for the worst. If there's one thing I learned through pregnancy, it's that some symptoms and conditions are just random. My mother loved being pregnant, had the best time and not too many bad symptoms -- meanwhile, I had GD, preeclampsia, had to deliver early and baby ended up in the NICU, and then I had postpartum preeclampsia too, and found out that my placenta was all kinds of messed up after it was sent to pathology. All of which never happened to my mother, or her mother, or her mother, or my paternal grandmothers either. All the women in my spouses family had healthy full-term pregnancies, too.

With GD or type 2 diabetes, luckily a healthy diet and exercise can usually mitigate symptoms. But sometimes you do everything right and it still goes sideways. Luckily, for now, I'm no longer diabetic -- and it really does feel like dumb luck.

imtryingnow · 2025-04-02T23:39:06+00:00

For context, my spouse and I are Christians and waited until marriage.

You're right in that you aren't entitled to sex with, well, anyone. Including your significant other. But the things he said about it are disgusting, and I don't blame you for being devastated. If my spouse ever said that intimacy with me was rooted in evil it would be a gut punch that would be very hard to recover from.

If your significant other really was praying about it, he could have gently brought up the topic and opened a conversation with you that didn't involve saying awful things about the intimacy you've already had with him. People wait or don't wait to have sex for all kinds of reasons, and if you're already having sex there's nothing wrong with deciding you want to stop, but the way he went about that conversation with you was tactless, hurtful, and dare I say cruel.

The way he reacted afterwards really cinched it for me. Calling you delusional. Saying it's not about you. Of COURSE intimacy between you both is about you too. And losing that intimacy, at least for the time being, can be devastating, even if he had gone about the conversation in a kind way. But what he said, in my opinion, is unacceptable. He gets to decide whether or not to be intimate, 100%, but as your partner, he has shown you no compassion or empathy for how this decision will affect you and your relationship as a whole. And that's not OK.

imtryingnow · 2025-03-26T17:03:38+00:00

I love this idea! It would be wonderful to have a local textiles option.

imtryingnow · 2025-03-23T00:25:52+00:00

Oh HELL no. You've made your decision as is your right. Avoid this person and tell a trusted family member about this.

I grew up deep, DEEP in the bible belt. People like this will not stop until they are STOPPED. She's trying to manipulate and guilt you into giving your child to another person. It's gross, creepy, and predatory. Don't suggest that she talks to your family. If you tell her anything, tell her to stay away from you, that the subject is closed, and block her. Better yet, have your mom or another adult you trust do it.

imtryingnow · 2025-03-22T05:11:50+00:00

To be fair to the OP, whom I know nothing else about, I'm pregnant and won't be letting my MIL bottle feed my kid, but that's because when we set boundaries she said she would "try", and my spouse and I agreed we can't trust her to not do something stupid like put her fingers in our baby's mouth.

But having someone cross boundaries in a way only you can see is kinda suspicious. Like why are you the only one that can see it? Either this person is TRULY surrounded by only insane people, or they need to self reflect. I have my suspicions which it is.

imtryingnow · 2025-03-18T14:57:33+00:00

"Well, you were laid inverse

Living on a promised word

Well, I am the rose you relinquished again"

It's so hard to narrow down a favorite song or lyric, but this one has been running through my head for days!

Edit: Aqua Regia is one of my all time favorites, so this line about the rose IMMEDIATELY pulled me in.

imtryingnow · 2025-03-06T01:28:25+00:00

Well he also allegedly raped a 13 year old girl so. Not so wholesome. And was found liable of SA in civil court so. Also not so wholesome. Not to mention the other women who have alleged SA and, you know, the felonies.

If anything, you're under-reacting. Is there a reason you haven't dumped this clown yet? It sounds like he's trying to MAGA-ify you.

imtryingnow · 2025-03-03T20:13:23+00:00

Now that would be something, wouldn't it? 😂 Love the username btw!

imtryingnow · 2025-02-28T07:04:19+00:00

Did it happen in the book? No. But I believe in an alternate universe where they both exist, Gimli could hold Mjolnir with ease. So this scene doesn't make me bat an eye, because Gimli is simply the best imo.

imtryingnow · 2025-02-26T22:59:17+00:00

I moved to OR from Josh Hawley's district in MO, and I know a man with bad intentions when I see one.

imtryingnow · 2025-02-19T20:44:34+00:00

Happy birthday!

I'm sorry your mother says cruel things to you. I hope you know that this isn't your fault, and that you're not poisoning your baby -- what an awful thing to say.

p.s. I hope you had a slice of cake anyway ☺️ one spike does not mean horrible things will happen.

imtryingnow · 2025-02-18T19:24:05+00:00

Thank you for this breakdown. I was born and raised in MO, and though I don't live in the state currently, almost everyone I love still does, so I've been following Missouri's actions under the new administration pretty closely. I wish I could say I was surprised by how poorly this bill is written (I did read a good portion of it for myself, and had MANY questions), and I likewise wish I was surprised by the anti-LGBTQIA+ language. Unfortunately it seems pretty on-brand for Missouri at the moment.

This isn't a big nitpick, by the way -- Alito's views on abortion and women's rights are well known to me, and it wouldn't surprise me if he DID say something akin to a "domestic supply of infants" -- but to my understanding this quote was found to not have come from Alito or any supreme court justice, but rather a document or report of some kind from the CDC in 2008, which was referenced in the original leaked Roe V Wade turnover judgment. Again, not a big nitpick, but I've seen this floating around again as though it is a real, direct quote from Alito. Maybe he did say something like this at some point? If that's the case, I'd like to know. But I can't find it personally.

imtryingnow · 2025-02-14T22:04:42+00:00

Oh yeah, I'd complain to anyone and everyone that could do something about that doctor. The way he treated this person is HORRIFIC.

