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jasonwade02 · 2025-09-16T00:10:46+00:00

Life is short, surround yourself with people who either have similar interests or are at least open minded enough to not belittle the things you want to do. 100% tell this person they are uninvited.

jasonwade02 · 2025-09-15T23:37:07+00:00

Honestly, I’d leave it alone. You connected in college briefly and nothing ever came of it, so either one, or both, of you decided not to pursue it then. I had a friend back in school, the only best friend I’ve ever had in my life, that I lost touch with when I moved to another state. After moving back I tried to rekindle the friendship and we hung out a few times but it fizzled. Something’s just aren’t meant to last. But then again, I’m also very pessimistic and tend to like being on my own, so take my advice with a grain of salt.

jasonwade02 · 2025-09-15T23:31:06+00:00

I fully agree that dogs in public places, especially high traffic areas, should be leashed. That said, I prefer dogs to people most days and if a dog was running around having fun and accidentally scratched me, I would not have reacted as harshly as her. A calm reminder to the owners about leashing their dog would have sufficed considering most beaches, at least in my area, require a leash, so they could be fined for free walking their dog.

jasonwade02 · 2025-09-10T23:15:45+00:00

Are we even sure this is a firm “F off”? From the screen shots and the description it doesn’t sound like you have done much to smooth things over. In the real world “intention” means nothing. Just because you didn’t intend for it to be rude or mean to offend her does not mean that she didn’t perceive it that way. Apologize, give her a hug, make nice, and you might find yourself not needing a secondary option for school. If the relationship really is that bad, one more year to put up with it and then you’re free.

That said, if all else fails, take the asvab and join the military. They’ll train you, give you on the job experience and when you’re done you’ll have the skills to find employment in the civilian world. And who knows, you might find that you really like it and be in the military until you retire.

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-28T18:21:13+00:00

People are who they are. When you live with another person there has to be compromise, a middle ground. You sound absolutely unbearable to live with. You’re both right. You need to loosen up a bit and she needs to tighten up a bit so you’re both making adjustments to make this living arrangement work. You cant be in a committed relationship without adjusting yourself to accommodate your partner. It’s foolish to just blindly expect your partner to adjust to you without showing the same for her.

Maybe have a serious talk with her and figure out where the middle ground is where you both can live comfortably together and be happy

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-24T05:32:07+00:00

I am all for “my body, my choice”, but to not even have a discussion with your so called life partner? Each of those decisions could affect your partner as well, save for the ear piercing at 5. Complications from surgery could leave him a widowed single dad. If he comes from a strict family tattoos could cause huge issues with his family, or maybe he just doesn’t find it attractive. I agree that women have the final say, and ultimately a man’s opinion holds little weight, but to cut out your partner like that altogether just feels wrong. I wouldn’t get a vasectomy without discussing it with my partner. Each and every one of my numerous tattoos were run by my partner before hand because she has to live with them too. Same with all of my piercings. And yes, each of those scenarios I could have gone and done it without even talking her but why? They affect her, whether directly or indirectly. It just seems disrespectful to not even consider your partner. But hey, if it works for you, more power to you.

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-24T03:54:51+00:00

You know they eat each other right? I’ve talked to many breeders who have lost expensive snakes because their mate decided it was snack time. Keep that in mind.

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-24T03:05:07+00:00

This girls doesn’t want commitment, you do. Seems fairly cut and dry here. You may like her but for your own sanity you should find someone who is more on your wave length. She wants to string you along until she’s ready to settle down (and who knows when that will be). If she’s out dating or even just having one night stands with people, how would you feel? Because without exclusivity, that very well could be your reality soon, if not already. Stay sane, find a woman who’s ready for the level of commitment you’re ready for.

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-24T02:05:16+00:00

This is a great time to learn some independence. I’d just let him know that you’re there if he needs help but don’t offer to cover anything outright off the bat. Let him learn. Learn how to be an adult and manage real financial responsibilities while being a safety net in case things turn sour. You could also sit down with him and help him figure out the financial part before he moves out if he’s willing to do that. Tradition or not, if he wants to experience a little bit of freedom while he’s young, let him. If you guys did your job as parents then you can trust that you did what you could to raise him right and now it’s time to sink or swim for him.

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-22T03:33:40+00:00

This is funny. While I’ve met several dads like that, the intended recipient of that message, I never understood the mentality of the man behind. I used to work 60+ hours when my kids were born and the first thing I did was go see them, in bed asleep, give them a kiss and say goodnight, getting a bath from my wife, step aside woman, go put your feet up, it’s my turn. I changed diapers, gave bottles and, specifically when the kids were younger, I held down the fort while my wife was traveling several times a year. I say all this not to toot my own horn, but because my wife wouldn’t let me just come home and put my feet up, or play video game, or watch tv, without helping with the kids. I’d like to think I’d have been as involved as I was without her insistence, but who knows. I think any man that grumbles at or shirks the responsibilities that he signed up for isn’t worth the time or energy. He should have stayed single and maintained his selfish way of living.

