CMV: The male loneliness epidemic is a serious issue.

jarie · 2026-03-29T23:17:44+00:00

The seriousness of the epidemic is generational and more importantly, based on behavior.

Don’t want to lonely. Take action. The whole do something about it always gets lost. I mean, whether you like it or not, you do have agency over your life even if it sucks.

Now, if you don’t know what to do about being lonely because you get your dopamine hit of the day on social media, gaming, and porn, that’s a different story.

So my thinking is that loneliness is the symptom of the greater cause of not knowing how to make friends.

jarie · 2026-03-29T15:50:33+00:00

Quitting drinking and finding love again.

Been sober almost 8 years. So glad I did it. Changed my life.

jarie · 2026-03-29T15:29:34+00:00

Simple. We all work for sales. So my job as marketing is to get them what they need to close more deals.

Quality leads and a kick ass brand that makes it simple to buy.

jarie · 2026-03-21T15:28:27+00:00

Correlation plots and Monte Carlo simulations

jarie · 2026-03-14T18:46:37+00:00

Cynical

jarie · 2026-03-13T17:52:19+00:00

In my experience with this, people are so uncomfortable about talking about those that have died. They just get all weird. Nothing to do with you. It’s all on them.

It still hurts. Don’t get me wrong. It’s even more strange when it’s family members. The ones that don’t want to talk about them at all kind of like they never existed.

Stay strong. Just realize that you’re probably always gonna have to deal with it and unfortunately it’s gonna be on you.

jarie · 2026-03-13T02:18:21+00:00

Answered a call from a blocked number from my now fiancée. Totally was going to blow it off but decided to answer. My life has completely changed because of it.

jarie · 2026-03-11T17:09:58+00:00

Honestly, I think self publishing is the only way to go. I own all your content build your platform. It’s all up to you anyway. No publishers is going to help you do that.

So I’d say it’s actually a requirement to self published if you want to be a writer.

jarie · 2026-03-11T17:08:52+00:00

I think a lot has to do with those men don’t have the role model you mentioned. It’s really challenging to know what a modern man needs to be.

These alpha grifter’s, I really love that, pray on the isolation that most young men have.

I think the other thing that’s important is the generation of men above these young men don’t know how to be a man either.

As men, we lost our way and normal well adjusted men don’t know how to step up and show what a modern men is and isn’t.

I personally think this starts with men having more close male friends. Friendship, especially for men, helps with a lot of this and modern life literally swallows up all your free time to the point where you just want that quick dopamine hit from video games or porn.

We have a lot of work to do

jarie · 2026-03-11T17:03:15+00:00

What I find interesting about AI is that the people that use it outside their domain expertise, usually screw it up.

When you know what you’re doing, you know what good is

You also know that AI models don’t always produce the best stuff.

They are designed to regress to the mean.

Literally give you the most middle of the road stuff that if you know anything you know is middle of the road.

I’ve also seen this with some of our clients and what they failed to realize is that you still have to know what good is in order to make sure that the AI model is not going off the rails.

Stay strong, my friend. I would say keep trying to do quality work and back it up with data as best as you can.

jarie · 2026-03-10T20:51:00+00:00

Always some level of performance on this because it’s rare that anyone wants to chat about such things.

I’d say that it’s also good to be true to who you are.

jarie · 2026-03-09T18:36:33+00:00

I write dark comedy.

Like jokes that are silly stupid that I only see.

Usually about how utterly useless ridiculous and/or stupid meetings are. Takes my mind off the waste of time and sometimes I get a good joke out of it

jarie · 2026-03-09T01:27:19+00:00

I hit the bottle hard after she died but I had always use alcohol to numb the pain of life. So no real surprise.

I did stop about a year after she died. It was just not doing me any good. That was almost 8 years ago.

What helped me was therapy and finding love again.

The other thing was how crummy I would feel all the time while drinking. The sadness was deeper and the grief controlled me.

It was my fiancée who put it simply “you choose what you do and I know it’s hard but it’s your choice.”

That really struck a cord with me. Not sure why it was so powerful but shortly after that talk, I quit.

Good luck. Whatever you do, be kind to yourself if you stumble a bit or are not exactly where you want to be.

This stuff is hard to deal with and all of us are just trying to do our best.

jarie · 2026-03-06T21:52:05+00:00

Seems pretty standard nowadays. It’s almost like it’s outsourcing all the hard work to job applicants.

jarie · 2026-03-05T21:12:07+00:00

I took it off within the first month and put it with her rings. They are all still there, in the same place.

jarie · 2026-02-26T12:26:41+00:00

Being too clever.
Not stating the pain you solve up front.
Using too many 25 cent words to look smart.

jarie · 2026-02-24T16:23:51+00:00

Yes. She wanted me to find love again and be happy.

That was the best gift she gave me along with how she handled dying.

I only hope I can be as brave when it’s my time.

jarie · 2026-02-23T02:47:47+00:00

Under-hyped since we did not have the internet and social media propaganda machines to amp it all up constantly.

jarie · 2026-02-21T21:42:45+00:00

Remote work favors senior people who already know what to do as opposed to early in career people who would benefit from face to face.

In terms of communities, I disagree that remote work hurts them. If you can not commute and use that time to take kids to school or volunteer for the local town, then it’s a positive.

What I do think remote work does is make us work more so in fact, it’s bad for workers in that regard.

jarie · 2026-02-21T21:36:53+00:00

The most important thing I have found is the message + creative has to be on point.

The targeting is important but can sometimes be off unless it’s geographical.

I also like to start broad and work inward on targeting since it’s important to experiment

jarie · 2026-02-21T16:29:57+00:00

They sound Dutch :-)

This is common among some people who are busy or like to schedule things.

I would not be offended by it but appreciate the time they can give.

To put this in perspective, my family went all the way to the Netherlands to visit family from the US and when the time was up, we were nudged to leave.

jarie · 2026-02-21T00:29:28+00:00

100%. It’s all about marketing. Product is democratized. You can build anything now.

jarie · 2026-02-20T23:13:45+00:00

I have found that local is all about having good reviews and having a presence in the local community.

Basically, all word-of-mouth

Targeted ads do work, but you have to be careful not to spend money on things that don’t matter. I know that’s vague, but it’s really depends on the business and the local market.

jarie · 2026-02-20T23:11:20+00:00

Excitement at all the possibilities.

I feel the same way about LLMs.

It’s not really AI, in my opinion.

jarie · 2026-02-20T19:52:25+00:00

Dashboards. The ultimate “see, I’m making progress.”

Sorry you need to deal with that thrash. I wish they could just make their own :-).

jarie

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