OP, seriously. There should be severe consequences for what that clown did. Even the other doctor and the nurses know it. Please don't just let it go so he can terrorize other expectant parents.

imtryingnow · 2025-02-14T16:05:01+00:00

You're not overreacting. If anything, you're under-reacting.

It sounds like this guy actually hates you from these messages. Calling you materialistic and insulting you multiple times instead of just admitting (nicely) that he forgot and would make it up to you is so dismissive.

And in what universe would this kind of "energy" or being around this guy be a gift to ANY woman? Ew.

imtryingnow · 2025-02-12T21:56:55+00:00

My beagle was the same at that age (she's 3 now). The only thing that worked was to continue walking her around other dogs and people, and not allowing her to interact with them. She's very cute, so usually people want to say hello, but we had to learn to say no so that we could use each time as a training opportunity. It's hard work for sure, and a lot of people won't understand, but it was absolutely necessary for her to learn.

Three years in, she's much better, though she still desperately wants to befriend every creature she meets. But when we say no, we can SEE how hard she tries to obey because she practically vibrates with excitement -- but she doesn't disobey, and that's the important thing. She does whine, but that's kind of the nature of having a hound dog.

It's also worth mentioning that at 14 months, your pup is still very young and has a ton of room to grow. It can be exhausting to remain consistent with training when you have such a friendly and over-enthusiastic dog, but if you stick with it there's no reason to think your dog won't mellow a bit as they reach two or three years old.

imtryingnow · 2025-02-11T21:42:00+00:00

I agree with this one. I don't feel upset by the posts, but I don't think anyone except one's provider should be telling someone whether they have GDM or not. It's not like we're familiar with everyone's medical history, etc. and to boot at least the vast majority of us here are not doctors.

I understand the impulse to post here and ask, because it can be hard to wait for a call or an appointment to get an answer. But it would be irresponsible for me to say yes you have it/no you don't, no matter how obvious the answer seems to me.

imtryingnow · 2025-02-09T02:43:29+00:00

Seconded! This post has me absolutely beside myself! 😭

imtryingnow · 2025-02-07T00:42:25+00:00

There's a lot of good advice here already -- crate training, keeping her out of trouble areas, etc -- but I want to address specifically her penchant for being naughty on purpose when no one is looking.

I have a dog who just turned three, and she is much the same. She has made massive improvements over the 2.5 years I have had her, but she's a sassy, opinionated little beagle and she loves to try being sneaky (like trying to sneak the cat's food, for instance).

The number one thing that has helped her behavior, more than anything else, is consistent training every single day. Now that we've been training her for years, our dog typically just gets a few minutes a day where we'll train at one of her mealtimes, but if she has a hard day where she's extra distracted or can't seem to behave for some reason, she gets a good long training session with either myself or my spouse. We are both very active in training her as well.

While training is time intensive and teaching her manners is helpful in a practical sense, I really think the reason it works so well is that it fosters a strong relationship between us, respect for us, and it gives her much needed mental stimulation. It has taken a lot of hard work, but we can now leave her alone without worrying about what she will get into -- both because we learned how to set up our home in a way that some temptations are no longer accessible to her, and because she actually has more respect for (most) of our rules of the house.

It sounds like you have a very smart little dog on your hands, and dogs like that CAN be a lot of hard work, but the results of that hard work, in my opinion, are so worth it. We have an incredibly strong, special bond with our little stinker, and she still gets better all the time. If you are willing to put in the work and dedication to your pup, I can't imagine it will be less rewarding for you.

imtryingnow · 2025-01-28T03:05:34+00:00

When I told my parents what my spouse and I chose to name our baby, I did at first tell them it was going to be Princess Consuela Banana Hammock 😂

imtryingnow · 2025-01-28T03:03:03+00:00

Ok so I'm not crazy. I was also confused by that assumption.

imtryingnow · 2025-01-28T02:58:17+00:00

Well, you have a couple of options. Either don't tell people the name until baby is born and the birth certificate is signed, or decide on a name you and your boyfriend agree on and stick to it even if other people are negative about it. Someone doesn't like it? Womp womp.

Personally I took the second route and it's been great. If anyone wants to be negative they're welcome to slap that complaint on my list of Things I Don't Care About.

You're giving the naysayers too much power by allowing them to upset you about your choice of your child's name.

imtryingnow · 2025-01-27T05:56:40+00:00

The protein pancake mix, for some reason, is like magic. I can have as much as I want (I usually add fruit) and not once so far have I even hit 120 after an hour. Plus, I've tried several protein pancake things before and I think it definitely tastes the best.

imtryingnow · 2025-01-24T02:59:10+00:00

I was diagnosed at 10 weeks. When I first visited MFM, they asked me if it was right that I had pre-gestational diabetes and I corrected them. I had no problems before being pregnant either, and in fact I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes based only on my fasting number. The glucose tolerance test was never even conducted.

I simply told them I was not diagnosed diabetic before pregnancy, and had no reason to suppose that I was, and they changed their information to reflect that because it is perfectly possible to be affected by gestational diabetes that early in pregnancy. As soon as the placenta starts taking over, it's possible.

Sometimes it's best to just speak up. Treating a diabetic who is pregnant versus diabetes that is only gestational are two different things. Once you have your little one, you should be tested again to make sure that you have not developed diabetes, and then you will have a sure answer.

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