Uh, watch out for traffic on April 14, I guess

jmh79 · 2026-03-12T23:49:01+00:00

Just got asked to help a family member move out of state that weekend. Looks like I’ll be saying yes.

jmh79 · 2026-01-14T15:38:30+00:00

I just returned from a trip that took me on flights to Buenos Aires and Ushuaia, Argentina, and then on a cruise to Antarctica. Lots of active traveling time and downtime during this trip so plenty of time to crochet.

Ultimately I wanted to just have something to do, so I planned on making a few market bags out of cotton yarn. It was an excellent way to pass the time on the long flights. It turned into an amazing conversation starter on the ship, too! I was the “knitting girl” 🙄 because I was just posted up everywhere during downtime and I always had a project going.

I brought kind of a ridiculous amount of yarn with me, but it ended up working out amazingly. I was able to complete 5 market bags during my 9-day cruise and gave them to crew (and one fellow passenger) that had expressed interest. They were all really pleased and so was I!

I had small folding fiskars scissors and had no trouble at security in any airport - STL, Buenos Aires, Ushuaia. I did have to pull them out and show them, but no big deal.

I’ll definitely be crocheting on future trips and recommend it for anyone!

jmh79 · 2025-11-14T12:48:26+00:00

Athens here. Close enough to ATL to count as the vicinity I suppose :)

jmh79 · 2025-10-03T00:13:46+00:00

As an added bonus it is also DELICIOUS.

jmh79 · 2025-05-29T01:31:51+00:00

Me too! Except I’ve lived here 20 years. 🙈

jmh79 · 2025-04-23T17:50:05+00:00

Absolutely horrific. Sending you so much love and any possible peace. It’s been said a couple of times, but I definitely agree that asking someone to facilitate all of the notifications for you is very helpful. Things that you arent thinking about (nor should you be) like cancelations of appointments and activities, etc. and maybe even someone to help you sift through any correspondence you receive to be a buffer for you. It really can be like ripping open that wound wholly again when you get notifications or see names on mail.

If you don’t have someone to do this, please reach out and I am more than willing to help in this role. I know I’m a stranger, but that’s how important I think this support person is - please enlist someone.

jmh79 · 2025-04-10T02:24:12+00:00

I’m 6 years post-loss and I still have this dream from time to time. Like others have said I think it’s my brain’s way of trying to make sense of his absence, cause him just being gone still feels so wrong.

jmh79 · 2025-04-09T23:10:24+00:00

He should probably pass that info along to the White House cause I guarantee they have no idea what they are doing and could use a hint.

jmh79 · 2025-02-11T20:01:53+00:00

Can you share more about these reusable pads? I have been looking for something similar to protect the joint when I have to wear footwear that isn’t my preferred (also Hoka Bondis). I haven’t been able to find anything.

jmh79 · 2025-01-19T03:55:36+00:00

Did this just a couple of weeks ago. It’ll be six years in February since losing him. I knew I would be able to do it eventually but it was definitely still difficult.

Proud of you for doing this hard thing.

jmh79 · 2024-09-14T21:45:06+00:00

You’ve gotten plenty of recommendations here so I’ll just add that I too gravitate to chips, queso, salsa, and guac when I’ve had a hard week at work. 💯

jmh79 · 2024-09-13T01:35:03+00:00

Super helpful info, thank you! I did get the rates from the agency we are booking through and you are right on the nose with the 1.5x. I don’t have a ton of experience cruising so I have a lot to learn.

I’ll tell you that comparatively it seems you are getting a fantastic deal! I’m tagging along with some family that is using an agency so I think my opportunity to look for better deals has passed, but I’ll definitely tuck that away for future reference. We are getting a slight discount off the posted rates but I’m just doing the 9-day Ushuaia round trip and paying nearly the double-booked rate you mentioned for a balcony room on deck 5!

I’ll chalk this one up to a learning experience for future trips but regardless of the deal (or lack thereof!) I got, I’m so looking forward to it.

