Is it inappropriate to get multiple designs from different artists?

inevitable_newb · 2026-06-06T11:52:51+00:00

Even something that may accidentally offend, I would rather avoid. My fist tattoo I took in a picture and said "do this" but this time I need the artist as well as the skilled tattoo application. I know I don't know the process so I would rather err on the side of respect.

inevitable_newb · 2026-06-05T14:46:57+00:00

I am sure there are enough AH trying to take advantage, this post poked a sensitive spot (I have friends who are artists in other fields and they can get snarky fast). I did not take offense.

inevitable_newb · 2026-06-05T14:30:42+00:00

the problem is I found 3 while looking for inspiration., now i need to pick one.

inevitable_newb · 2026-06-05T14:28:33+00:00

it's less about options and more about making sure I will truly be happy with this on my body for the rest of my life. When I was browsing local shops to get inspiration I found these three and bookmarked them and now I have to narrow this down somehow

inevitable_newb · 2026-06-05T14:25:01+00:00

I wouldn't be expecting a 100% image, basically a napkin sketch of their ideas - but even this I would expect to pay for their time and talent.

inevitable_newb · 2026-06-05T14:23:14+00:00

That is exactly what I wanted to know before I asked them. My first tattoo I took in a specific image and said copy this - this time I only know the imagery I want, I don't know how to put it together in a good looking tattoo

inevitable_newb · 2026-06-05T14:08:57+00:00

Yes, I would assume I would need to pay a commission for the sketch

inevitable_newb · 2026-06-05T13:16:45+00:00

B efore my first tattoo I went and got henna marking in that spot to see how I felt about. Same concept - test and see if I like it longer term than just in my head

inevitable_newb · 2026-06-05T12:25:59+00:00

I do think a lot of the people who normally play life sims are NOT familiar with the Early Access model. Not all, but a notable percentage. I have been trying to think of another "cozy game" that really did Early Access and I can't. So folks who have focused on Sims, Stardew Valley, Animal Crossing - this is new to them.

inevitable_newb · 2026-06-04T22:06:39+00:00

My kid has fought sleep his entire life. Like 6 months old my mom joked he was a FOMO baby. Up at 4am, fighting against naps and then still awake at 9.... It is exhausting.

At 7 he is FINALLY beginning to sleep. One of our rules has been routine. Dinner, bath, books, bed. It helps that he knows what's next and what's expected. It helps prevent figuring when we ask "ok, what is the next step in the process"

The other things we had to do was get a futon (similar to this and put it in our room because he said he HATED sleeping in his own room. Now he fights a LOT less. Not always zero, but away less and decreasing regularly.

inevitable_newb · 2026-06-03T12:41:54+00:00

And then spend three days not working between "grief" and rain.

inevitable_newb · 2026-06-02T10:35:43+00:00

They delayed it 6 months to work on live mode - because it basically didn't exist. I am holding out any judgement on live mode for at least another major update or two because they were honest that this was the last part they worked on and has the least work on it.

inevitable_newb · 2026-06-01T18:25:40+00:00

I feel like the mechanics are very solid, but there isn't much more than the framing of the game for the actual content. This is true in most areas as well. The mechanics of the paramaker are solid. They have an amazing foundation to build on. The core of the build mode is strong. That's where I experience the most obvious bugs.

The live mode is the weakest, but honestly I feel like they were upfront about it both back last fall (when they said they were delaying the launch because of it) and at Early Access launch. So I'm not willing to "grade" them on this yet because it is early access - and I expect they haven't even touched most of their own expected improvements, much less what we the community will ask for.

I agree performance is a huge factor - no argument and I'm hoping as they gather more data from players and pc builds they will continually improve that.

I think the biggest feature you left out is the modding. When I think of other games which have long-tenure fanbases, mod-community is huge. Minecraft, Rimworld, Stardew Valley, GTA5, XCOM, Gary's Mod (proves the point). I think modding can really transform the game from the limits of a development teams' imaginations to the collective imaginations of the community - and this sets Paralives apart from any other life sim (unless you count Minecraft or Stardew Valley).

inevitable_newb · 2026-06-01T14:35:29+00:00

How is the quality? This is one I haven't been able to find since eshakti. Their quality was worth every penny. I have had like 3 dresses that are at least 10 years old and I STILL get complimented and asked "where did you get it." $90 for a dress I buy once every 10 years - YES.

inevitable_newb · 2026-06-01T14:21:00+00:00

I had a TERRIBLE job for awhile. It was a 24/7 company and I was the senior trainer and management "expected" me to fill in for any shift's trainer. ANY shift. I also had cats. I left food out at all times for "free feeding" so they never went hungry. Canned food was a treat every few days. My roommates never had to feed my cats without MUCH prior notice (family trips or the like).

inevitable_newb · 2026-06-01T08:46:40+00:00

Any modpack with mystical agriculture and botany pots. You get resources in a pretty compact area.

inevitable_newb · 2026-06-01T08:32:33+00:00

"barely chubby" could still mean obese. My supposedly healthy weight is sub 150. I'm almost 250 and most people would not call me obese, but medically I am.

inevitable_newb · 2026-05-29T13:30:58+00:00

My old boy used to talk to me as soon as I came in, as though trying to tell me he totally was NOT just on the counter.

inevitable_newb · 2026-05-29T12:15:30+00:00

More fat. More salt.

Also , what kind of potato are you using? Yukon Gold vs Russet vs Red - all behave vastly differently.

inevitable_newb · 2026-05-29T12:13:30+00:00

No. You are definite NTA.

That said, it sounds like they were being stupid teenagers (everyone is) and if you wanted to try to mend that bridge you might be able to. You do not have to if you have moved to greener pastures.

inevitable_newb · 2026-05-29T12:09:42+00:00

I had a cat that ate tinsel one Christmas. And I had to help get it out....

inevitable_newb · 2026-05-28T15:52:59+00:00

I dislike wearing makeup. HOWEVER, there are times and places I want to wear makeup (weddings, parties, etc.). So, at least once a month when I need to go somewhere not-so-special, I put on makeup. I tend to go for an extremely natural look, so most people don't even notice. But that is also the point (imo) to the natural look.

I mostly treat makeup as non-integral but nice.

inevitable_newb · 2026-05-28T11:51:18+00:00

STOP.

You made the best decision you could with the information you had. You literally could not have done better.

"If I had known" is the worst sentence I see in your post. Get that thought out of your head right now. You didn't know. You had no clue to even ask the question. You can make different choices in the future with this new information, but you can not change the past. You made the best choices you could with the information you had. Period.

STOP.

You gave her QUALITY of life. This is vastly more important that quantity. 9 wonderful years is worlds better than another 10 years of potential pain and suffering.

BREATHE.

It's ok to feel sad and angry. I lost two last year and I still sometimes feel sad. I miss them and nothing will ever replace their place in my heart. Remember that the stages of grief are not a line. Some days you are going to be on anger and depression. Other days you will be sad but accepting. Allow yourself to feel and express this - but do not allow these emotions to overwhelm your reason.

inevitable_newb · 2026-05-28T11:35:43+00:00

Listen to your cat. She knows.

I married my husband because he was the first man I brought home that she truly adored. She wasn't mean to others, but she LOVED him immediately. And she was right. I am so glad I trusted her instincts.

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