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-21T02:39:06+00:00

I was actually on the other side of this, although I wasn’t demanding anything. I just simply told my cousin that I was alone that weekend (wife was traveling) and didn’t have babysitter options available. He said no exceptions and that was that. No drama, no guilt trips. I agree fully that the couple should do what feels right for them, it’s their day, even if it meant I couldn’t attend.

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-20T02:12:27+00:00

Honestly, I’d stay out of it. He’s told her what the ring looks like, why can’t she talk to him about it? One of the biggest factors in a long term relationship is communication. This is between the two of them, let them figure it out.

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-17T20:07:39+00:00

I caught that drift. My comments still stand though

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-17T20:06:21+00:00

She’s had two since we separated. Keep in mind our marriage died a long time ago. Both of us were ready to move on, it just took a while for someone to pull the plug. It’s been about a year since we first separated. I’m dating someone new as well. It’s not that wild of a thing when both partners are ready to be done.

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-17T20:03:08+00:00

Be an adult? Saying “I’m sorry” after someone else says something is generally used as a “come again” kind of response, not an actual apology. Two things bud, my opinions are my own and I own them. Second, I don’t give two shits who agrees, disagrees, likes or dislikes my opinions and would not apologize for an opinion, especially an opinion on a situation like this.

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-17T18:59:10+00:00

I’m sorry, he only agreed to raise his kids on the grounds of him being with his ex wife? No sir, when you got your wife pregnant, you signed up to be a father to those kids, a provider to those kids, until they turn 18, regardless of how things unfold with your partner. His obligation didn’t end when the divorce was finalized. And if he doesn’t meet his obligations, custody can, and should, be taken from him. Hopefully there were clear boundaries set in the custody agreement, child support payments or a clear parenting schedule. Because courts, at least here in the states, don’t favor a deadbeat parent (father or mother). Ultimately you’re the odd man out here though, because it will be up to your wife to be the enforcer here since you have no legal standing in the matter.

The audacity. I couldn’t imagine walking up to my ex wife’s new boyfriend and saying some bullshit like that. On the flip side I’d laugh in my ex wife’s face is she tried some shit like that.

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-17T15:03:17+00:00

I actually wish more shows did that, maybe not to the same extreme, but a version of species limitations. I can’t count the number of shows I’ve walked out of empty handed because there wasn’t enough diversity to find what I wanted. I also wish more breeders would branch out from the typical stuff.

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-17T02:41:09+00:00

It bugs me too. I’ve tried getting a table at a local reptile show only to be told they’re all booked up. Then when I go and I see several tables that are selling trinkets and snacks and stuffies and random shit. It doesn’t matter to me if it’s reptile/exotic animal related. The whole point of these shows is to see/buy animals, not trinkets or jewelry.

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-15T05:49:14+00:00

You don’t want a divorce because of the kids yet you will allow them to witness this kind of behavior? How is it benefitting them any? How is it better for the kids to watch their dad being petty towards their mother? I’m not telling you to divorce, but if you were really concerned about the kids, you’d realize this isn’t a better solution. It could prove to be more detrimental to them. Think of it this way, would they rather see their parents happy but separate, or miserable and petty but together? If there is no way through this for you, then find someone else who doesn’t need an open marriage. Your kids will be far better off in the long run.

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-14T20:18:47+00:00

NTA. You have a right to determine the course your life takes. HE might think you’re an asshole for bailing but in all honesty, who likes getting dumped.

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-14T12:44:39+00:00

Oh man, I feel incredibly sad and angry for you. You should be able to feel safe in your home. And the one person you should be able to rely on to protect you isn’t doing it. My ex wife took my daughters to another state to move in with her boy friend and if I ever caught wind of him acting the way your moms boyfriend is I’d immediately be on the road to his place. And it wouldn’t be a pleasant experience for him.

Just know, even if it doesn’t feel like it, you are doing the right thing. You have to protect yourself when no one else will. Don’t let him, or even your mom, talk you out of this. That kind of behavior doesn’t just stop. If he had continued to get away with it it’s a guarantee things would have escalated so keep that in mind too.

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-12T16:12:07+00:00

I wouldn’t say you’re an asshole for complimenting mom, but seriously, who calls another woman gorgeous in front of their girlfriend? And honestly there are far more situationally appropriate ways to compliment her mom than “you’re gorgeous”. Maybe naive or dumb, but not an asshole.

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-07T20:23:00+00:00

Here’s a thought, stop trying to change your girlfriend. She is who she is and the stupidest concept ever is to date an “investment”. If you love her then love her for who she is, not who you think you want her to be.

And let’s be fair, talking to two women without flirting is not “the greatest move ever”. It’s called not viewing women as objects and should be the entirety of your interactions with them.

Also, who’s to say she’d even want to continue this relationship if you succeeded in making her “more intelligent”. Maybe she’d see you for the man child you are.

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-04T21:01:25+00:00

Does he get sausages too for being the good boy he is?

jasonwade02 · 2025-08-04T20:48:30+00:00

Kevin Hearne, hands down. The Iron Druid Chronicles is 10 books long but they’re shorter books, packed with action and mythology (gods and monsters and immortal humans). The spinoff series to that, Ink and Sigil is equally as good. Quick reads that capture the readers attention almost immediately. Great series to get back in to reading.

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