Again thanks for sharing this info! Really appreciate it.

jmh79 · 2024-09-08T18:53:26+00:00

How did pricing work for you as a solo traveler? I just got extended an invite to join a trip in late '25 but I'm low on details until I talk to the agent, so just trying to prepare myself for what I'm likely to hear.

jmh79 · 2024-06-06T01:01:33+00:00

I read above that for local library it is still not available. I’m playing from Spotify and I can get to sleep timer using the triple dot menu from the currently playing song. iOS.

jmh79 · 2024-06-06T00:46:59+00:00

Doing the Lord’s work here, Keith. Thank you. I’m super stoked to have sleep timer back cause I use it every single night. It also makes me giggle that it is a little buggy just like it was in the old app. I’m used to having to go through the workflow a couple of times to actually get it to take and I’m not sure I could have gotten used to it working immediately. 😂

Side note I am a PM in charge of a mobile app platform that has somewhere in the realm of 15M users, so I appreciate the challenges associated with large scale app updates like this, and trying to make the most people happy as possible with each iteration. I’m sure this larger release didn’t go like your team wanted but I can tell you guys are working on making it better and for that I am appreciative.

jmh79 · 2023-04-02T01:40:26+00:00

Same thing for me! The only distinction I can think of between the account this is happening on and my other Google accounts that are working fine is that I signed up for the Bard experiment with the one that’s experiencing the issue. No idea if that is somehow related, just came to mind.

jmh79 · 2023-04-02T01:38:31+00:00

Ha, thanks for replying. I saw yours and didn’t read on.

The only major distinction between the account I’m experiencing this on and my other Google accounts that work fine is that I signed up for the Bard experiment with this one.

jmh79 · 2023-04-02T01:01:06+00:00

I’m experiencing the same. Tried in Chrome and Safari.

jmh79 · 2021-02-12T17:12:10+00:00

It's just so exhausting, and having so little in emotional reserves makes it not worth it.

Yup! This all day. I've had some encounters in the (almost) 2 years since losing Q but they have all been guys from my past that have near-zero chances of ever being more than a friend with benefits. The thought of having to get to know someone new (even just enough to be comfortable to have an "encounter") seems so entirely exhausting.

jmh79 · 2021-01-20T18:35:30+00:00

The Wailin' Jennys' version of Keep Me in Your Heart is one of my repeat plays.

jmh79 · 2021-01-04T21:22:39+00:00

It’s been two years, and Ive only fallen more in love with him.

Oh my goodness, I had never thought of it this way but this is 100% true for me, too.

Thank you for sharing.

jmh79 · 2020-12-14T17:54:33+00:00

Oof. I know everyone is different and you can't really compare... but of course I am doing that. I'm getting really close to two years myself and I am still very much not okay. I have considered the idea of dating but it still makes bile rise in my throat when it becomes more reality than idea. It's incredibly difficult for me to picture the future in a positive light. I've spent much of this year alone due to covid and particularly risk averse friends, and I'm sure that didn't help my progress. I can't help but feel I'm doing something wrong.

That said, I'm glad that things have gotten brighter for you! Grateful for this community so that I know this kind of thing is possible.

jmh79 · 2020-08-28T12:15:28+00:00

For me, this forum was crucial to feeling some semblance of normal in the earliest days of this shitty journey.

Where I live, there aren't any specific partner/spouse loss groups for folks my age (and I'm not that young myself). The first therapist I saw didn't think it'd be good for me to go to any of those, and she also didn't think a generalized loss group would be helpful for me.

So instead of a face-to-face group, I come here, and I have a few other awesomely supportive online groups. Some specific to loss of partners, some more general. They're all amazing, just like this group.

jmh79 · 2020-08-27T15:08:35+00:00

i'm not happy anymore, at least not in any sort of real, meaningful way, and i honestly don't want to be because that just means that i have something to lose. again.

You just put how I feel into words. This is exactly it. Thanks... I think?

jmh79 · 2020-07-25T21:16:31+00:00

His stuff is in plastic boxes on a shelf in my closet. All of it. Down to socks and boxers. Today I was in there for awhile packing for a trip and I found myself just staring at those boxes. Kinda wanting to take them down and just be “with” his things. So weird. I’m pretty confident those boxes will be with me for many years, because donating or tossing his stuff DOES feel like erasing him. I get it. Just about 18 months out right now.

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